The Regret Pattern That Keeps Successful People Stuck (Even After Achieving Everything)

What do you feel about your mom?

Only one thing. I hope she was here to see what I'm creating, what I'm doing. I just wanted to make her proud.

You're struggling with a combination of regret and grief. What you really want is not the 2 homes. Not the two dogs and not the two children. You want is an emotion you're looking for, but because you don't know that is the emotion you are looking for is why you're not getting it.

He is the voice of the city. As the senior radio presenter at City 1016, Parikshit Balochi has built an empire on projecting high energy and constant success. In today's deeply personal episode, Parikshit confronts the profound grief of losing his mother, a loss that triggered a heavy pattern of regret and a grueling 19-hour work cycle. But in just one transformative hour, watch coaches Meetesh and Indu as they guide him to a breakthrough. Parikshit finally releases his burdens and steps into true freedom.

Crisis and opportunities don't make you feel anything; they only multiply what you already have.

मैं वो moment enjoy नहीं कर पाया। दुनिया में एक ऐसी country में हूँ जहाँ मेरा dream था मेरे को pronounce करना नहीं आता था।

So your perspective is very balanced in life, which means too motivated, you're totally demotivated. Everything you want from four years from now, you will feel as if you have it at the end of this hour. Welcome to Manifest with IMK, second episode. Today our guest is the biggest RJ in Dubai, and he's someone who has dealt a lot with grief. Imagine, 3 years ago his mother expired, but in spite of having 3 years gone, every day he misses her. And he says that every time he thinks of her, he cannot stop crying. And he cannot hold a conversation talking about his mom for more than 2 minutes because his throat gets choked and he's not able to stop crying. So he avoids that conversation. And that is why today's episode is about transformation of grief within 60 minutes. So if you're someone who's dealing with grief of any kind, or your friends or family is dealing with grief of any kind, watch this. And when you watch this today, please make sure have zero interruptions for full 1 hour, and I'll tell you why. As you are watching Parikshit go through this transformation himself, I want you to believe I'm not talking to Parikshit, I'm talking to you, and I want you to go through that transformation right now. So when I do an exercise with Parikshit, I want you to do that exercise as if I'm doing it with you. So before we start this episode, will you make me a promise? Create an intention with me right now that whatever grief you are dealing with right now in your life, that is taken care of at the beginning of this call, right now during this video. Make that decision. And when we start the conversation with Parikshit, we are also starting with setting an intention of what he wants to achieve by the end of this conversation. I want you to write down what is your intention at the beginning, as if this video has already finished. So be ready to manifest the best part of your life today. Parikshit told me very clearly that he's such a happy human being that for him, words like anxiety never existed before all this situation. But after his mother expired, he started realizing what is anxiety What is this feeling of missing someone so much that you can't tolerate the feeling, you can't bear the feeling? Today, when he goes through this amazing transformation of not only healing through that but realizing that he's much above that, and now when he can talk about his mom peacefully at the end of this video, maybe you can also talk about something or someone As comfortably as he can at the end of this video.

He's

playing with the cat. Crazy. I genuinely am telling you, I was here.

Not many people even know the term human design.

भाई ये किसका ही आलू कुछ है?

Yeah. अरे नहीं यार। चल

Done. So, बोलो भाई। भाई मैं तो Let's start with the manifestation of let's say this conversation is done. Okay. एक घंटा हो गया। हम्म What did we achieve?

Yeah, I I know I'm at a very good place in my life. ठीक है? But I'm not able to enjoy them.

So start saying Exactly that as it is done. That till yesterday, or until this coaching, I was not able to enjoy every day in my life. But now suddenly I feel that I can enjoy every day. So what else would you want to happen after the call?

मेरे दिमाग में ना अच्छा manifestation में थोड़ा बहुत believe करता हूँ ना I also you know before sleeping I have a couple of affirmations I say and I I know that things are working out for me and I मैं वो सब believe करता हूँ लेकिन मेरा जो एक vision है ना मुझे जल्द से जल्द अचीव करना है। मेरा विज़न एक एक बड़ा विज़न है यार। but the problem is I never start. I want to start.

Okay, so let's manifest that at the end of this call before you sleep today you would have started.

That's it.

Before sleeping start is done. Whatever is that action? Do you want to define the action?

अच्छा explain to the action to me. I have a life. तो मेरा ना एक life है दिमाग में. ठीक है वो लाइफ मेरी गोल है क्या मुझे ना एक एक बड़ा सा घर चाहिए टचवुड टचवुड आई ऑलरेडी हैव अ हाउस लेकिन मुझे और बड़ा घर चाहिए ठीक है दो बच्चे चाहिए दो कुत्ते चाहिए और अपनी मर्जी से उठूं अपनी मर्जी से जाऊं बढ़िया गाड़ियाँ हो एंड इट्स नॉट अबाउट मनी इट्स फॉर द लैक ठीक है मेरा गोल है कि मैं पांच घंटे काम करूँ लेकिन लेकिन I work for myself. Correct. Because you love working. That's the one.

Correct.

कि enough हो जाए मेरे पास.

Correct.

कि एक एक you know just not money but you're not saying the lifestyle and the life.

So think of it this way how technically speaking if you had to give it a timeline which you must have already to some extent right?

Yeah.

How far do you see this goal right now?

Four years.

What if I tell you guaranteed by the end of this hour you will feel as if it's now? We'll close the gap for

you. Let's go.

Okay, that's one promise. Okay. So intention number one, you're able to live your life happily the way you really want to every day. And everything you want from four years from now, you will feel as if you have it at the end of this hour. Intention number two. Intention number three about your mom. What would you like to achieve?

Oh my God! This is the same thing where I told you that I want to be happily discussing her. Like when I discussed नहीं कर पाता। मैं How long ago was that

when

your mom died?

3 years ago. Okay. And were you with her, or—

I was here.

You, you were here and she was—

all of a sudden it happened and I just got a call.

And so you were close to her?

I was, I was very close to her. And, uh, with her also, now it was, it was a relationship I have. It was— still I do. Um, there are times where I still send her a voice note on her WhatsApp. I do.

So end result would be you're talking about her For five minutes long, yeah. Telling me details about her without feeling choked.

Yeah, yeah. Hundred percent.

Right now, if you were to start talking about her before the coaching call, how sure you are that you'll get choked?

Depends. अभी मेरे को मैं कोशिश करूँगा ना करूँ। मैं पूरी कोशिश करूँ।

नहीं, मैंने ये थोड़ी बोला कि ना

करो। हाँ। The reality is what the

reality is. अगर है

तो है। Because मेरे को ना मेरे को एक एक also the thing that kind of Worries me about myself is I don't want people to feel pity towards me. I'm a self-made man. I've come from literally the school जाने के पैसे नहीं थे। Today I'm whoever whatever I'm doing, तो मुझे ना वो रहा है कि हमेशा खुद ने सब कुछ किया, अकेले सब कुछ किया है। Happy guy, lucky guy, funny guy, वो सब मेरा image है। वो है भी। That's how I am. I don't want feel people to look at me differently. अरे यार! क्या बिचारा हाँ वो तो बिचारा अगर किसी ने बोल दिया

खत्म

बात कर

I don't want that

I don't want

that okay would you agree you wouldn't be able to stop the world from doing that if they had to

they had to yes

you wouldn't be able to stop no hundred percent but I think the problem is not that they would or they should the problem is I wouldn't be able to handle

it

so the problem is not the problem the problem is how you feel about the problem right

आपने बहुत जल्दी बोल दिया लाइन बहुत डीप है भाई

ये। So, correct. What if at the end of that call I could call you बेचारा and you could deal with? Wouldn't that be nice to have that freedom?

Yeah.

I don't feel so small that a word, a word I can't handle.

Fair enough. But it's just not बेचारा. You know what I mean? It's the whole story and the whole journey I've lived with my mum. Right? And, um, as a kid, as a kid, and since now, I hate, uh, being emotional, vulnerable in front of people. Also because that was when my, when my dad passed away. That was the first introduction of me being strong in front of my mom because I saw my mom in the hospital I saw my mom, you know, losing all of it all of a sudden. Like we had a we had a decent childhood. Like we were well to do. We were you know decently recognized in the community in in Jodhpur. But all of a sudden, all overnight was gone, was taken over by someone. So that introduction to me was हाँ ठीक है मम्मी कोई दिक्कत नहीं है तीन तीन साल तक फटे हुए जूते पहन के चले जाऊँगा। तो since then my introduction to being strong has been that and that's the only thing I know and I don't know anything else. It's not that you know what I'm saying right? It's just that हाँ I'll handle it. Losing your dad early is like shave करना खुदने सीखा। छोटी-छोटी चीजें बता रहा हूँ मैं आपको। It's just that when I become a parent I don't know what to like how a dad is or what's the template to be a dad.

Correct.

That's the whole situation with me. I'm just telling you what my background is. It's not that word.

So let's begin with something beautiful. Um, what do you feel about your mom?

The best mom ever, man.

Okay, so one is obviously you feel blessed.

Yeah, 100%. I think she's still watching over, for sure.

So you feel taken care of by her even now, right?

100%.

But when the tears happen, or when you feel choked, what do you feel?

Missing. Now I know where the water is for. यार Only one thing, I hope she was here to see that. What I'm creating, what I'm doing. Don't want to cry.

No, that's fine. But the feeling behind that is what? What is it? What are you feeling? What's the— yeah, what would you word it?

She worked really hard for me, and, uh, you know, for her even getting A six thousand rupee job in radio in two thousand six was a big deal. For her, it was.

But that she saw.

She saw. She couldn't even imagine what I'm doing these days or what I'm doing right now because she's still from Jodhpur. उनके लिए जो मैं मैं जब दिल्ली गया था पहली बार वही बहुत बड़ी बात थी। मैं जब दुबई आया वही बहुत बड़ी बात थी। Correct. तो मैंने उनको दिखाना चाहता था कि अब it's like I've got my own house. These are very small things for everyone, right? But for her, she'll be very proud. I just wanted to make her proud. Just hope she was here to see all of it. Okay. And she was a very like when I love the open-minded she had. I give you a story where My wife and I met here in Dubai, and I'll tell you how open-minded Toshita's mom, which is my wife, and my mom were. हमारी शादी हमने फोन किया कि यार हमको मेरे को लड़की पसंद आ गई। She called her mom saying मुझे लड़का पसंद आ गया है। They met for the very first time a day before our wedding in Jodhpur. For the very first time उन्होंने मुझे देखा। That's how much trust they have in us. That's my mom for me. Like मेरी मम बहुत ही वो थी यार कि you know I don't know how woke culture will react to this but she was like बेटा कभी झगड़ा हो गया है ना पहला थप्पड़ अपना होना चाहिए फिर देखेंगे That's how she raised me Right And that's what I love about her She was you know open-minded She was from a very small town जहाँ पे आज भी घुंघट पढ़ता system है but she was still open-minded and that's the vision Can

I ask you how do you deal generally with letting go? Not only with Mom.

Not good.

So I want you to know something beautiful. What you're feeling with Mom is not about Mom. I, I know hypothetically it feels that if Mom was here, you wouldn't feel this. Hypothetically it feels that way. I guarantee you it's not true. It's not true, and I'll prove it to you right now. You've been feeling like this before Mom went. The difference is Crisis and opportunities don't make you feel anything. They only multiply what you already have. So mom is obviously gone, so that's a crisis. Now that crisis multiplied what you already had inside you, which is the ability to not let go of things and not let go of people and feeling missing factor. And missing factor has been part of your life. Long ago before mom went. Let's find out how. Close your eyes for a second, and this emotion of feeling missing— someone is missing, right? I wish she was here. I want you to go in your earliest memories of when do you think you were acknowledged or you were introduced to this memory first?

Of missing?

Of missing. That I missed this, I wish this was there, I I wish he was here. I wish he was. The situation may be completely different.

Uh, the feeling of missing— it was my dad, of course. Okay. Uh, when—

how old were you?

I was in 3rd standard.

Okay. What was the feeling?

I don't know, man. It just— I was too young. Uh, I was like not even young. I was a child.

Yeah.

But I always loved traveling with him. I did travel fair enough after that. That also comes from how my dad wanted me to travel, and I loved traveling with him, so I kept traveling. But I missed him on my trips.

Okay, so now as you open your eyes, you'll realize that the feeling when you missed him, in the nature of the feeling, is the same. So whether you get hurt here or whether you get hurt here, Hurt is hurt. So the feeling of missing has been there since then, and that has nothing to do with the situation of dad gone. It is just who you are as a person, of how you deal with letting go. Example, would you think that every person on this earth would feel exactly the way you are feeling when dad went or when mom went? No, obviously not. Why? Because everybody has a different emotional pattern. Yeah, right. Like, I remember that beautiful story of— and it's a true story— of a reporter finding out about 2 brothers who are twins, one being a millionaire, one being a beggar, literally staying in— and this is a Mumbai story, uh, the guy, the second guy lives in Dharavi, right? And he went and asked the millionaire, saying, how come you're a millionaire? And he says, my dad was a drunk. He always used to beat me up. And he never treated us properly. If with a father like this, if I wouldn't become who I am, then who else would I become? And then the reporter goes to the drunk guy, the beggar who's living in Dharavi, and asks the same question, how did you turn out like this? And he says, my dad was a drunk. He used to beat my mother. Correct. He never took care of us.

Yeah.

With a father like this, if I wouldn't become this, then who would I become? So you see, everybody takes based on what they are, not what's happening to them.

Yeah, fair.

So you've been having this pattern of missing since many years for whatever reason. I don't like to— so one of the things I don't do in coaching is I don't like to do analysis of why this pattern was created, because that's irrelevant. But the analysis that the pattern is there is very critical, that this is how you deal with things anyway, irrelevant of mom. Dad, and many other areas of life. So now, as I'm saying it, you're remembering memories.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm—

yeah, go back to memories of something as simple as a small opportunity and the feeling of missing out. I wish I had done that. Yeah, you know what that emotion is called? I wish I had done that. I wish I had not left my key, man.

Yeah. Oh my God, I go through this a lot.

See, I, I can understand all your patterns now just because of that emotion. I can read your life like a book, that you would forget a key and you'll get frustrated.

Oh my God. Oh, I would like—

you would say something wrong. What's your wife's name, you said?

Toshita.

Toshita. You will say something wrong to Toshita and you'll feel like, I wish I had not done that.

Yeah. Oh, a lot of times.

Yeah. So the word here is regret. Yes. Yeah. It's not Mom. It's your pattern of regret. It's your pattern of feeling, I wish. And yep, even if Mom comes back, you'll find another reason to feel regret.

Yep.

Well, the proof is Mom was there. No, 100%.

I wish I spent more time with her. I wish she was—

all that is regret.

100%, right?

So if when Mom was there Regret was there. The reasons were different. Like you said three years ago, mom passed.

Yeah.

What was the month?

February.

Year?

Twenty twenty three.

Go to January twenty twenty three in your mind. Tell me what was your regret in January twenty twenty. The reason must have been different.

Generally.

Go to the memory.

You'll get it. Must have.

You'll get it. Where were you? India, Dubai.

I was here in

Dubai. You were in Dubai. Try and remember what was the goal, situation, job at that time.

There wouldn't be a big yeah there'll be a big regret but there won't be a big regret. Yes, mom hundred percent agree.

Of course, big one. But before that, there will be small or big reasons to feel regret.

छोटी-छोटी चीजें हो रही हैं right?

हाँ वो याद भी नहीं रहेगी। तो वही problem है कि बहुत सारी छोटी-छोटी इतनी हैं कि regret has become part of your system.

Yeah.

It's like a drug addict.

Oh my God! I wish I said this at that time. I wish I did this at that time.

Yes.

I wish I didn't say this.

Yes.

Oh my God!

And for a drug addict, no?

Oh my God!

जितना दे दो कम है। जितना दे दो कम है। आपको मैं कितना भी दे दूँगा आप regret करने का तरीका ढूँढ लोगे। You will find a reason to regret. You you gave me a very beautiful insight in your life. You said, Mitesh, I'm in a hurry, ना मुझे ये I have this big goal. मुझे करना है। Because the pattern is, I don't want to regret. I don't want to die knowing I didn't achieve my dreams. But here is the truth: if we don't deal with that pattern, you will achieve the big house, the two dogs, the two children, and yet while dying you'll say, "I wish."

Oh my God! It's getting too heavy, man.

So it's not about mom.

You know, मैंने कहा किसी को बोला था कुछ दिनों पहले विदेश के जहाँ मैं अभी हूँ ना अपनी लाइफ मुझे as a kid growing up in Jodhpur ये मेरा dream भी नहीं था मेरे पास passport भी नहीं था

You're already far beyond your

goals

that you

had imagined But I'm still not happy with this

That's because regret is

a pattern

and what you're doing is Because you feel hypothetically, and we all feel that. ये मिल जाएगा ना, तो फिर वो feeling आ जाएगी जो चाहिए. आती है, मज़ा भी आता है. But problem क्या pattern वापस आ जाता है regret का?

नहीं, मेरी feeling नहीं आती हूँ जी.

So that means the regret is so powerful.

मुझे लग रहा है अरे ठीक है, अभी तो कुछ भी नहीं है. ये हो गया, ओ. When I made my first million, and I've said पहली बार ये बात बोल रहा हूँ मैं आप. When I made my first million, And I'm talking about cash million, not sure. I just went up, hugged my wife, baby, congratulations. उसको भी नहीं मालूम मैंने क्यों congratulations बोला। And I'm like, let's move on.

Back to work. I'll give you an example. So this thing that we're doing has been a dream for me for the last ten years. Not ten years, twenty years. And I'll tell you where this dream came from. Tony Robbins. Have you heard of Tony Robbins?

100%, I know Tony Robbins.

So Tony Robbins has a beautiful movie on YouTube, on Netflix, I Am Not Your Guru.

Correct.

And he does things like this. I've attended his programs, I've been part of his Platinum. And I had this dream that I want to bring manifestation and coaching to the world with celebrities like you on live television like this. Today we are on YouTube, same thing. Yeah. When we really started this, And thank you for being part of the episode.

It's generally an honor. You're helping me more than—

believe it or not. And Neet is here. Thanks to Neet who made this happen for us. It happened so effortlessly that literally 4 days before we are talking right now, we had the first conversation with Neet in a coffee shop right next to here in Dubai.

Yeah.

And I told him I would like to do this, and he said, I had a similar idea for you. I said, it's too big an idea. Celebrities coaching, it's not easy. He said, I can make it happen. He calls me the next morning and says, 2 guests are ready. And I said, are you mad? And I— it happened. Now, that's not why I'm telling you the story. Here's the best part of the story. Today morning, he says, I've got some bigger guests lined up for the next month from Bollywood. I said, dude, I'm not available. You know why?

Why?

I've had this pattern of yours and I've broken through it.

How?

I'll show you that now. But what I'm showing is the proof that I'm in the biggest opportunity of my life talking to you right now, experiencing my dream which I got from Tony Robbins.

Yeah.

And I can very peacefully say no, I'm going for all of it.

Wow.

And, and I'm not saying no to him because no, there is some work I'm literally going for a holiday and it's not like I have not gone for a holiday for the last four years. I just went for a holiday three weeks before. So ऐसा नहीं है कि मैं बहुत काम कर रहा हूँ, ऐसा कुछ नहीं है। मैं बस जाना चाहता हूँ। मुझे अच्छा लगता है महीने में एक बार मैं छुट्टी के लिए जाता हूँ and I love doing that। और मुझे अभी पुणा जाना है मेरे प्यारे से एक छोटे से bird से मिलने के लिए। उसका न पोस्ट पर। पर क्यों? परसों। You're still trying to achieve a lot, and what you really want is not the two homes, not the two dogs, and not the two children. What you want is an emotion you're looking for, but because you don't know that is the emotion you are looking for, is why you're not getting it. Can I tell you what that emotion is? Yes. Freedom. You're looking for freedom. You said it in your words. मैं उठूँ, मैं कुछ भी करूँ। मन ना हो तो ना उठूँ। Yes.

सोना है

सो जाऊँ, काम नहीं करना है नहीं करूँ यार।

जो मेरी आंखें सारी सूजी भी आने वाली हैं इसके अंदर I have to go and meet people, stop and roam. But that's that's the point.

That's what you want. You want freedom.

I want freedom.

And unfortunately you have created rules that I will achieve and experience. By the way, freedom is just an emotion.

Yeah, that's—

but you've created a rule that I will experience freedom and I will allow myself to feel free when I have achieved this, this, this, this. And then here is the weirdest part. The day you reach that—

oh my God, don't say it—

you get into regret.

Don't say it.

I would have had more. I want to make my mom more proud. So now you'll create a bigger goal. I've seen people dying like that, and that is why people like Steve Jobs when they die don't leave the world with a message: Create another Apple. They say, "Please live your life. Don't do what I did." But nobody listens to his message when he's dying. They only listen to the message he's lived by, which is run behind your goal, live by regret, बड़ा आदमी बनना, मम्मी ने बोला था ज़िंदगी में कुछ बन के दिखाना. बस वो याद है। but actually जो परीक्षित को चाहिए वो तो feeling है। but अब कैसे खुद को मनाएं कि मैं regret कर क्यों रहा हूँ? How do I convince myself this regret is justified? Mom, अब mom वाली बात को तो मैं भी झूठला नहीं सकता। किसी और को बोलूँगा तो कोई और भी मुझे कुछ नहीं बोल सकता। तो what subconscious does is gives us very beautiful reasons that even we cannot deny for living our pattern because the pattern is an addiction। एक कहावत है पीने वाले को पीने का भाना चाहिए। कुछ अच्छा हुआ चलो यार एक हो जाए, है ना? कुछ बुरा हुआ तो चलो यार ठीक हो जाए। अच्छा कुछ नहीं हो रहा है? चलो मूड

बनाते

हैं। मूड बनाते हैं। ये ये सब बहाना है regret का and it has nothing to do I apologize for saying that but no it has a lot to do with twenty thirty years of habit agreed शायद नंबर भी नहीं है कि कितने साल की practice है रेग्रेट की

यार मेरे को ना यहाँ पे थोड़ा ग्रीफ लगता है

हाँ बिल्कुल है

मुझे ज़्यादा ग्रीफ हाँ रेग्रेट उस ग्रीफ के अराउंड बहुत है

हंड्रेड

परसेंट उस ग्रीफ के अराउंड जो मेरा रेग्रेट है वो और ग्रीफ पड़ता जा रहा है

अगर रेग्रेट को ग्रीफ से हटा दूँ ना तो बहुत कम है लाइक समटाइम्स ना हम शायद मैंने कुछ ज़्यादा खा लिया होगा कल, right? Real diagnosis कुछ और ही होता है। The fact is you're not struggling with grief. You're struggling with a combination of regret and grief. The regret, the grief in itself तो human है, वो तो होना उतना तो होना चाहिए।

But वो grief is हाँ regret है मुझे दूसरी चीजों का

बहुत। I will prove it to you right now. You asked me how?

Yeah.

We will break that regret for a few minutes.

I want to.

And then we'll remember mom.

Yeah.

Without the regret. And let's see what happens. Okay.

Okay.

Yes. So चलो. What is the opposite of regret?

I don't know. Proud? No. What is it? I don't even know.

Opposite of proud?

I don't even know regret का opposite. What is it?

The reason you don't know the opposite of regret right now is not because you don't know the vocabulary of it.

मैं आराम

से बताऊँ। हाँ, आराम से बताओ। It's not the regret का opposite का vocabulary problem. The problem is जो word हम practice नहीं करते वो word हमको याद ही नहीं रहता। Fair, correct। तो मैं ये workshops में इतनी बार लोगों को पूछता हूँ इसका opposite पता? नहीं बता सकते। कल अब्दुल को पूछ रहा था opposite पता? उसको different का opposite याद नहीं

आया। यही तो मुझे regret भी अब जाके realize हो रहा है। ये जो ये जो आपने जब मुझे इस पूरे conversation में जो pattern दिखाया ना यार अरे ये कर लिया होता तो आज और ज़्यादा होता करेक्ट ये क्यों नहीं किया वो क्यों नहीं किया

और दिन में कितनी बार फील होता होगा चाबी के लिए पानी के लिए कपड़ों के लिए

यार मैं कुछ अच्छा यही तो मैं अब मैं इतना सिंपल नहीं है यार मेरे लिए ना इट्स इट्स छोटी-छोटी चीजों के रिग्रेट में ड It's just like a burden on my shoulders all the time. Yeah. वो जो छोटी-छोटी चीजें मैं enjoy नहीं कर पा रहा था इतने time से या नहीं कर पा रहा हूँ, वो बड़ी जो चीजें मेरी shoulder पे बैठी हुई मुझे से।

और फिर भी goal में ये रहा हूँ कि जब बड़ा-बड़ा बहुत कुछ achieve कर

लूँगा, तो

छोटी-छोटी

चीजें experience करूँगा जो

मैं करना चाहता

हूँ। Correct.

तो actually छोटी तो वो तो फिर छोटी चीज होगी। ये भी, यही तो, यही तो मुझे इतना सही तो है। छोटी सी चीज है कि फ्रीडम चाहिए। अपनी ज़िंदगी अपने हिसाब से जीनी है। So what is then the opposite of regret?

What is it? I don't know.

हिंदी में बोल के देखो। ये क्यों हुआ? इसका opposite क्या है? ये हुआ। तो इसको English में क्या बोलूँ?

It happened.

Acceptance.

Acceptance. Oh my God! Oh my God, yes. Fuck yes. Sorry for my language.

I forgot the key. अरे आउट ना? I forgot the key. Okay. I forgot. ठीक है। And I'll tell you why I'm saying I know you because this has been my pattern. And Indu's sitting here and she's laughing.

हाँ, because

छोटी चीजों के लिए she's seen my regret and she's like, अरे

यार

हो गया क्या फर्क पड़ता

है and you know this is also putting me in overthinking mode मैं मैं गाड़ी चलाते-चलाते चार हजार दूसरी चीजों के बारे में सोच करें मैं travel कर रहा हूँ मैं दुनिया में एक ऐसी country में हूँ जहाँ मेरा dream था मेरे को pronounce करना नहीं आता था जब मैं जोधपुर में था मैं उस country के अंदर हूँ उस city के अंदर हूँ मैं वो moment enjoy नहीं कर पा

क्योंकि इतना कुछ पाना है,

इतना कुछ करना है। यहाँ जाके ये करना है, वहाँ जाके वो करना है, यहाँ पे ये। Oh my God!

Right acceptance. So since you have not practiced that, the statement I love to say is okay say it with me. I need to heal. I need to heal my capacity. My capacity to feel the lower vibration emotions.

To feel the lower vibration emotions.

I need to develop my capacity.

I need to develop my capacity to

feel. To feel the higher vibrational capacity.

The higher vibrational capacities.

So regret is lower. You already have that capacity, correct? What I'm about to tell you will blow your mind. Because you have the capacity to regret, you will manifest situations to regret.

That is true. That is— I believe in that. And I believe in universe, and I've seen your work before, and I do practice.

It will manifest on its own because you are that powerful. You will manifest good and bad both. So you'll manifest a situation where something will go wrong, and then you'll practice your ability to regret and say, "मैंने बोला था यार कर लेना चाहिए था।" Like why didn't I listen to myself? I should have done it.

Oh my God, yes.

So we need to heal that capacity first, but we also need to develop the capacity of feeling the higher vibrational emotions acceptance. Okay. Feeling regret is not a bad thing, by the way. The problem is not the regret. The problem is the pattern of regret. दर्द प्रॉब्लम नहीं है। दर्द की आदत प्रॉब्लम है। Agreed.

Agreed.

Okay. So let's break that for now, for a few seconds, and let's see what happens momentarily. Okay. Now here is the weirdest part. You can never stop feeling regret. You know why? Because you can only start something. You can't stop something.

True that.

Half the journey of life people are only wasting in trying to stop something. Don't stop. Start something. People say, मेरी ये problem health की ठीक ही नहीं हो रही। मैंने कहा sickness पे काम करना छोड़ दे, fitness पे काम करना शुरू करो। Fitness पे

काम करना शुरू

करो। ठीक हो जाएगा अपने आप।

Beautiful man.

A strong body cannot have a sickness in the body.

You know what I'm thinking right now, Pradeesh? It's just, and I'll tell you something, okay? Because आपके बीच ना law of attraction book पढ़ा है पीछे, ठीक है? I watched you in one of these podcasts, right? And मेरा goal है to start a podcast. And I promise you, I promise you right now manifestation की बात होगी ना? I will do a podcast one day. Which probably will be the biggest podcast in the world, top ten in the world. I'm saying not India.

Wow! That has

to. Will be. Will be.

हो गया है। Done.

है ना? And the reason why I'm talking about this, and there's a law of attraction book behind you as well. There's I actually. There have been so many times where you randomly appeared in my life on on a. On a screen. Okay. I'm like, yeah. Okay. And I'll be honest with you. Can I be honest?

Please do. Please do.

And please, please.

Absolutely. I love both sides of life.

Yeah. Before that, I was like, bro, yeah. मेरे पास ना life में and इतने सारे friends हैं, इतने सारे life coaches हैं। मुझे लगता था अरे यार Where I come from, ज्ञान दे रहे हैं। Right or wrong?

True, hundred percent।

पालतू ज्ञान बाँट रहे हैं। मेरे दिमाग में था कि ज्ञान, मैं जब मैंने and my problem is also that कि जब मैंने सबने खुदने सब कुछ learn किया है, सब कुछ there's nobody who's been a figure for me।

Yeah,

right?

Yeah,

I grew up like that। तो मुझे हमेशा से ना एक उससे वो लगता था कि यार मुझे क्या जरूरत

नहीं है हाँ

मुझे क्यों सिखा रहे हैं बातू मैं देख लूँगा अपना ठीक है move move and then I first time this is what happened the second time when this happened I heard you okay I heard you properly and then I realized कि यार आप जिस तरीके से एक बात बोल रहे हो ना that's simplifying it and that's very important तो this

Thank

you. Everyone, everyone else. I heard you that time. Then I got a little more trust with you. And third thing I said, कि यार जिस दिन मैं अपनी podcast शुरू करूँगा ना I'll call you for sure.

How sweet of you. Thank

you. No hundred percent.

Thank you.

And then when you called me, you said, Mitesh. I was like, yeah, I know him. Remember? When when Neet called me, I was like, I know him. When when did the call? I was like, yeah, I know him. And I did not expect this. Even when I started this, Mitesh, I was not very open.

Thank you.

I was—

thank you for your honesty.

I was not very open.

Thank you for your honesty.

Um, now that you're talking to me about these things, I'm realizing things about me which were very important.

Can I share something that can Feel like it may look like I'm disrespecting the last five minutes of what you said. पिछले twenty minutes we spoke about patterns. You never broke the flow of the conversation.

Correct.

Correct. And then just when we said, okay, let's begin to break the pattern of regret.

Correct.

You got into a beautiful conversation of giving me compliments and reminding me all this.

Correct.

Your brain has one job. Self-preservation.

Correct.

It's to protect itself.

Correct.

And it will only protect what it already has. It can only protect what it already has, right? And the one thing that the brain protects the most is familiarity. And if there is ever a sign that what I'm used to is taken away from me, whether it's good or bad, the brain's going to do everything in its possibility to break the pattern, to go in a different direction, anything randomly. What your brain did right now, 5 minutes ago, was just when we were about to break the pattern of regret, protected you by taking your away from that conversation.

No fair.

Yeah, it's, it's very unconscious.

Oh my God, explain regret to me in the simplest terms. Simplest terms. Like, I'm flying.

As simple as, why did I do this?

ये क्यों किया मैंने? ये नहीं करना चाहिए था।

कर लेना चाहिए था, नहीं किया। करना है क्यों नहीं किया? Why did I not or I should have? I shouldn't have, I should have. These are two words. I shouldn't have, I should have. She should have been here. It's it's always the shoulds and the should nots. And I don't want to Die where I say, I wish I would have achieved.

It's very liberating, by the way, what you're

saying. Once we let go of that capacity to feel that fear, every emotion at the essence is fear. Bottom level पे कि डर है कि मैं कहीं मरते वक्त रिग्रेट ना करूँ। तो डरी है ना करेक्ट डर है कि मैं उसके बिना क्या करूँगा डरी है ना करेक्ट नो

करेक्ट मेरे को मौत का डर नहीं है मेरे को वो मोमेंट पे ना

मेरे मरने के बाद लोगों का क्या होगा डरी है ना हाँ लॉट ऑफ़ पीपल पीपल से मेरे को मेरा डर नहीं है मेरे को डर है उसको वो क्या करेंगे मेरे बाद तो डरी ह

मेरी फेवरेट लाइन भी बताइए कि इसी के ऊपर इस बिकॉज़ ये जो मेरा एंड गोल वही है कि मुझे ऐसे मरना है कि जिंदगी सर उठा के खड़ी हो मैं जिंदगी वैसे ही जीता हूँ भाई मैं वैसे ही जीता हूँ लेकिन मैं इतना ऐसे जीना चाहता हूँ मुझे लगता है कि यार ये उस लेवल पे नहीं जा रहा है

लेवल तो क्रॉस दस बार कर चुके।

हंड्रेड परसेंट,

यही तो क्रॉस। हंड्रेड परसेंट। इतना कर चुके हैं जो स्कूल में सोचा भी।

हंड्रेड परसेंट, यस।

मतलब इतना कि लोग अभी बहुत सारे हैं जो इस एपिसोड को देखते हुए सोच रहे हैं, मेरा तो सपना है परीक्षित बनना। हंड्रेड परसेंट विदेश, हंड्रेड परसेंट। So I wish the Who has not yet become परीक्षा, starts realizing that वहाँ से यहाँ आने के लिए अगर बिना regret के आओगे तो और मजा आएगा। ताकि यहाँ से आगे भी बिना regret के जा सकते हो। Yes. Yes. करें break. Please. Done. So first part is to heal. The second part is to develop the capacity to feel. Right?

Okay.

So hands on your heart and repeat with me. I take hundred percent responsibility. I

take 100% responsibility

for practicing regret for so many years.

For practicing regret for so many years.

I take 100% responsibility because—

I take 100% responsibility because—

I'm not feeling this.

I'm not feeling this.

I'm creating this.

I'm creating this.

I take 100% responsibility because—

I take 100% responsibility

because— absence of mom is not making me feel this.

Absence of mom is not making me feel this.

I'm just Practicing feeling this.

I'm just practicing feeling this.

I am sorry.

I'm sorry.

For believing.

For believing.

I missed someone.

I missed someone.

Or I missed something.

I missed something.

I'm sorry for realizing.

I'm sorry for realizing.

Because as I'm realizing this, I'm regretting.

Because as I'm realizing this, I'm regretting. Why did I regret for so many years? Why did I regret for so many years?

And I'm sorry.

And I'm sorry

for believing there is no other way,

for believing there is no other way

to live life,

to live life,

than to achieve more,

than to achieve more,

and wait to achieve more,

and wait to achieve more.

Please forgive me,

please forgive me

for fearing regret,

for fearing regret.

There's nothing wrong in feeling regret.

There's nothing wrong in feeling regret.

Please forgive me for forgetting, please forgive me for forgetting. I don't even need to regret about regretting.

I don't even need to regret about regretting.

Please forgive me. Please forgive me. For thinking of so many things in life.

For thinking of so many things in life.

As a regret.

As a regret.

For the first time now.

For the first time now.

I choose to say.

I choose to say.

Thank you, I missed it.

Thank you,

I missed it. For the first time now,

for the first time

now, I choose to say,

I choose to say,

thank you it was not done.

Thank you it was not done.

I choose to say thank you.

I choose to say thank you.

I missed something.

I missed something.

Because nothing is a curse.

Because nothing is a curse.

Everything is a blessing.

Yes, everything is a blessing.

Thank you for reminding me.

Thank you for reminding me.

I'm not actually missing her.

I'm not actually missing her.

The truth is, the truth is, I'm not remembering her properly.

I'm not remembering her properly.

I'm just practicing regret.

I'm just practicing regret.

I now choose to love myself. I choose to love myself for all the things I've achieved.

For all the things I've achieved.

I choose to love myself. I choose to love myself and honor myself. And honor myself, knowing, knowing I already have achieved.

I already have achieved.

Everything I wanted.

Everything I wanted.

Including.

Including.

Freedom.

Freedom.

And I choose to love.

And I choose to love.

And love and honor my freedom.

I choose to love and honor my freedom.

Because the biggest regret I've had.

Because the biggest regret I've had.

Having the freedom and not practicing.

Having the freedom and not practicing it.

I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Please forgive me. Thank you. Love you. I love you. Now close your eyes. Think of mom. रोके दिखा देगा।

You know when I closed my eyes, what happened? I just saw my mom smiling.

Problem mom थी नहीं मेरे दोस्त। She's the most loving memory of your life.

Oh hundred percent.

How I know that is because when you started only you said she's an amazing person. I have an amazing relation. That's how you started. उसको grief थोड़ी बोलते हैं। You have a beautiful.

Oh wow!

You have you reminded me of how your mom told me पहला थप्पड़ तेरी तरफ से पड़ना चाहिए। Grief नहीं है। No

hundred percent.

All the all the memories. So pattern is what? The word pattern means something that repeats. You told me minimum ten things about your memories with mom. Nine out of ten were all good memories. Yeah. So the fact is you remember your mom with so much love, so much honor, so much beautiful memories, strong memories. The last part was just regret. जिसकी वजह से वो grief लग रहा था। The the crying was happening out of that fear. I miss her. But what if you didn't have that capacity to regret?

और मैं शेयर क्यों नहीं कर पाता था अपनी फीलिंग्स मांगने के बारे में किसी अपनी फीलिंग्स किसी के साथ भी किसी के साथ भी I want to know

that पता तो हूँ give me two minutes I'll tell you because I want to first take you back from understanding to practice चलेगा

hundred

percent okay तो अभी रेग्रेट तो कम फील हो रहा है but ये काफी नहीं है अभी कहना हमको acceptance practice करनी पड़ेगी। What we only worked on was healing our capacity to feel regret.

Wow!

Now let's practice the capacity to feel acceptance.

Wow!

Okay. Okay. So hands on your heart again. Say yes.

Yes.

I accept.

I accept.

I accept.

I accept.

I accept.

I accept.

Yes, I accept it.

Yes, I accept it.

Of course, I accept it.

Of course, I accept accept it.

Acceptance is easy.

Acceptance is easy.

हो

गया,

हो गया. कोई बात नहीं.

कोई बात नहीं.

वो होगा तो भी चलेगा.

वो होगा तो भी चलेगा. Okay.

नहीं होगा तो भी चलेगा.

नहीं होगा तो भी चलेगा।

Acceptance is easy.

Acceptance is easy.

As I'm practicing this.

As I'm practicing this.

I'm realizing.

I'm realizing.

This is the feeling I was waiting for.

This is the feeling I was waiting for.

This is true freedom.

This is true freedom.

होगा तो भी चलेगा।

होगा तो भी चलेगा। नहीं होगा

तो भी चलेगा।

नहीं होगा तो भी चलेगा।

माम शरीर में भी चलेगी।

माम शरीर में भी चलेगी।

आंखें बंद करके भी

चलेगी। आंखें बंद करके भी चलेगी।

माम है तो भी ठीक है।

माम है तो भी ठीक है।

माम कहीं और पैदा होगी तो भी ठीक

है। माम कहीं और पैदा होगी तो भी ठीक है।

बड़ा शुभ बन गया तो अच्छा ही है।

बड़ा शुभ बन गया तो अच्छ I accept it.

I accept the biggest podcast success in the world.

I accept the biggest podcast success in the world.

I also accept it not happening.

I also accept if it does not happen. I do.

Because what I really wanted to feel—

because what I really wanted to feel is acceptance.

Close your eyes. Allow yourself to feel acceptance and keep your eyes closed. And imagine if you left from this call and if you practiced acceptance, how would you live the rest of the day? Just look through your schedule. How would you live through the acceptance day? How would you sleep tonight? And how will you wake up tomorrow morning with the feeling of acceptance? Who would you be tomorrow morning? And if you practice this acceptance for the next 24 hours, how would life be? Just keep visualizing. Let's take it to 3 months. Acceptance. You're a master of acceptance now. Now let's take it to 3 years. You got the dogs, you got the children, you got the homes, and still you're practicing acceptance. Now let's take it to 30 years, maybe with few more wrinkles, or maybe may not, I don't know. Now take it to 100 years. Now take it to your deathbed, and before dying, doesn't matter what you've achieved or not, you've practiced acceptance all your life. Allow yourself to even accept death and accept all the failures and success, including regret moments. And what would you tell your family, your grandchildren sitting in front of you while you're dying about life before you leave. Now imagine you're dead and you're taking birth, probably to the same mom somewhere else. And with this frequency of acceptance, what kind of life will you be born in? Lack or abundance?

I don't care, to be honest. I don't care, generally.

Stay there and open your eyes when you feel like it.

Everything is brighter right now, by the way. Just letting you know, everything is brighter.

I can relate to it. I've done this. I've broken my pattern. So I've done—

everything is shining right now. I don't know how you're doing.

Thank you for allowing me to do this.

Wow. Fuck me, bro.

I was telling Indu, I was More excited for today because and I wasn't able to tell her yesterday why was I more excited for today. Now I know why because the moment you started speaking, I realized. ये तो मैं ही हूँ। लगा रे यार ये तो मेरा बेटा है।

Oh my God! Oh my God!

यही तो किया था साहिल के साथ मेरे गुरु हैं। जो चमक आप देख रहे हो उन्होंने दिखाई थी।

Wow,

thank you।

अरे सर क्या बोल रहे हो सर अब? अमितेश नहीं बोल पाऊँगा भाई आपको। मतलब the most difficult part for me to say was ये नहीं होगा तो भी चलेगा। And then I realized higher. जो होता है अच्छे के लिए तो होता

है।

बोलता हूँ मैं ये सब,

मीन नहीं करता, फील

नहीं करता।

अब

फील कर रहा हूँ।

Now you'll be able to enjoy the holiday, and you'll be able to talk at length right now about your mom, telling me all beautiful memories about her, and there will be acceptance of. Her, because acceptance is not about her. It's just acceptance of everything. Work the pattern, I mean. So again, it's not about mom. It's just about acceptance. So I said thank you to you because somewhere in healing you, थोड़ा मैं भी heal हो जाता हूँ। Thank you, Mitesh.

You're welcome.

Thank you. Coming to your question of मैं बोल क्यों नहीं पाता?

मैंने dark joke मार देता हूँ, मैं jokes मार देता

हूँ। मारो मारो।

मैं सब नहीं नहीं मैं सब मार देता

हूँ। But जो पते की बात है। पते की बात नहीं कर पाता। यही तो problem है। हाँ इसका reason है। आपके अंदर दो energies हैं। ये ना और यांग सुना होगा मैं बोलता हूँ कई बार वीडियोस पे। Because you had to grow up very early, because of your situations that you've told me, you had to work hard at a time when you were supposed to play, you were supposed to have fun, but you had to take mentally you started taking responsibilities very early. So your yang energy became very strong, which was supposed to because I don't call that toxic, I call that necessary. It was necessary क्योंकि वो नहीं होती तो ये सब कर ही नहीं पाते। तो yang energy is responsible for practicality, for growth, for professional life success by the way which is where you are. But in the pursuit of and that is why you will be it'll be difficult for me to manipulate you.

Yeah.

I mean मतलब लोगों को लगेगा कि ये बड़ा प्यारा बंदा है but they try but they won't they won't be able to manipulate you. उसका एक रीज़न है यांग एनर्जी स्ट्रॉंग है जिसकी यांग एनर्जी स्ट्रॉंग होती है वो बनाने वो it's not easy to fool you

correct

and

that's

why I

come across is sometimes in my colleagues and my circle also okay because I know यार कि तू तू मत काट

मेरा हाँ हाँ हाँ so यांग एनर्जी also is able to practice harshness Look, people run away from it. Actually, it's required at certain places, and you would know that because you practice. Because you know that there are certain people जिनके साथ अगर harsh नहीं होगा ना, he'll take me for a ride. मतलब इतना मौका दूँगा इतना कर देगा। So and and I learnt and respect that when I learnt from Hindu. I didn't have that naturally.

Yeah. पर हम यही जो मेरे को आप आप जो बोल रहे हो ना, यहाँ पे exactly मैं and I'm also in the job when I have to people please.

तो I'll tell you why. आपका यिन एनर्जी अभी सप्रेस्ड है। यिन एनर्जी का मतलब होता है, तो there are five six qualities which women have predominantly emotional sensitive family oriented sacrificing pleasing people pleasing right? Women do that naturally with most people not all women some are yang energy

yeah I but I people please but उसके अलावा सारी चीजें

नहीं होती हैं मुझसे So that's because ये एनर्जी सप्रेस है, उसका एक रीज़न है। फिर, if I let my ये एनर्जी आउट, yeah, I know I will trust people so much, yeah, कि फिर माँ के बंद कर लूँगा। Yeah.

Oh my God! Yes. Oh my God! Can I say something? Please. यही प्रॉब्लम। One more. कि यार

एक बार किसी पे भरोसा कर लिया ना मैं करेक्ट और मतलब ऐसा नहीं कि मेरे साथ कुछ मेजर धोखा वो का हुआ है या किसी ने किया but मैं बहुत

full on चले जाता

हूँ करेक्ट full on मतलब full on करूँ क्या है फिर कुछ नहीं हमारे करेक्ट उसका एक reason है जब yang energy बहुत strong हो जाती है तो एक नया emotion आप practice करते हो बिना yin के तो how How would you define this position right now?

It's not balanced. It's not balanced.

हाँ, so it's called imbalance.

Correct.

Imbalance में क्या होता है? We love positivity. We hate negativity.

Yeah. Oh my God!

We will love to be happy all the time.

Oh my God! Oh my God! Yes.

That's called imbalanced. So your perspective is very imbalanced in life, which means too motivated. You're totally demotivated.

Yes.

फुल भरोसा या तो फिर खाता में फिर तुम नजर से उतर जाओ। Oh my God! सालों लगा दोगे किसी को नजर से नहीं, लेकिन जिस दिन वो नजर से उतरा, फिर पूर्ण के नहीं देखोगे।

Yeah.

तो यानी नफरत भी पूरी और प्यार भी पूरा। तो this is imbalance. तो imbalance is a kind of another bad habit pattern of human beings. तो आईल गिव यू एन एग्जांपल, विच इज़ वेरी लेमन एग्जांपल। इनफैक्टुएशन हुआ। इफ़ अ पर्सन हैज़ इम्बैलेंस प्रेस्पेक्टिव, व्हेन ही विल लव, ही विल ओनली सी गुड अबाउट द गर्ल।

या हंड्रेड

परसेंट। राइट? फिर अगर किसी ने आके बोला ना, यार तेरी इस लड़की में ये दिक्कत है, देख But these are just dialogues to convince ourselves. Hundred percent. Balance perspective.

Hundred percent. नहीं नहीं।

Because we have to justify to ourselves that our pattern is right.

Yeah.

And because of that imbalance perspective, now the guy will go complete all out towards her. And then when the marriage happens or the relationship happens, for a few days she will continue to be that perfect. But then eventually she will show the other side, which is the balance side.

Yep.

Everybody has negative and positive.

Oh. Yep.

And problem क्या है? The problem is not that the girl has the negative and the positive both. The problem is I have the habit of being imbalanced. तो अब जब मैं negative देखूँगा ना, तो इतना देखूँगा, इतना देखूँगा, अब मुझे positive नजर ही नहीं है। और फिर मैं ऐसी situation में चला जाऊँगा कि मुझे लगेगा यार आप तो ऐसे ना थे। तो पहले तो मेरा दिल टूटेगा कि यार तू ऐसी तो नहीं थी

यार। Correct।

Like you broke my heart. What? How did? How can you do this to

me? Yeah. Yeah,

that hurt becomes into anger. Anger converts into regret. I wish I had not trusted.

Oh my God, everything is coming to that.

And then finally, breakup. But the problem is not the breakup. The problem is the continued regret after the breakup. I wish I had not. And now here is what happens because of the imbalance and because of the continued imbalanced pattern. There is hurt. So every new girl I will see with that light. इसमें वो तो नहीं है, मतलब वो नहीं चाहिए मुझे। Now imagine every guy who's going through this or a girl who's going through this. Every new potential person we meet, वो तो नहीं है। हम्म क्या manifest होगा?

वही

क्योंकि सभी के अंदर अच्छा है, सभी के अंदर बुरा है। करेक्ट पर अगर मेरा ही pattern imbalance में है तो जब मैं अच्छा देखूँगा तो पूरा ही अच्छा देखूँगा और बुरा देखूँगा तो पूरा ही बुरा। And I will manifest it so powerfully कि वो इंसान उस समय पे जब मैं उसका नेगेटिव देख रहा हूँ हर एक के साथ अच्छा होगा सिर्फ मेरे साथ बुरा होगा और मैं परेशान हो जाऊँगा सोचके कि एक मेरा कोई पर्सनल बदलाव क्यों why why me like you're being so nice to everybody else Correct. And then you'll ask yourself,

and I've been

at that zone. ऐसा क्यों करते हैं लोग मेरे साथ?

And I've been in that zone for so I don't know how you're getting this.

It's all patterns. Just the way you get your radio show.

No, but मेरा ये एक ज़िंदगी में एक time पे मेरा सबसे बड़ा problem था कि यार तू मेरे साथ ऐसा क्यों कर रहा है? क्या कर रही है? That's because not my wife. It was just work things and people around me.

It's an imbalance pattern. What is balance? Balance is I'll tell you something which is little scary, so डरना मत ठीक है। आज अगर कुछ अच्छा हुआ है, तो मैं लिख के देता हूँ stamp paper पे कल कुछ बुरा होने ये balance है life problem वो नहीं है problem ये है कि मेरा pattern अगर imbalance है, तो आज मुझे इतना अच्छा लगेगा इतना अच्छा लगेगा कि ज़िंदगी चल पचा सब कुछ आज ही है like today's जन्नत और जब कल आए I'll feel like hell. मैं डरता हूँ उससे। हाँ, क्योंकि you know that you will go through hell when the wrong comes.

Yeah, I've seen.

And that's the imbalance pattern. So the problem is not you're not able to share. The problem is you know if you share and if you get that relationship with somebody now, फिर तू उसको ये नहीं बताएगा, फिर तू उसको सब बता देगा। फिर तू फिर वो लाइक देखो पता है मेरे कितने अफेयर हुए सब बता देगा बैठे-बैठे बता दिया है और बैठे से डर इस बात का नहीं है कि ये बता दूँगा सब बता दूँगा and now combine this imbalance pattern with the pattern of regret oof deadly combination Now we can feel that.

आप dangerous चीज़ हो भाई। आप बहुत dangerous चीज़ हो भाई। बहुत बढ़िया। I'm gonna walk out as a different man today। मेरे लिए नहीं, आप दुनिया के लिए अब dangerous हो क्योंकि अब अब मैं उस zone में अगर आ गया ना कि ठीक है देखोगे देख लेंगे। उस zone में तो बहुत और dangerous हूँ।

And the beauty is So you have a limiting belief about मेहनत कि मेहनत से तो कुछ भी पास नहीं

and

that's your mode by

the way correct it is

I've never met you before this but I think you're you have this belief in yourself कि तू कहीं भी पकड़ ले मेहनत में मेरा हाथ नहीं पकड़

पाएगा die and मैंने बहुत proudly अभी पता नहीं गलत बोलता हूँ सही बोलता हूँ बहुत proudly बोलता हूँ कि never outwork me

That's the

statement. I'm like, okay. Now it's like, is this a good thing or a bad thing?

By the way, it's good to have a belief that you can work hard, but the problem is the belief behind that. कि बिना मेहनत के कुछ मिलता भी नहीं, भाई. Everything worth achieving is worth working hard for. Yeah. Oof! Limiting belief.

Oof!

But because the deep inside you want to be free. And get up in the morning whenever you want to, but then your mind says, मेहनत तो करनी पड़ेगी यार नहीं तो फिर आज जो चीज़ मिलेगा नहीं, उतना पड़ेगा।

Oh my God! Oh my God! एकदम मैं उस zone से था एक time पे बहुत पहले कि यार मुझे ना कुछ छोटा सा पाने के लिए बहुत ज़्यादा मेहनत करनी पड़ती है। Yeah. वो

things come to you with difficulty. Oh my God! But that's your manifestation. Although what you want is

freedom. मैं पहली बार ये बात बोल रहा हूँ, मैं एक बार पंडितों मेरे को किसी ने एक पंडित का नाम recommend किया, मैं उस पंडित के पास गया। उसे like क्या है? मैं कहा यार पंडित जी मुझे इतनी सी चीज़ के लिए ना इतनी मेहनत करनी पड़ती है। I am not a पंडित guy at all, at all.

But you wanted कि ये क्यों हो रहा है?

क्यों हो रहा है?

हाँ, वो the emotion you have here is the pattern. Everything is an emotional pattern. Struggle is the emotion.

Hundred percent.

हाँ, तो वो जो मेहनत word है कि struggle हर चीज़ के लिए struggle महसूस करना पड़ता है।

Ahh, wonder

absolutely. क्योंकि वो तीस साल से practice है वही manifest हो रहा है। क्योंकि struggle का मतलब क्या होता है? Extreme मेहनत ना?

Hundred percent

imbalance.

आप कहाँ?

Extreme. I'm saying extreme. But the fact is, if you look back in your life, you have deleted memories of effortless success. ऐसा नहीं है कि नहीं हुआ है, हुआ है।

Hundred

percent हुआ है। उसको consciously delete करते रहते हो, because your pattern is नहीं नहीं, वो वो जो हुआ ना, वो तो वो तो luck था। तो लक था यार लेकिन लक रोज़ नहीं होता भाई मेहनत करनी पड़ती and then you will manifest struggle extreme hard work but you can actually sleep peacefully wake up at ten o'clock this is exactly opposite to what people teach by the way कि नहीं नहीं सुबह उठो पांच बजे the successful people get up in the world in the morning at five o'clock दस बजे उठो आराम से हो जाएगा काम सारा कुछ आप करते भी नहीं हो जो जो कुछ हमने पाया है, वो हमने अकेले नहीं पाया है। नहीं पाया है। बहुत सारे लोगों ने कंट्रीब्यूट किया है। एक थॉट डाल दो, वो ऐसा प्यार से मैनिफेस्ट करेगा जाके। पता ही नहीं चलेगा, काम कब हो जाएगा? ये एपिसोड तो बेटे-बेटे कॉफ़ी शॉप ने नहीं लाया, मैंने थोड़ी

लाया। मैंने I, I can't explain how I'm feeling right now. I've not felt like this in a long time. Like, okay, मैंने मैं मेरे को जुनून छूट रहा है। वाइब्रेशन को मैं मजाक नहीं कर रहा हूँ। How do I explain this? What am I feeling? I'm not joking.

That's your vibrations. Your frequency is changing. You're going through a transformation of who you were to who you are. It's an internal thing. You can't explain that. It's a shift happening.

I've done everything, right? I've done everything to feel this feeling. I've done. How do I say it? I've done like I've been to like 120 countries to because मुझे लगता था कि travel करने से मेरे को एक feeling जो अभी मैं imagine कर रहा हूँ आएगी। I've done I've done a lot of other things that I can't say on this podcast on camera to feel this feeling. I've done oh my god! I've worked hard. Oh my god! I've jumped off planes with a parachute alone to feel this feeling. I have. I have, I have. But I can't, I can't begin to tell you what I'm feeling right now.

What you're?

It's just freedom right now.

Freedom.

It's like अच्छा मिदेश ने मेरे को बचपन से चिंता रही कि मैं नहीं करूँगा तो कौन करेगा? मेरे आगे पीछे कोई है नहीं। आप समझ रहे हो मैं क्या बोलूँ? I don't know.

I thought about that.

मैं नहीं करूँगा तो कौन करेगा? कौन करेगा? मेरे बाद क्या होगा? मैं मैं और मेरे मेरे लिए भी कोई नहीं है मेरे आगे पीछे भी कोई नहीं है। यूनिवर्स वाली चीजें आप समझ रहे होंगे, फ्रीडम वाली चीजें आप समझ रहे होंगे। यही तो फीलिंग चाहिए थी कि देख लेंगे यार, होगा देख लेंगे। यहाँ तक आएं आगे भी चले जाएंगे।

मैंने पहली बार जब अपने गुरु को बोला था ना, कि I'm worried कि मेरे बाद क्या होगा तो कम कर थोड़ा।

कितना

अपने आप को इम But it was difficult for me to experience then. Now it is. So you're experiencing that freedom that हो जाएगा। वो goals भी पूरे होंगे, वो podcast भी होगा, कुछ मेहनत का होगा और कुछ बिना मेहनत का होगा। दोनों होगा balance।

मेहनत से मुझे कोई डर नहीं

है। हाँ, बस जो

दूसरा वाला

जो effortless

effortless वो सीखना है मुझे। Effortless is something I really

सीखना नहीं है याद करना You were born effortlessly. क्या मेहनत की delivery में? बड़े होने में क्या मेहनत कर ली? Walk करने में आपने क्या मेहनत की? वो तो मम्मी पापा कर रहे हैं। खाना खाने में आपने क्या मेहनत की? वो तो खिलाया गया था। Breathe करने में क्या मेहनत कर रहे हो? वो तो पता नहीं कौन करवा रहा है। नजर से देखने में क्या मेहनत कर रहे हो? इस episode में आने में आपने क्या मेहनत की? तो आ गया।

अब्सल्यूट और ये कैसे हुआ मुझे मालूम ही नहीं है। तो

वही तो मैजिक

है। How did this happen is when when I was telling you कि when I was looking at you on a screen some time ago I didn't trust you and then slowly I kept trusting you and मेरे लिए ना एंजाइटी कहाँ से आ रही थी वो इम्पोर्टेंट था जानना।

करेक्ट।

वो आज मैंने जान लिया है। मुझे एंजाइटी आ रही थी वहाँ से कि यार वो क्यों नहीं हो रहा? वो क्यों नहीं किया? Correct. वहाँ पहुँचना है, goal तो वो है ना यार।

तो इसीलिए एक extreme ये जो imbalance pattern है इसमें दो-तीन words आते हैं। एक तो आ गया मेहनत और दूसरा आ गया हरी। Yep. जल्दबाजी।

And

regret। क्योंकि this is not okay। I want that। Yes। और वहाँ जाने की भी जल्दी है। Absolutely। और फिर वहाँ जाने के बाद मैं भी

What

next? Right, so let's practice that for a bit.

Yes.

And again, the same part— healing what we have practiced so far and then creating a new practice. Okay, so hands on your heart again and say, I take 100% responsibility.

I take 100% responsibility

for believing.

For believing

in extreme behaviors.

In extreme behaviors. Yes.

I take 100% responsibility.

I take 100% responsibility in believing.

I have to work hard.

I have to work hard to grow.

That was not happening to me.

That was not happening to me.

I was manifesting.

I was manifesting it.

So now I take 100% responsibility.

Now I take 100% responsibility for

all the struggles in the past.

For all the struggles of the past, present, present, and future.

And I accept.

And I accept

struggle. Struggle. An effortless book.

An effortless

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry

for believing.

For believing

I have to be extreme to achieve extreme.

I have to be extreme to extreme achieve. I'm sorry for achieving extreme. Sorry?

I'm sorry for believing.

I'm sorry for believing.

If I don't wake up,

if I don't

wake up, things won't happen.

Things won't happen.

I'm sorry for believing.

I'm sorry for believing.

Without my physical action.

Without my physical action,

nothing will move.

Nothing will move.

Please forgive me.

Please forgive me

for not asking help.

For not asking help.

Please forgive me.

Please forgive me

for not allowing help.

For not allowing help.

Please forgive me for not letting people see me.

For not letting people see me as someone who needs help. As someone who needs help. Bichara. Bichara.

Thank you for giving me the ability.

Thank you for giving me the ability to

be bichara also.

To be bichara also.

I accept.

I accept.

I'm strong.

I'm strong

and weak.

And weak.

Thank you for giving me the ability.

Thank you for giving me the ability

to practice hard work.

To practice hard work and effortless. And effortless both.

Thank you for giving me the ability.

Thank you for giving me the ability to

finally evolve.

To finally evolve.

And be the future now.

And be the future now.

Not four years from now.

Not four years from now.

Not four minutes from now.

Not four minutes from now.

Now.

Now.

I love myself.

I love myself.

For living my entire life now.

For living my entire life now.

I love myself for practicing my freedom.

I love myself for practicing my freedom now.

I love myself for accepting good and bad.

I love myself. Accepting good and bad both.

I love myself for expecting—

I love myself for expecting

people judging me and appreciating both.

People judging me and appreciating both.

I love myself for going through goods and bads.

I love myself for going through goods and bads

gracefully.

Gracefully.

Like a balanced person.

Like a balanced person.

I accept—

I accept

balance.

I

accept the best of

I accept the best of both worlds

because I am the world.

I am the world because I am the universe.

I accept the magic.

I accept the magic and the logic.

There is no debate.

There is no debate.

I have both.

I have both.

Now close your eyes. Whatever has to happen,

whatever has to happen

to fulfill my dreams,

to fulfill my dreams,

let it happen.

Let it happen.

I allow.

I allow.

I allow.

I allow.

Without any action.

Without any action.

Results to come to me.

Results to come to me.

I allow.

I allow.

Magic.

Magic.

And logic.

And logic.

And just feel that.

And just feel that.

You just visualize something that you were not able to.

I everything was just यार मैं कैसे बताऊँ आपको जब मैं आकेबंद करता था ना it used to be dark. I don't it of course कोई बोलेगा बेवकूफ आकेबंद करेगा तो dark ही होगा. Right now it's just bright lights everywhere, bright lights everywhere. And this is exactly what I wanted to do and wanted to be.

Now it's with you all the time. That was the promise.

Thank you, bhai.

You're welcome. Thank you. And thank you for—

you're a godsend for me—

being for this journey, because trust me, you fulfilled my dream as much as I have—

you're a godsend for me.

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Oh my God!

Okay, I have two questions.

Yes, please. Yes, you want to sit here?

Sit here, sit here, sit here. No, no, it is for you. Okay.

हाँ.

So now to start with, just to prove whether Mitesh did a good job or not.

Okay.

हाँ. I want to.

बेचारे के wrong थे तो खड़े हो गए। और क्या चाहिए?

नहीं मैं आपको बताऊँगा। मुझे कहा मुझे मुझे full विश्वास कहाँ हुआ? मैं मेरे एक moment है वो बताऊँगा आप। पहले आप पूछो।

तो मुझे पहले हाँ वो बता दीजिए फिर मैं और

नहीं आप बताओ बताओ

बताओ मुझे आपकी मम्मी के बारे में जानना है

यार मेरी मम्मी ना भाई oh my god dress lady अरे अरे अरे अरे अरे अरे भाई क्या ही lady थी वो वो वो एक supernatural lady थी मैं अभी बता रहा हूँ आपको उससे ज़्यादा strong और एक number की लड़ाई भाई oh

हाँ तब उन्होंने कहा कि

तो आधा टाइम ना मेरा उसमें निकलता था डेट्स व्हाई गोट पीपल प्लीजिंग आल्सो फ्रॉम कि वो हर किसी जाके लड़ लेती थी मैं बोलता था जो सॉरी सॉरी सॉरी सॉरी सर रिलैक्स रिलैक्स मैं संभाल लूँगा हाँ मुझे याद

आ रहा है ऐसा कोई

हाँ हाँ सेम हर किसी से जाके भाई मासियों को तो मतलब उसने मतलब और मेरी मम्मी के साथ ऐसा सीन था कि वो मतलब मैं था एक नंबर का बदमाश और वो जो लपेट लपेट के पेलती थी मुझे मार भाई किस चीज़ से नहीं मारा मुझे and I used to love it you know it's like उनका गुस्सा was number one उनका प्यार was number one but I know the things that she did for me आजकल के बच्चे नहीं समझ पाएंगे ये बात ये मारा मारी तो मैं कहता हूँ अच्छा था मेरे को मार द है ना अरे भाई मैं W W F खेल रहा था मैं cousins को बेहोश बेहोश कर दिया था अरे she was a lady man she was a lady she lived life so

you passed the

test oh भाई look at this look at this oh

amazing you wanted to share something else go ahead

मैंने जब आखिरी बार करी ना you were talking to me about acceptance and freedom I didn't want to cry I don't know I felt something on my I was, I wasn't crying. It was a different feeling. And when I, I looked here, I was like, okay, that's a tear. That was something different. That was something different. और मैं मैं बहुत चीजें की हैं मेरे लाइफ में यार वो एक्सपीरियंस करने के लिए।

Amazing. Congratulations. So congratulations. You passed the test.

She's she generally has to pass me.

No, fair enough, bhai. Fair enough.

He spoke about his mom for five minutes and we are good. And he did not cry. He did not choke.

I'm laughing actually.

You're laughing. You're laughing.

मैं अब मैं और jokes मार सकता हूँ।

मैं I'm looking forward to you coming back to me in a month and saying बहुत सोया। हाँ। आराम। बहुत सोया। बहुत

सोया। आराम किया। खूब मजे लिए।

खूब मजे लिए। Free।

मैं आपको एक बात बताऊँ पिछले पंद्रह सालों में चार या पांच घंटे पंद्रह सालों में

I

was doing the breakfast show that was the reason I left it but I wasn't able to let

go

अब तो आप देखो भाई अब तो

मतलब मेरे

को रात को चाय पीनी होगी मैं चाय पिऊँगा मुझे सुबह उठके you know भाग जो मुझे करना होगा मैं करूँगा

now thankfully to you Neet must have also got clarity कि मैं ऐसा क्यों हूँ because he must be I'm sure wondering कि ये आदमी पागल है मैं बोल रहा हूँ इसको ये बोल रहा है मेरे को छुट्टी या he's telling and I'm saying मेरे को छुट्टी पे जाना है it's like ये आदमी पागल है यार अपन freedom वाले लोग

हैं और ये ये ना freedom के साथ ना आपका एक एक और मैंने जो चीज notice करी वो था satisfaction content हूँ यार मैं

content

content और मुझे ये डर नहीं है कि content से कम आएगा लोगों को डर है कि content से कम आएगा Content से ज़्यादा आता है। But Parikshit, I mean it from my heart. Thank you. You have no idea what you've done.

Sir, please अब please ये सब मत करो। मैं दिल से बोल रहा हूँ। Sir, अब ना मैं मैं आपको बोल रहा हूँ। आप thank you मत बोलो मेरे को। आप आप बोलो आप क्या चाहिए? क्या करना होगा मुझे? हाँ जी sir.

Oh my God! भाई इतना दुष्टता इतना ज़्यादा था। दुष्टता इतना ज़्यादा था ना तो कुछ तो इतना ही कुछ परेशान हो रही होती।

Hi,

hi.

You couldn't find traffic, right?

Then when I started talking to him, it was working.

But it's very interesting, Deva. Yeah, yeah.

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