Men often stay in bad relationships because they feel they have no better options, driven by low self-esteem and fear of loneliness. But data shows men actually have more sex after divorce, move on faster, and remarry sooner than women do.
It's a hyper, hyper abundance versus hyper scarcity. And both are wrong. Yeah, I deal with a lot of the men that are hyper scarcity. Well, why did you know, in essence, when I hear these horror stories of these men, I've been in a dead bedroom for 12 years and you're just like, Jesus, okay, go on. And I caught her cheating on me. Oh, wow. Okay. And she has a drinking problem. Jesus, keep going. And it just goes on and on and on. And then you're like, well, Bob, I gotta ask you, what keeps you around in this relationship? What are you doing? And invariably, after 30-minute speech, you can summarize everything with, I don't like myself very much. And because I don't like myself very much, I don't have any options. While I just told you, Ralph Brewer Brewer Brewer, these 97 horrible things, there are these 2 really great things about her. And if I dump her, I'm never going to find anybody else with those two great things. That's sad, but that's a mindset of a lot of people, men and women alike, you know, that are in these abusive relationships. But what we see online— thank you, online dating and so forth— is a lot of women have this, uh, while he may have these 97 great things about him, there are these two little things I don't like, and I think I can find somebody with the 99 that I do like.
It's like, what's really interesting to me too about that, the perception that I think a lot of guys have is that I think that a lot of guys think like, well, if I leave my wife or if I leave my girlfriend, then I'll be alone for a really long time. And a lot of women think like, well, if I dump him, I can just find someone else in no time. But if you actually like right now search, like, what do men's romantic relationships look like after a divorce versus women's? Men are the ones getting laid more, moving on faster, marrying again. Women are not, actually.
That's true. Yeah.
And so I think that's really interesting, is the reality of that situation is, is not lining up with the horrible preconceived notions or the super exaggerated preconceived notions that we may have had.
You're right. And
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