A man describes forgiving someone who repeatedly wronged him and never apologized. Holding the resentment created a knot in his chest that vanished the moment he chose forgiveness. He argues forgiveness is essential for your own peace and future, whether or not the other person changes.
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What's up, guys? I don't really know how to start this video, but I did have something I wanted to talk to you guys about today. And that was a time in my life where I chose to forgive someone who didn't really deserve it or didn't even ask for forgiveness, didn't really know they were in the wrong or believe they were in the wrong or whatever you want to call it. And I feel like all of us go through something like this. No matter where you are in life, no matter what age you are even, like, there are going to be times where someone wrongs you, and there are going to be times where someone does something that really, actually bugs you, really hurts you. And it's going to, like, it's gonna suck. It's gonna suck. And then what happens is, right, this person, you know, in this instance, wouldn't ask for forgiveness, and they wouldn't really show a changing of ways. They wouldn't be different or act any different or necessarily deserve that forgiveness that you're offering them. And so what most people do in this instance, what I did was I didn't forgive, obviously. I, you know, hold resentment and kind of keep it in and just not even think about it because, I mean, why would I forgive them? Like, they are doing the same thing over and over again. They don't have any remorse for their actions. And they did hurt me and they did, like, cause me. I wouldn't say suffering, but I mean, they did affect me in a very negative way. And so this is something that, like, obviously happened to me. And what I. What I noticed when I. When I felt like this and when I did that, when I didn't forgive them right at first, I. I just noticed, like, this negativity and this bitterness inside me. And like, anytime I would, you know, ever think of that person, it was like. It was like almost a section of my life that I didn't want to even think about anymore because, like, I just had such a negative connotation and a negative energy towards that, that in that situation that, like, anytime I thought about it, it just brought me down so much. And it's something that, like, I try to just not think about. But regardless of how much I didn't think about it or how much I tried to, you know, shove it down or whatever, like, it still was inside of me and it still definitely had a grip on me. It still made me feel some type of way, and it still definitely negatively affected me. And it was like this, this. This anger that was, like, weighing me down almost like on the inside, no matter how, like, hard I tried to hide it, you know, and it sucked because it was someone that, you know, I was once super, super close to. And, you know, it was super, super difficult. And I feel like all of us go through this, right? All of us get wronged in some sort of way by some people. And honestly, they probably don't deserve for your forgiveness, like, whoever you're thinking about or whatever comes to mind when I'm talking about this, I think probably don't deserve your forgiveness. But do we all deserve forgiveness? Like, that might sound kind of like a ridiculous question, because I know a lot of people in their head, they think they're doing things well, right? They think they're a good person and they don't think they've done anything wrong. But I'm telling you guys, we've all have done something wrong to somebody. And it's really all perspective. And for whatever reason, I'll get it more into the whole perspective thing, but for whatever reason, guys, I do believe in God. I believe in Jesus. And I was really inspired by God and how he just forgives people. And you can be the worst sinner. You could be, literally Adolf Hitler. And if you ask for forgiveness, you will be forgiven. And that was so inspirational. Why does that make any sense? Someone like that does not deserve forgiveness. They've done so much bad. Regardless of your political belief or what you believe or anything, like, kill people is obviously a terrible, terrible thing. And it is like, crazy to even think that that kind of person could receive forgiveness. But then I thought about it more and I was like, what is, like, forgiveness? Like, why? Why do we do it? What is the reason behind it? And why did God. Why can God. And how can God forgive someone so bad? And the more and more I thought about it, it made more sense to me. And I just, like, notice, like, we all have our own perspectives, right? We all grew up with a certain teaching, certain parents, you know, a certain sort of dogma instilled into us. And a lot of these people who, you know, grew up in different ways, like, we all have our different way of life and a unique set of things that we've learned, unique experiences that form these opinions that influence our actions and whatnot. And God sees through all of that. And I started to realize that God just sees through all of that. And even if I can't really understand and grasp how he could forgive someone so bad and so evil, I know that God is above all things and that he is the wisest thing that has ever obviously existed. And he created everything, so he knows what's best. And, you know, he knows, like, it makes sense. For if God's gonna. If if of forgiveness, right? If I forgive people, like, that's one thing. But if God forgives people and it's from literally God, like, it's gonna be like, we're not gonna be able to understand it because we are not God. We have not even scratched the surface of the understanding that God has. So how can I expect to understand his forgiveness? And so I. I, like, wrestled with this for a while, and then, I don't know, one day I think I was just driving my car and I was thinking about the situation and how I haven't forgiven that person. And I felt, you know, I didn. How I felt, and I don't like how it made me feel. And I was like, you know what? This person doesn't deserve it. This person, you know, is still doing the same things and repeating their same problems. And what I'm gonna do is I am just gonna forgive them. And I said it then, and I, like, I think I probably said it out loud or wrote it down or something at the time I was like, you know what? I forgive X this person. Even though that they do this, even though that they repeat these actions, I'm gonna continue to forgive them and show. And I'm telling you guys, ever since I did that, I have. It, like, opened me so much. I felt so much peace. Like, it's. It's crazy the amount of peace I felt because for so long I had this, like, knot inside of me that was kind of just like getting bigger and bigger and bigger. And then now that knot just completely vanished because I have forgiven this person. It sounds like, ridiculous, and a lot of people are not going to get this, but, like, forgiveness is the only way, you know, if you have. If you're holding these bitterness and this resentment towards people, like, it's going to affect you, it's going to show in your outward, you know, what happens in your life. And I believe a big part of the reason why I've had success and I'm, you know, experiencing these great fruits of life is because inside I've taken care of these. This bitterness inside of me, and I've handled it. And now inside of me, I'm telling you guys right now, is a lot of peace and a lot of love and, yeah, sure, every hair. Now I'll have a bone to pick with someone and I'll hold something. But I always come back around to. And I've made it a habit of just forgiving. And it is such a powerful thing. I think it becomes very overlooked and like the last thing you want to do is be this person who dies. You know, you're sitting on your deathbed and when nothing else matters, when nothing else matters, when nothing else matters and you are just on your last final moment, you don't want to have this bitterness inside of. You don't want to be thinking to people like that, like, when I die, I want to just be super loving, super kind and you know, have taken the best parts of every relationship that I've had in my life and think of that. I don't want to think of these negative things. And that is how I feel now. I feel super, super peaceful. And I really, really encourage anyone who's watching this video to. If you have someone who, you know has wronged you and obviously, like, sometimes they do deserve to be forgiven, they ask. Other times, you know, they don't ask for it. Other times they ask for it, but they continue to do the same thing. Like you can forgive them. You don't have to, you know, necessarily continually fall into their trap. You don't have to associate with unnecessarily and like, continue to do the same things you always did. But you should forgive them and you should understand that they have a different perspective. They grew up with different parents. You don't know what they went through. Like, you don't know what's going on in their head. Maybe they just have a different, like, neuro, like, makeup. You know, God has a different plan for them. God has a different whatnot. And you could be in the right still, like biblically in the right and still forgive people for who are in the wrong. And it's really, it's not that complicated. And I promise you guys, if you choose to forgive, you will feel such a peace and a peace that is like, undescribable and it will reflect in your life and it will begin to bear these fruits. And I've seen this myself because I don't hold any resentment towards anybody. Even people did me wrong, like, or people who, I don't know. Like, I got cut from baseball in, what was it, like the 10th, 9th grade or something like that. I got cut two years in a row. It sucked. And a lot of people I feel like would hold bitterness towards those coaches that cut them and like, you know, make up excuses and stuff. But I'm not, I'm not one bit, you know, resentful of them. Like, I'm. I think everything happens for a reason. If I didn't get cut then, like, who knows if I would have done this career path I'm doing now and had the success I've had. So just, just. I urge you guys to forgive. I'm gonna stop yapping, but if you guys like this content, you know, make sure you subscribe and leave a thumbs up. I love making videos like this. And yeah, choose to forgive, guys, and you will feel so much.
