Why you really can't let go of the past.

12 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief counseling excerpt, Paridhi Dhingra reassures Speaker A, who is grieving their mother, by reframing the source of their pain. She argues that the emotional distress is not caused by the mother's absence itself, but rather by an existing tendency within the speaker to cling to people and situations. The current crisis (the mother's death) merely amplifies this pre‑existing pattern, rather than creating a new one. Paridhi promises to demonstrate this point, emphasizing that crises multiply existing emotional states instead of generating them anew.

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So I want you to know something beautiful. What you're feeling with Mom is not about Mom. I, I know hypothetically it feels that if Mom was here, you wouldn't feel this. Hypothetically, it feels that way. I guarantee you it's not true. It's not true, and I'll prove it to you right now. You've been feeling like this before Mom went. The difference is crisis and opportunities don't make you feel anything. They only multiply what you already have. So mom is obviously gone, so that's a crisis. Now that crisis multiplied what you already had inside you, which is the ability to not let go of things and not let go of people and feeling missing factor.