Ralph Brewer responds to a man celibate for ten years in his marriage. His wife refuses medical help. Brewer tells him to end the relationship, get therapy to understand why he stayed, and move on.
Alright, we have another Dear DSO entry on the website and you can submit your own question to dadstartingover.com/deardso. Fill out the form. If it's a good one, I will answer it here in video format. And today's message comes from a guy calling himself Celibate in Texas. Subject line is Sexless for 10 Years. Dude. The message is, it's been over 10 years since the last time I was intimate with my wife. I've never cheated, just taken lots of cold showers, he says. She tells me it's painful for her, but she won't seek medical help. So I assume it's physically painful for her to do the act. I tell her to at least show me some affection, but she doesn't. I am tired of being rejected. It's about damn time. Tired of being just, quote, roommates. Is there hope for us? What can I do to keep from going insane? Help me. Sincerely, Celibate in Texas. Congratulations, Celibate in Texas, you win the honor of shortest Dear DSO video ever. You dump this very broken person, you go into therapy and figure out why you were attached to such a broken person for 10 fucking years— excuse my language and why you didn't, uh, come to a solution weeks into this, not years into this situation. You got something going on in the noodle, as I always say, and you need to figure that out, because if you don't, you're going to do this all over again with the next woman. And yes, I say next woman because you need to dump this woman and you need to go get you some tail. You either pay for it or do it the old-fashioned way. Go earn it. Get out there. Mingle. Alright, brother? Thanks for writing in.
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