In this candid vlog, Nathan Miller opens up about a year‑long slump in motivation and passion across his business, fitness, and personal life. He attributes his docility to an over‑emphasis on Christian‑based immediate forgiveness, which has turned his natural anger and assertiveness into a constant state of peace. Miller critiques his habit of comparing himself to successful people only at their current, comfortable stage, neglecting the relentless, often uncomfortable drive they exhibited during their rise. He argues that negative emotions—anger, resentment, the urge to prove doubters wrong—are powerful motivators when channeled constructively. Drawing on a podcast about masculinity, he distinguishes a "nice guy" from a "good man," asserting that a good man must be willing to stand firm and act when needed. Miller resolves to re‑ignite his "edge" by deliberately using these emotions, adopting bolder content, and embracing a more assertive stance while maintaining his core peace. The video serves both as personal therapy and a call for viewers to recognize the productive role of strong feelings in personal and professional growth.
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I've become increasingly and increasingly docile and passionless towards my craft, and this is something that I've realized recently. And this is a brutal, vulnerable video, um, for me, not something I usually make, but I just kind of want to be real with you guys. I want to build a better connection with my audience, and so I want to bring you guys through some of the raw thoughts that go through my brain, the emotions I have what even I think about on a day-to-day basis, right? And this is one of them. And over the past, I want to say, year, it's been at least a year, I've felt like this sense of, I don't know, passion, um, towards my craft, this intensity that I've, I used to have, right, has been lacking. And I've really been trying to figure out why that is. I've even been feeling it in my gym workouts. I've been feeling it in all different types of areas of my life that I used to be super passionate about, used to be super, super like just motivated and, you know, ready to take on the world and confident and bold. And I've just kind of withdrawn into— it's almost like a shell of myself. And I feel like I've gone recently, um, this past year into a loophole almost of complacency. Where I don't feel like I'm moving or becoming anything better. I'm not taking any big risks. And yeah, this is something that I've thought about. And it's not just about e-com, like e-com is a part of it, but it's— I feel like it's my posture towards life. And in my daily habits, it shows. In my relationships, it probably shows. In my work, it shows for sure. And so I've really— I've been digging deep and I've been really trying to figure out why is this. And I think I've actually realized what it is. I believe that for whatever reason, I don't know exactly why I did this or why I started to think this way, but I started to have a very negative viewpoint on having angst and having anger and having any sort of spite towards anybody, right? And as a Christian male, like, I'm a Christian, you guys probably know that, I talk about it openly on this. I seek to forgive, right? That's the first thing that I try to do if I have resentment and I have a part of me that feels some type of way about somebody, right, in a negative context. I try to forgive them as fast as I can. And as mercifully as I can. A lot of times I'm ignoring myself to do that, right? I'm basically ignoring my flesh, killing my flesh, and I'm like, you know, regardless of how I feel and how I want to react, I'm going to choose to act like Christ. And I think that is a super healthy thing, and that has led me with a lot of peace, but it has also, to the extent I've taken it, has made me docile and this peaceful person, right? This person who doesn't want to step on any toes, doesn't want to do anyone wrong, who doesn't want to have any negative, um, interactions, right? And that's just not something that a good man does. And I was watching this podcast with Chris Williamson and Matthew McConaughey, and they were just talking about masculinity, and it was really interesting to me because one of the things that stuck out that they said was that A good man, right, can't be nice all the time. A nice guy is always nice. A good man is a good man, but when the time comes, he's not such a nice guy. You know, when, when the push comes to shove, he's ready to act and he's going to stand firm on what he believes in. And that is something that I've kind of lacked. I felt like, I feel like I've just become super blurry. I've become a blob. I've become, you know, just like passionless because I haven't been standing on— I haven't been standing on game, bro. I haven't been standing on, on business. And this is something that I'm just kind of talking through and reflecting. And I don't know, man, like, I think what, what I've really done is I've seen these people, right? Because there's all these people I look up to, you know. You guys have seen Greg Lab. You guys have seen Hudson from Nathan Miller, obviously Comfort. Like, those are people I look up to. I look up to other people as well, like these philosophers, right? These people who do wonderful things. Like, even in certain aspects, I look up to people like Mark Zuckerberg and the risks he took and the mindset he had. And one thing you find with all these people is that— or one thing I started to do with all these people is look at where they were and not how they got there. And the thing is, I'm trying to get to where they're going or where they're at, and how they're acting now is not how they acted during that season when they were building. When they were building, they were relentless, right? They were fired up. They were using any possible way to motivate themselves to absolutely perform at the highest level they can. And one thing I've noticed, I have— I haven't been looking at what they did on that rise. I've been looking what they did when they're up here. You know, when they have already made it. Like, if you look at Warren Buffett and you look at what he's doing now, that is not applicable to your situation. If you're trying to invest, you need to look at how he started to grow his account. What were the daily things he did? What did he read? What books did he read? What information did he ingest, right? And that's how you figure out and break down how to get there. And that's something I've realized, like, I've completely undermined this massive motivating factor that I used to use on my rise because I've had my own little rise, right? I've had my own little come up where I'm in a pretty solid place and I don't have to worry about a lot of things. That leaves me with a lot of motivation. And I've realized that all this peace and all of this stuff I've gained, which is really healthy, by the way, which is not a bad thing, but I can't just— I shouldn't just neglect the other side of it. The motivating part, using negative negativity to fuel me. I think that is actually a good thing now, and I didn't think it was. I thought that any negative thought that was in my brain, any negativity that I had in my brain, I just needed to get out of there. Any comparison I had in my brain, right? Why am I comparing myself to people who have more money than me, have cooler cars than me, right? Who do, you know, bigger numbers than me, when that's not who I'm trying to become? I'm trying to become more like Jesus. That's what I've been thinking. And there's a truth to that, but also God has a plan for each of us in our individual lives. Like, God has obviously given me and put me along this path to become someone, right, in this area that I'm in. And so any thought that I've had that's been like, nah, that's— that goal, you know, that doesn't really matter as much, you know, that initial goal I had doesn't really matter as much— that's just cope, bro. Like, it's literally just myself coping and making it easier for me to stay where I'm at. And that's what I've realized. And I've lost this edge to myself. I really have. Like, I really have. It's something I'm working on. I've been working on for a few weeks now, but I've really lost that edge I used to have, bro. Bro, I used to go into the gym fired up, like full test, like maximal test, pre-workout, lifting, deadlifting 500 pounds, you know, like just absolutely fired up for life, fired up for the gym, fired up for my business, right? And yeah, sometimes I use negative emotion. Yeah, sometimes I use what people used to talk crap about me. Or when people doubted me, I would use that to motivate myself to do even better and to exceed and to push through. And now I've come like, okay, I've forgiven everyone, like I'm a peaceful person, like I don't hold any resentment, but I've lost that side of myself that has that fire. And that's something I've realized. I don't think it's a bad thing if you channel something bad and turn into something good. I think anger is not necessarily a negative emotion. It's how you use it. You know, if you're angry, right, anger can be very good. If you ever constantly repeating the same sin, same sin over and over again, it's good that you're angry at yourself because that's going to motivate you to actually do something to change, right? And if I was just like, oh, I'm forgiving, like, oh, it's okay, like, oh, I'll get better next time— no, like, I should be pissed, like, I should be mad, like, I should be feeling some sort of strong emotion that's actually going to lead me to want to change. And to actually start, you know, start tipping those dominoes over, per se. And so that's something I've learned, man, like something I'm going to be implementing more. I'm probably going to be a little bit crazier when it comes to content. I'm going to have a little bit more bolder claims. I don't really care because I'm going to stand on who I am, and I'm going to actually stand for what I believe in. I've grown up around people who don't step on toes, who don't proclaim things, who aren't bold, who aren't courageous, in the sense of like they're going to double down regardless of how you feel. I'm gonna be that person. And that's something that I've noticed, that if I wanted to get to this next level of my life and if I want to re— re-embark that fire and that flame, I need to channel these emotions and reignite that flame that was once within me. And so that's something I'm working on. And I just wanted to talk about this on the camera because one, it's therapeutic, and One, I'm hoping some of you guys can relate to this. Um, I think it's, it's anger is, is a very important part of a motivating factor for you and your come up. If you are trying to be peaceful and not have necessarily, not have any enemies, you don't have to have enemies, but to not have any sort of strong feelings, right? You're not going to make it very far because the people who are who make it the furthest, who do the most, have the strongest feelings. The Christians who save the most people, who do the most evangelism, right, they have the strongest feeling, they have the strongest urgency and faith, and they have the strongest like feeling that they need to, you know, obviously reciprocate the forgiveness that they've been given. And the people who make it the furthest in business have the strongest feeling that either one, people doubt them, or the strongest feeling that they need to prove themselves. Like it comes from some sort of like You know, maybe an insecurity, maybe something like that. So it's something that I've been thinking about. I thought was really cool and it makes a lot of sense. And yeah, I'm definitely getting back, back to the old Nate, back to the OG Nate. Screw this freaking— not that I'm not peaceful, I'm always— I'm a very peaceful person still, but to have that side of yourself, I think, is still important, to have your edge. Is very important. And so that's what I've been thinking about. But thank you guys for watching. This is just a raw video, and got some more videos coming out soon, so stay tuned for that, my guys. But peace, yo.
