In this 10‑minute Hinglish motivational talk, Paridhi Dhingra shares three practical steps to develop "unlimited" confidence. She begins with a personal story of extreme low confidence in school, explaining how a mentor taught her that confidence is the key to success. She defines confidence as an outcome that must be built, not a passive trait. The first step is to develop concrete skills in any domain—whether speaking, fitness, sales, or finance—because confidence follows competence. The second step is to expand one’s comfort zone gradually through micro‑improvements, illustrated with gym weight‑lifting and incremental income affirmations, emphasizing that the brain resists large jumps but adapts to small, consistent increases. The third step is the "give to gain" principle: by giving confidence to others—through advice, motivation, or support—one reinforces their own confidence. Throughout, she uses anecdotes, examples, and a persuasive tone, and concludes with a call‑to‑action to join her Platinum Membership Masterclass for deeper guidance on expanding comfort zones.
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Today I'm going to show you in 10 minutes only, 3 simple steps that you can take tonight onwards to build unlimited confidence in your life. Now, why should you listen to me for confidence? Listen, 25 years ago, I was the lowest confident person in the world. I can tell you one thing, I had such low confidence. I still remember in school, in 10th standard, I was on 3rd floor. And I remember during a New Year, on the 1st of January, a girl came to me, shook my hands like this, like she literally took my hands like this, and she said, Happy New Year, and I was so nervous. I ran down to my friend saying, "लड़की ने हाथ मिलाया." Those were the days, and that is how my level of confidence was. But today, the reason I am where I am is because one of my mentors taught me. He said, "Mitesh, the one thing that can make you a millionaire, the one thing that can make you happy, give you unlimited success in your life." Is your confidence. I've worked on my confidence again and again and again. I still work on my confidence, and I'm going to show you the exact same 3 things that I do in my life to build my confidence. What is really confidence? Let's understand that. To build your confidence, you must understand that confidence is an outcome. It is not something that you get. It is something that you build. Write this down. Confidence has to be built. It is an output. It is an outcome. Of three things in life, write down the first thing that can help you build confidence. That first thing is build your skills to build your confidence. Let me explain. If you are not confident in giving an interview and you're just waiting for confidence, the question you have to ask yourself is this: Why? Come on, I can see you. Repeat. Say why? Why should I have confidence? What skill do I have? If I don't have the skill to give interviews, what do I expect? That I will do some affirmations, I will create a vision board, I will go to the interview, suddenly I'll have confidence. अरे ऐसे कैसे आएगा? We are not going to have confidence if we don't build skills, and that goes to every area of life. How many of you love my confidence in the way I communicate with hundreds and thousands of people? In DMP, every day we have more than 1,000 people attending. How do I have so much confidence in talking to people? It's a skill. I started with 5 people, then I started with 10 people, but I built the skill. I did not simply expect 1,000 people to come to my program. So tonight, instead of cribbing, complaining, and crying that why don't I have confidence, I want you to give me that promise that you're going to work on your skills, whether it's in the area of health Or relationships, or money, or career doesn't matter. In my life, every time I have put on weight, you should see the level of confidence I have. I always tell Indu, "चिंता मत कर, एक महीने में ठीक कर दूँगा।" How do I have so much confidence? I've built the skill to motivate myself. I've built the skill to lose weight. I've built the skill to maintain my diet. I know that I have the skill, na? So I'm not scared of failing. Today, if I lose all the money in the world, cancel, cancel. But even if I do, I have the confidence I'll build it again because I've learned the skill to sell. So do you promise that tonight you're going to work on a skill? That's step number one. Step number two will give you more answers about step number one because everybody says, but Mitesh, it'll take so much time to build skill. It is so difficult. The step two is mind-blowing. Write this down. Don't go out of your comfort zone. Expand your comfort zone. How many of you have heard this saying? The more you live out of your comfort zone, the more you will succeed in your life. Listen, you have tried going from your personal experience. You've tried going out of your comfort zone thousands of times. Have you not? Have you or have you not? You have. Has it worked? Haven't you given up after some time? You have. So what should you do? अरे don't go out of your comfort zone. Expand your comfort zone. Human brain is wired to live in comfort zone. So if you want your brain to be confident, expand the comfort zone. Should I give you an example? Think of it this way. When you go to the gym, what is your current capacity to build weight or to pick up weight? If right now you go to the gym and you pick up a dumbbell and you had to do something as simple as dumbbell curls, how much weight can you pick up right now? Right now, comfortably. Tell me comfortably. How much is it? Come on. It'll be about two kilos, five kilos, ten kilos. Some of you, depending on your body weight, right? Whatever is your comfort zone, comfort zone. So like my comfort zone, let's say is five kilos. Okay. Should I go out of my comfort zone in the gym every day and pick up directly double ten kilos? No. I should pick up five kilos. Okay. And then today I will only do with five kilos. And if you ask a really good gym coach, he will say micro-improvements. Micro-improvements. Tomorrow, you will come and you'll do 5.5 kilos. So what are we doing? Expanding comfort zone. In the next 5 days, your goal is to be comfortable not with 5 kilos, but with 5.5 kilos. And then in the next 4 or 5 days, your goal is to be comfortable with how many? 6. Six kilos. See, some of you are saying ten kilos. Are relax, wait. Don't be in a hurry. Don't go out of your comfort zone. Expand your comfort zone. Let's take an example in money. Let's say your current income right now is fifty thousand rupees or one lakh rupees. Whatever is the current current income, and you're suddenly making goals and affirmations for five lakh rupees a month. What's your brain going to say? पागल हो गया क्या? मितेश कुछ भी बोलता है तू सुन लेता है। Now that is because you've not increased your comfort zone, you're going beyond your comfort zone. So what do you do? Make an affirmation from one lakh to one lakh twenty five thousand. Ask yourself where do you feel comfortable? Example, whatever is your current comfort zone, whatever is your current comfort zone in income, say that number right now. Current income. Let's say today I'm making one lakh. So say that amount right now. I am comfortable making one lakh. Okay. Now say I am comfortable making ten lakhs. देखो कैसा लगता है? नहीं है ना comfortable. अच्छा लग रहा है, but comfortable नहीं है. Right? So now say I am comfortable making one lakh ten thousand. So increase by ten percent. Say the number up by ten percent. Come on. Still comfortable? Very good. Go ten percent more up. I am comfortable making one lakh twenty thousand rupees a month. Still comfortable? Very good. Check. Check करो. If you think that after one thirty Doubt आ रहा है। रुक जाओ। Now say this affirmation for the next ten days. Why? Everybody take your hands like this. Say, "Expand my comfort zone." If you expanded your comfort zone slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly, don't you think getting to one crore, ten crores is also easy if you do it comfortably? And if you want to do it with me, I hope you've already gone through my. Platinum Membership Masterclass where I teach you step by step how you can expand your comfort zone. In that one lesson, you'll get so much clarity in life about what's the purpose of your life, how to expand your life, why are you stuck in your life. It'll be mind-blowing. If you haven't done it, make sure that you use the link below, click on it, register it, and find out how you can also expand your comfort zone and also discover the purpose of your life. Okay, but now let's move towards 3rd step. What is the third step of building confidence? The third step is this. Everybody take your hands like this. Come on. So what if you're virtual? Come on, do it with me. Take your hands like this and say the best way to gain confidence is give confidence. Simple. Give to gain. Give to gain. I'm telling you. Every time you gave confidence to somebody else, you slept very confidently that night. How many of you agree? You know, one of the reasons nowadays many people want to become motivational speakers— you know why? They can sense that when they motivate other people, something inside them also feels really good. They get motivated. Do you also feel that sometimes, that when you help other people, you feel that you became very strong? That's true, and it works, and it works for me too. So what will you do tonight? Give confidence to gain confidence. Remember I said in college times, if even though you did not have good relationships, were you not excellent at giving relationship advice? In fact, are you not confident at giving weight loss advice even though you may be struggling with weight loss? Yes or no? Are you not confident at giving consistency advice even though you may be inconsistent? Yes or no? Yes, it's okay. Give and gain. Do you promise to do that today? And then listen to the DMP Experience of Confidence as many times as you want to remind yourself these 3 things again and again and again. And keep coming back, keep practicing again with me on a regular basis.
