A talk on why attention doesn't mean someone wants to commit. The speaker breaks down the gap between showing up for someone and actually intending to build something with them, a distinction that matters in early dating.
Whether someone has the same intentions as you, whether someone has the same vision as you, whether they make a great partner. All of those things are the big things. Attraction, or let's say attention. Because when you have chemistry, you get someone's attention. Attention is not intention. And that is a big mistake that people make. We have the most amazing time together. We're so connected. That says nothing about that person's intention with you. What are they actually looking for? What's their goal here? And intention, even when there's aligned intentions, intention doesn't equal investment. You can have someone who says all the right things and I really want to be with you, and. But they can't back it up when it comes to actually being consistent, when it comes to progressing things with you, when it comes to making any kind of sacrifice, when it comes to exclusivity, they can't deliver. We make so many mistakes in early dating by thinking that we have all three of those things, when actually all we have is someone's attention.
