Change How You Live!

30 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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In this short motivational segment, Paridhi Dhingra challenges the common life script of "have → do → be" and proposes the opposite order: "be → do → have." She argues that true fulfillment begins with embodying the desired state—such as happiness or being a good person—rather than first acquiring external outcomes like marriage or love. By first cultivating the internal feeling of being, the subsequent actions (doing) become effortless, and the desired results (having) naturally follow. The talk mixes English and Hindi to illustrate everyday aspirations (e.g., wanting a good partner, becoming a loving husband) and demonstrates how shifting the mental focus to "being" can create a flow state where actions and outcomes arise without struggle. The speaker emphasizes enthusiasm, urging listeners to feel satisfaction now, trusting that the doing and having will align automatically.

Most people live as have, do, be. So the world is living as first I want to have
X,
X, then I will do, then I will be. पहले मुझे एक अच्छा सा इंसान दिला दो, then मैं शादी करूँगा, हाँ, फिर मैं अच्छा पति बनूँगा, then मेरी ज़िंदगी में प्यार आ जाएगा, हाँ, then I will feel love. Doesn't work like that. It's be, do, have. What I made you do right now was be,
right?
Be happy, feel that satisfaction. Hell yeah! Now the doing, effortless. It has to flow. As you said, go with the current. This is going with the current, will happen to you now if you are being that. And because the doing happens effortlessly, the having is effortless, which means you sit here, it will come to you.