Why You Attract People Who Are Your Opposites | Mitesh Khatri on Relationships & Energy Balance

5 Aug 2025 · 1 min

Watch on YouTube

0:41

In this conversational excerpt, Paridhi Dhingra challenges the popular notion that "opposites attract" by distinguishing between the forces that spark initial attraction and the dynamics that sustain a long‑term partnership. She argues that people are drawn to others who share similar traits, values, or behaviors, which creates the immediate pull of attraction. However, lasting compatibility depends on complementary strengths that fill each partner’s gaps—e.g., a submissive individual thriving with an aggressive partner, or a strong speaker pairing with a skilled manager. These complementary differences, while essential for growth, also generate conflict; navigating that conflict requires the development of acceptance skills and emotional balance. The segment uses concrete relational and organizational examples to illustrate how similarity initiates connection, complementarity sustains it, and conflict resolution is the skill set needed for a healthy relationship.

So the actual theory is not that opposites attract, it's complementary attracts. If I am a submissive person, for me to be successful and to be complete in my life, to grow, I need someone as a partner who's going to be aggressive.
Okay.
In an organization, if I am very good at speaking, I need somebody who's very good at managing. These are 2 different strengths. Not everybody has both. So you need your complementary parts with you. My incomplete part is my complementary part. But what will attract you to the person is similarities. The differences is what create conflicts later, and that's where we need the skills to develop into acceptance for the relationship. But what will create attraction is always similarities.