In this informal, bilingual (Hindi‑English) conversation, Paridhi Dhingra, Mitesh Khatri, and a third participant share five concrete habits that they claim keep their 20‑year marriage loving and conflict‑free. The first secret is to use affectionate pet names beyond formal titles, creating a cute, intimate atmosphere. The second secret is to de‑escalate arguments by taking each other's hurtful statements "at face value" – acknowledging the words without reading hidden intent, which ends fights quickly. The third secret is a rule to finish any disagreement the same day, never sleeping on it, and to apologize and resolve before bedtime. The fourth secret advises against bringing up past arguments or mixing multiple topics in a single fight; each conflict should be addressed on its own, without referencing prior data. The fifth secret emphasizes frequent, sincere appreciation and specific compliments (e.g., thanking for a meal, noting how a partner looks) to reinforce positivity. The dialogue includes examples, cultural nuances (e.g., avoiding the word "nice"), and a brief promotional segment for a "Relationship Mastery Course" with a free first lesson, plus a standard YouTube call‑to‑action to subscribe and enable notifications.
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Five secrets to create a loving and happy relationship. Well, actually, my team member is telling me loving and happy नहीं चाहिए, healthy and happy relationship. So, चलो let's start with healthy and happy relationship. Five secrets. Secret number one. आप बता रहे हो मैं बताऊँ?
आप बताओ.
Sweetheart, आप बता दो।
Give pet names.
हाँ, तो यही था secret.
Give nice pet names. Call each other with pet names. Don't just stick to the pet names
which are given to the spouse from their parents.
Yeah, so just calling her Indu is not enough. She calling me Mitesh is not enough. Like start using cute names. You want a cute relationship? Use cute names, right? Like sweetheart, cutie, all of that. Whatever you want. Don't call it like pappu, shappu नहीं वो cute नहीं होता है, right? Like something cute, something nice. Like She likes to call me what?
Oh no, I'm not telling that.
What? See, happiness in a relationship. That's what I'm talking about. Use cute names. Cute name, right? So that's the first secret. Second secret.
Second secret is very good, which we practice, that whenever we hurt each other,
we say that, okay, I have said this, and the other person says, but you, you said this, you meant this. So we say that no. I did not mean it. Take it on my face value.
Yeah, so take your right hand like this. Say, take it on my face value. We do this with each other. Say, take it on my face value.
I did not mean it. I just said it, and I meant something else, not this. And the moment we say, take it on my face value, the fight ends there itself.
Yeah, because otherwise the fight keeps going on, right? Okay, I know you said this. You meant this. You meant that. And so we just end the fight saying, take it on my face value. Try it in your relationships. Works beautifully. Right, so that's the second secret. Third secret?
Third secret. Third secret is again a good one since the time we got married.
हम bad secrets बोलते क्या हैं?
हाँ, 20 साल हो गए ना शादी
को almost time देख के बता रही 20 साल हो गए marriage को almost
almost 20 साल हो गए so we
don't we don't sleep after the fight fights or arguments we finish the fight that day we don't carry it forward to next day हमने कभी भी मौन व्रत भी नहीं धारण किया fight में Next day हम fight ये मॉनबस क्या था मतलब बात बात ही नहीं करना
एक दूसरे से दो दिन चार दिन
हाँ लोग fight करते तीन चार दिन fight चालू है बात भी नहीं कर रहे एक दूसरे अच्छा fight भी नहीं कर रहे silent fight चल रहा है push push picture का fight थोड़ी है कि silence में fight हो बच्चों को mediator बना के बच्चों को mediator बना के हमारे बच्चे नहीं हमने ऐसा नहीं किया
Responsibility लो सॉरी बोलो जो भी करना है करो मगर खत्म करो That day we finish we end the fight same night we don't sleep after the
fight Fight भले तीन बज जाए रात के उस दिन खत्म करो फिर सो ठीक है अब उस fight को अगर अच्छे से खत्म करना है ना how do we finish that I'll I'll give you two more secrets तो अभी तीन secrets हो गए दो और secret बता दे fights related तो एक तो बहुत बढ़िया secret है when we are fighting we have a very simple rule कि fight करते समय पुराने fight का reference नहीं ले सकते ठीक है और ये जितने लड़के सुन रहे हो सुन लो तुम्हारे काम की चीज़ है अपने को कुछ याद रहता नहीं है पिछले फाइट का इनको सारा याद रहता है तो पिछले बर्थडे पे भी तेरे को याद नहीं था ये सब not allowed ठीक है पुराना डेटा not allowed to fight in today's conversation perfect works तो ठीक से बता दो वापस क्या करना इसमें
तो basically हमलोग बोलते हैं कि अभी की अभी का झगड़ा जिस टॉपिक पर है example example नहीं याद आ रहा
हाँ हमलोग देखो हमको ड
पॉइंट पे झगड़ा चल रहा है।
इसको कल रात का कोई फाइट याद आ गया होगा। So let's say I'm arguing with you and I'm saying last time भी तो तूने ऐसा बोला था।
So I say that okay, let's fight on this।
आज की बात पे last time बोला था वो last time खत्म हो गया अभी आज का नया चालू। तो नया फाइट नया कोटा, right? So past data मत use करो। It's always easy to complete fights, जल्दी खत्म हो जाएंगे। अगर आज की बात पे fight करो, पुरानी बात को उसमें डालो मत। Multiple topics एक साथ मत लो। Right, that's a very simple secret, but works for us all the time.
Yeah, it works. In fact, it's an anchor for us.
It's a positive anchor for us. We don't carry forward. We finish then and there, and it fizzles down very, very fast.
Very, very fast. So gravity एकदम कम हो जाती है उस fight के।
Perfect. Last step बताता हूँ, which is a very simple step, but the secret is used by very few people. But it is always used by those people who are happy and loving and healthy in their relationships. What is the secret? Appreciate and give compliments, है ना? बहुत सारे लोग नहीं करते ये काम। Every day we get food from our life partner, हाँ all the boys we get food from our life partner but do we always say thank you for the food that we get on the table? Do we always compliment the food that we get? नमक कम होता है तो बोल देते हैं कि नमक कम है। लेकिन कुछ अच्छा बनता है तो नहीं बोलते कि कैसा है। तो सामने से कई बार सवाल आता है जब आप खाना खाते रहते हो तो end में एक सवाल ज़रूर If you got something from your partner, learn to say thank you. Learn to say it was amazing. Compliment, appreciate your partner as many times as possible, right?
Not just for the food, but especially if the lady is getting ready for you, they're going out for dinner or shopping or anything. Just say that you're looking nice.
Yeah, you're looking beautiful.
One word says to the lady.
Nice मत बोलना, nice, nice doesn't work. बड़े वाले word चाहिए. Beautiful, gorgeous, extraordinary, best in the world. Nice का बाद में फिर ताना आता, फिर वो उसी दिन का topic पे fight करना पड़ता है. Be careful of it.
But it helps.
It always helps, and that also tells the lady that you're noticing. You remember. You notice what she's wearing, how she's looking.
Boys are always noticing. Just we don't mention it many times. So mention it.
Start mentioning it. That's the last one.
Or मेरे लिए compliment? Lady वाला compliment होगा? What about लड़कों को क्या compliment होगा?
You're looking nice.
फिर nice. Just nice. Girls are beautiful. Boys are just nice.
Okay. For you, I keep giving, but I don't know whether it will applicable to others or not.
But I always tell you that the workshop was very nice.
You did amazing. Workshop was very nice. So, देखा? मनाएगा?
I always, always say that whenever he finishes the video.
Yeah, I finish a video, she says you did a great job on today's video, you did a great workshop.
Workshop, it was very nice, the content was nice. If he does coaching, I say the coaching was very nice, you caught the girl very well, something on those lines.
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