When exes who cheated come back after their new relationship fails, they're looking for something familiar and safe. The pattern repeats: within a few years, the cheating starts again. The speaker warns against taking them back, arguing that some people aren't built for monogamy.
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Tim says— Tim from Facebook says, uh, exactly what happened to me. Uh, after it doesn't work out with the other guy, uh, they most often come back. By then you're like, hell no. Yeah, this is— it's so clichéd, isn't it, Tim, that these things happen over and over and over again? And this happens to like kids, you know, teenagers dating, young adults dating, and older 30, 40, 50, 60-some-year-olds that are married for decades. Person says, I think I'm gonna go try a relationship with this person over here because I feel so goddamn good. It's got to be right. It's got to be meant to be. And they go and it doesn't work. And they're like, yeah, fuck, now what? And then they say, well, now what is I'm kind of adrift out here in the world. I'm lost. I'm kind of scared. I don't know where to go next. I kind of put all my eggs in new lover boy basket over here. Now what do I do? And they look around, they go, oh yeah, the guy I used to be with for decades in some cases. That's kind of the safe bet, isn't it? It's like, hey dude, you want to— more often than not it's no, I don't. I woke up from my stupor that I was in. But some guys do say, come on over, let's work this out. Has that ever worked for people? I'm sure it has. Have I talked to them? No, I haven't. The guys I talk to, they try it and And they usually say, goddammit, 2, 3 years later, if not sooner, she just does it all over again. Now these people got problems, typically. And the problem is they just ain't cut out for this whole long-term monogamy thing. Whatever. More power to them. Have fun, but they don't have to be connected to you.
