In this bilingual (English/Hindi) coaching conversation, Paridhi Dhingra and law‑of‑attraction coach Mitesh Khatri explore why some people repeatedly attract partners or friends who display "red‑flag" behaviours such as cheating, emotional volatility, and manipulation. They argue that attraction of such people is not random but reflects the individual's internal "capacity to be cheated" – a combination of emotional weakness, lack of self‑responsibility, and unclear self‑identity. When a person vibrates at a "red" emotional frequency (instability, irresponsibility), they notice and draw similar red‑flag individuals. Shifting to a "green" frequency – cultivating emotional strength, taking responsibility for one’s own wellbeing, and maintaining clear personal values – naturally attracts healthier, stable relationships. An analogy is used: a vegetarian refusing to eat fish for a lucrative client illustrates staying true to one’s values despite external pressure. The dialogue emphasizes that stable self‑perception yields stable partners, while unstable self‑perception attracts unstable people. The video ends with a typical YouTube call‑to‑action encouraging viewers to subscribe and apply the discussed techniques.
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Something about me is attracting people with me who are cheaters. I say you only attract cheaters in your life if you have the capacity to be cheated. If you don't have the capacity to be cheated, you'll never attract people who are cheaters.
Nowadays when you see youngsters, you know, when they are liking, they've started this hot and cold method. They make someone feel too good, they love bombard them, they're making them feel happy, you're laughing with the person, but on the other hand there is equal fights And there's equal ups and downs. So that is आपके time पे like you know when you this thing तब लोग सोचते नहीं थे इतना। Now people strategically put it into place that ऐसे treat करेंगे तब this girl will fall in love with you.
Correct.
So how do you identify those kind of relationships in your life? And that's not just with a partner, that happens with a friend who wants to get something done from you also. So those relationships are very toxic. But you know आजकल हर एक चीज़ toxic और हर एक चीज़ non-toxic है। कुछ भी red flag बनता है, कुछ भी green flag बनता है। तो वो distinction हम कैसे निकाल सकते हैं?
Okay, so here the distinction if I'm constantly attracting people in my friend circle, in my intimate relationships, people who constantly go through this ups and downs with me. Observe there's a consistency here. My friends are also like that. My intimate partner is also like that. I'm facing the same thing with my extended family members. Who's the common version here?
Yes.
So consider that Everything this is happening to me is not happening to me. I'm attracting it. Something about me is attracting people with me who are, let's say, cheaters. I say you only attract cheaters in your life if you have the capacity to be cheated. If you don't have the capacity to be cheated, you'll never attract people who are cheaters. I remember once somebody told me that cheaters are people who are like hunters. And hunters can sense the energy of a prey, right? Like, if they see weakness, they can judge weakness that I can kill this guy. Just like that, cheaters can sense energy of people who are willing to be cheated. So if I'm not responsible and if I'm not strong internally, I am going to attract those people. Now, how do I avoid those people is not the right question, because those people are always around me. Like you said, the red signals and the green signals are always there. That's the wrong question. Question is, why am I attracting those people? Because somewhere I am vibrating at that red color, so I'm seeing so many red colors outside. So maybe I need to consider vibrating at the green color, which means what? Upgrade my own emotional pattern where instead of me feeling irresponsible all the time, can I become emotionally strong? Can I take responsibility for me not being cheated in my life next time? Can I stand up for my own self? Then I'll automatically attract the right people. And if I have stability about the way I feel about myself, I will attract people who are stable towards me. Why? Here's an example. Think of someone who eats non-veg, and then I'm someone who doesn't eat non-veg, I eat vegetarian. But the person whom I'm meeting is a very important client to me. He's going to give me a million dollars, and he says, eat fish today. Are you gonna eat fish? Why not?
That's my value. Like, I'm not going to break it.
You see, when you're clear about who you are, You won't allow other people to change who you are. But when you're not clear about who you are, you can easily allow people to come and shift you emotionally, not just physically. And that is why when I'm not clear about what kind of a relationship that I have with myself, and if I'm unstable about how I feel about myself— where in the morning I'm very happy with myself, in the afternoon I'm judging myself, in the evening I'm feeling lonely with myself— so what kind of people am I going to attract? Stable or unstable? So unstable people attract unstable relationships. Stable people attract stable relationships. Unstable people will come close to them, but it will be the same as non-veg khayega, nahi khonga, and they'll go away. Want to learn more such amazing techniques on law of attraction? Subscribe to the channel right now and then hit the bell icon and go through my videos in detail. Learn a lot and tell me how and what results you have already started achieving. Okay, see you soon in the next video. Bye-bye.
