Why You Are Not Able to Attract A Healthy Relationship!

6 Aug 2025 · 1 min

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In this YouTube segment, Paridhi Dhingra explains that the inability to attract a healthy romantic partnership stems from unresolved emotional wounds incurred in past relationships, including those with parents. She argues that these wounds create subconscious patterns: people gravitate toward familiar dynamics—such as dominant or controlling partners—because they feel safe in what they know, while simultaneously avoiding unfamiliar traits. This cycle causes repeated attraction to similar unhealthy partners, even when the individual consciously tries to stay away. Paridhi proposes that the only way to break this loop is to consciously heal the past wounds, thereby freeing oneself to recognize and choose healthier relationship dynamics.

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The more wounds we have from our past, the more difficult it is to create love in the future. So someone who's stuck is someone who's basically hurt a lot of times in the past with certain traumatic relationships. It doesn't have to be with a life partner, it doesn't have to be with a girlfriend or a boyfriend, it can be with parents. If I'm angry with my father for being very dominating, very insensitive, no matter what you do, run away from those kind of people as much as you can. But if I have that complaint with my father, it's a wound, it's a very strong wound, so it's going to be stuck. So subconsciously, am I going to be happy when I find unconsciously somebody dominating, or am I going to be open to that person? What do you think?
I think on a subconscious level, you go back to familiarity, which is, I feel safe here because that's all I know.
That's right.
Yeah. So,
and the opposite of that, right? Subconsciously, I run away from something I'm uncomfortable with.
Correct.
Unfamiliar with. And the moment they come close to me, I try to be away from them. But believe it or not, I will get attracted to those people again in my life, and they will keep coming to me again and again and again. So what's the solution? Let's heal the wounds of the past first.