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Your Triggers Are Trying To Teach You Something

7 Aug 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, Melissa Dlugolecki reflects on how emotional triggers surface in both personal relationships and business contexts. She asks herself what she, her business, and the people she chooses to be with need, and notices feelings of fear and vulnerability. Rather than reacting explosively—something she observes many people do—she proposes holding and witnessing those uncomfortable emotions, then openly communicating them (“this is what’s coming up for me”). By doing so, she suggests that relationships and especially business act as catalysts for growth, revealing blind spots and prompting personal development.

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What do I need? What does my business need? And now all of a sudden I'm in a conversation of like, oh, what does this person I'm choosing to be in relationship with need? How do I show up that's considering that? Ooh, where do I feel more scared and more vulnerable right now? Because like, it's not just about me, you know? I'm not in full control. And then if I can feel that, and instead of like exploding, and a lot of people explode it or spill it into their business, their relationship, whatever it may be, it's just like, can I hold that and witness it? And then even better, can I talk about it and be like, hey, this is what's coming, coming up for me, you know? And then it becomes really beautiful. You know, that's why I think relationships are, are catalysts for growth. Uh, business is a catalyst for growth more so than anything, because they're going to show you things you can't see yourself.