Boost Your Energy!

Boost your energy. This is a real skills workshop to help you be what matters. The things that emotionally matter to you take energy. And so we are getting together in this workshop to explore the skills and the attitudes and the approaches that help you be savvy with your energy, your physical energy, particularly your emotional energy, your mental clarity and other things coming together so that you get to have the experiences that really matter to you. I'm Rick from Thriving Now. I'm here with Cathy Vartulli from Thriving now and the intimacy Dojo.

Hi, everyone. Yeah, it's great to be here.

Did you want to talk about what we mean by energy? Because that can mean a lot of things to people, especially about this idea, boosting it. Right.

I think our society has a big drive and we're always supposed to have energy. We're supposed to push, we're supposed to use willpower, and we're supposed to, like always, 24 7, drink the coffee, eat the sugar, drink the energy, drink, whatever. Like, get going. Should jump out of bed, run all day. You get home, you do something else, you're going, going, going. Just so you know, that's not what we're talking about because that's very adrenaline driven. That's very social pressure driven. That's very. Perform all the time kind of push where our bodies are revving. And often we're using our survival brain, our adrenaline, our cortisol or fear to drive us, to keep us going. And that can just wear us out. And I have fingers pointing back at me because I. I've done that so much of my life, where, of course I can work 12 hours really hard and then come home and do some webinars and then record some videos and clean the house and like. But I was so tired all the time. I was dragging all the time. But I was so fearful that I was pushing myself. The problem was I was burning myself out and I wasn't actually addressing the issues of my fears, my anxieties, my worries. I was using them to kind of push myself to keep going. And that's hard on our bodies. It's hard on our nervous systems. It's hard on our friends. Um, so we're talking about a much more grounded and authentic energy that acknowledges self care, that acknowledges times we need rest. And there's a natural ebb and flow with that. It's not. We're not pinned all the way with our. Our foot on the gas pedal all the way, going 110 miles an hour all the time. As a minimum. That's acknowledging that there's an ebb and a flow. There's acknowledging that if we put out a lot of energy, which we wanna be able to have the energy and the focus to do when it's needed, that we may need to rest, we may need to kind of regather ourselves and give ourselves time to replenish. So kind of like just like an inhale and an exhale, like it's okay to. There may be times when we may need to put out a lot of energy. We may need to scream to get someone's attention or someone's in a bad place. We really want to be there. We want to be able to have the resources to do that. And we also want to acknowledge the self care that's needed and that we're not just a doing machine. We are beings that have an inflow and an outflow and it's okay to rev the engine sometimes and primitive brain even, but that we need to come back and let ourselves turn.

Absolutely. And you just touched on it. We're not doing machines. Even though that is a big part of the culture. It can be celebrated. I re. I've started watching a lot of nature movies a long time ago. I continue to do that because it helps me recalibrate. Because I think of the cheetah, one of the, you know, the fastest land animal and you look at how short a burst of that speed they can actually do without killing themselves. Yes. So here they are. This gives them a tremendous advantage and it's not successful very often, like one out of 20 times. And they need to know and feel in their body, hey, I really gave it my all and now I need to move my energy or something else. And if you put out a big burst of energy, what's your guess? What is. What would your body need to those areas?

And just asking them, maybe imagine that you're putting your hand on that particular area or putting it there if it reaches easily and asking what's kind of stopping the flow there? What's. What's holding things back. And sometimes it's habit or maybe we're sitting in an odd position or you weren't comfortable. But we get into habits where we kind of constrain the flow in our bodies. So just inviting that to kind of balance throughout your body. And if you want to notice your feet on the floor and imagine that they're just kind of opening up. I like to imagine the, the centers of my feet are opening up and letting energy flow up from the earth into my body just. And just take. If you'd like to close your eyes and take a deep breath and imagine that your feet are opening up and just receiving from the earth this beautiful. For me, it's often cool. I sometimes imagine the scent of pine. Whatever you like. Like, what would you like to invite to come into your body and kind of recharge? And then at the same time, you can allow extra energy, things that you have too much of. Maybe it's stress, maybe it's tension, maybe it's stale energy. Imagine that flowing out of your feet or out with your breath, if you like, which you can invite your body to see. Or maybe it's going out at the top of your head like a volcano. Maybe it's old anger that you haven't been able to process. So just imagine this beautiful, cool, clear energy coming in from the earth, fresh and clean, and it's kind of helping push out the energies that maybe you've been held onto or maybe you're stale or not needed or you have too much of, and just let. Let your body kind of be with that and get to a place where it feels a little more grounded, a little more filled up with good stuff and released some of that old, stale tension. Just take another nice, deep breath and this can go on. You don't have to, like, always pay attention to it, if that makes sense. You can invite that to continue going on on your background. And I just try to check in on it. And sometimes I realize I stopped doing it. But if you can make a little habit of, like, inviting that to go on in the background and kind of just checking and oh, yeah, I turned it off, I'm gonna turn it back on. That can really leave you feeling more balanced through the day.

So I put the. The inflow as a boost. And I also consider that there's attention and intention and some work involved in the letting go as well. And you're boosting your energy toward a state that matters to you, and that changes. As part of this series of workshops, I did have you pick a emotional state that matters to you, and I'd like you to tune into it if you have one. If. If not, you can pick one that's like, ooh, I would like to feel more this. That would matter to me. Whatever your intuition brings and notice that it's. It's not unreasonable to. To know that that will take energy. It will take. It will take energy to boost yourself into that state of being. It'll take energy to restore you back to that. You know, if we have a table and there's you know, someone's, you know, left a lot of crusty stuff all over it. It takes energy to restore the table to being clean and ready to eat on again. It takes energy to let go of yesterday's meal. There could be clenching, grunting, and work. And I say that because I. I want. Because I never had this notion that I'm not just a physical being, that there's energy moving in me. This concept of energy, medicine, energy, psychology and the like. This was transformational. Checkbox, checkbox, checkbox. Nothing wrong with checkbox. I do that too. But yeah, someone said I feel more aliveness in my core. That's a boost.

Like we can feel into our bodies. And I think there's. It's useful, I think if we can just come back. If you let yourself, like Rick was saying, just feel into your body and see how we're not necessarily balanced. There might be energy in some areas where your brain is buzzy, but your body is feeling very sluggish. We can invite. So just like I think energy follows intention often we can invite it to move to a certain area. And I do believe that we're surrounded by energy around us. Like, we can invite some of that in. I notice, like, if I'm around people I really trust, I often feel recharged and like. Like I'm feeling good and happy and playful. And if I'm with someone I don't feel so safe with, I tend to put up like a shield and I'm not letting so much energy in. So we don't have to necessarily generate all of our energy ourselves. We can fight it from our surroundings and our environment. And also our bodies want to have that balance. Like, so you. If you'd like to just feel into your body and just notice if there's any places that feel either pinched off or constrained or tense and just bringing some gentle attention and warmth to those areas and just asking them. Maybe imagine that you're putting your hand on that particular area or putting it there if it reaches easily and asking what's kind of stopping the flow there? What's. What's holding things back. And sometimes it's habit or maybe we're sitting in an odd position or you weren't comfortable. But we get into habits where we kind of constrain the flow in our bodies. So just inviting that to kind of balance throughout your body. And if you want to notice your feet on the floor and imagine that they're just kind of opening up, I like to imagine the centers of my feet are opening up and letting energy flow up from the earth into my body. Just, and just take. If you'd like to close your eyes and take a deep breath and imagine that your feet are opening up and just receiving from the earth this beautiful. For me, it's often cool. I sometimes imagine the scent of pine. Whatever you like. Like, what would you like to invite to come into your body and kind of recharge? And then at the same time, you can allow extra energy, things that you have too much of. Maybe it's stress, maybe it's tension, maybe it's stale energy. Imagine that flowing out of your feet or out with your breath, if you like, which you can invite your body to see. Or maybe it's going out of the top of your head like a volcano. Maybe it's old anger that you haven't been able to process. So just imagine this beautiful, cool, clear energy coming in from the earth, fresh and clean, and it's kind of helping push out the energies that maybe you've been held onto or maybe you're stale or not needed or you have too much of, and just let, let your body kind of be with that and get to a place where it feels a little more grounded, a little more filled up with good stuff and released some of that old, stale tension. Just take another nice deep breath and this can go on. You don't have to like always pay attention to it, if that makes sense. You can invite that to continue going on on your background. And I just try to check in on it. And sometimes I realize I stopped doing it. But if you can make a little habit of like inviting that to go on in the background and kind of just checking and oh, yeah, I turned it off, I'm going to turn it back on. That can really leave you feeling more balanced through the day.

So I put the, the inflow as a boost. And I also consider that there's a tension and intention and some work involved in the letting go as well. And you're boosting your energy toward a state that matters to you and that changes. As part of this series of workshops, I did have you pick a emotional state that matters to you, and I'd like you to tune into it if you have one. If, if not, you can pick one that's like, oh, I would like to feel more this. That would matter to me. Whatever your intuition brings and notice that it's. It's not unreasonable to, to know that that will take energy. It will take, it will take energy to boost yourself into that state of being. It'll take energy to restore you back to that. You know, if we have a table and there's, you know, someone's, you know, left a lot of crusty stuff all over it. It takes energy to restore the table to being clean and ready to eat on again. It takes energy to let go of yesterday's meal. There could be clenching, grunting, and work. And I say that because I. I want. Because I never had this notion that I'm not just a physical being, that there's energy moving in me. This concept of energy, medicine, energy, psychology and the like, this was transformational to me because it opened up an awareness that, you know, okay, I've got a headache, but where's my energy? Oh, my energy's all like here, and my neck is, like, trying to hold my body. The energy, it was palpable. Once I asked the question, where's my energy now? And what would it take to, like, unwinding is a state of being. It's active. And as Kathy says, you know, once you dig the irrigation ditch and you get some flow going in it, you don't have to pay attention to it all the time, but maybe one of the walls collapses and think parts of it are being cut off. The meridian system, which has been with human awareness for thousands of years, that's a circuit. It flows. And fundamentally, Chinese medicine is about picking up where you need, where you have a lot of energy and where you're deficient and low and helping you, assisting you in moving it. Tapping is a boost of energy, even if what it's doing is taking you from being terrified to being back in your body. You've boosted the parts of you that say, I'm okay. Does that make sense? There's a whole thought, I'm okay. There's a whole biochemistry, I'm okay. There's a posture, like, if I'm scared, my physical posture is, I'm not okay. Even though I'm not okay. I'm actually surprisingly safe right here, right now. Even though those taxes made me feel just really terrified.

Your taxes will be the net.

I'm choosing to be calm and confident because that matters to me, that choosing.

To be calm and confident. I think that's our very powerful and sustaining place of energy. And there. So, like, I. I think of that, like the calm and confident energy that we're going through, or we can be focused and tuned into what we need to. We may have times that spike, something emergency may happen, we come back to that, and then there may be times when we allow ourselves to just Have a downtime. I've. That was something I really struggled with. I had a really hard time just chilling and Covid is.

I remember.

Yeah. I was like, no, we have to do stuff. Let's do the next thing.

Here's the 20 page outline for our one hour workshop.

Yes. Our first, first couple workshops were like that.

We were very well prepared.

We were prepared for like a year long course, for an hour course. But I didn't.

And now we're on three by five cards.

Yeah. Well, just like a little post it with some notes. So. Um. It only took 16 years, but I think if we can. We can envision our life as a place where we're allowing energy and sustaining energy in from the environment around us, from the earth, from the air, from the. From the. Here it's rainy. I just love to imagine that rain kind of washing away old things I don't need. From people around us that love us. From the food we eat, the air we breathe. It's all like. It's sustaining us and giving us more energy. But then we can. If we can just see ourselves as kind of like we want to come back. We want to have this baseline of calm and confident with some spikes up, some. Some lulls down while we recover, but just kind of like a gentle fluctuation around that space. And knowing that if we do have to go to a sustained. Like there's been times when I've had to have three or four days of really high output. Okay, let me plan a weekend where I can just be really quiet. I'm gonna curl up with a book. I'm gonna, you know, make sure I take care of myself and replenish myself. So I think that if we can. I love that EFT keeps coming back to that calm and confident. And I think that grounded, authentic energy flow. I know that I get a lot more done when I'm in that space of calm confidence where I can sit down, I can look at things logically versus I would often be in the past. I would be very frenetic and adrenaline and I would get a lot done. But it was bouncing around and doing a little bit of this and this and this and having to retrace that. And so I really think that when I can come in a calm, confident way, I get more accomplished with less expenditure and less wear and tear on my system.

Yeah. Oh. So I.

You tappiness.

I see, I see some. I see some people that I know do activities that, you know, whether it's art or martial arts or other types of project management and all kinds of things. I'm wondering if you want to share in the chat. Like what's something that you have found that helps you boost energy toward being in that state like in your creative artwork. Is there something physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually that boosts your energy in that direction of that state of being. Not the doing necessarily of it, but helps prepare you to be in the. The state of being that you know is. Has got flow and and energies available to that what matters to you. Anyone have anything.

Look to love to see what people doing artwork and dance.

I read on Twitter today a very. A person who writes a lot and. And they said that they go for a walk before they ever sit down to write that that walking their partner said to them that only took you 10 minutes how. And no, I walked for an hour and then I came back and my state of being was exactly right. There's that moving energy, boosting energy and the physiology and the. And the getting all the things attuned to for them. The writing act is one that is ripened after the walk.

Yeah.

What else? Art Play with friends.

Journal guided meditations, tapping abstract painting. I love Art Play with friends. That's really lovely. I had a friend here for a couple days and we just had a lovely time and it was really. We were both very easy. So sometimes we kind of debrief about. We were both doing coaching sessions. At one point we kind of debriefed about like I felt like I did a good job or I was struggling with getting this concept of court across without giving any confidentiality. How do I. How could you think I could explain this better? Like it was the kind of breathing and then other times we would sit and watch. We watch Never have I ever. Which is a Netflix show that was quite lovely. Um, but like we were alternating between like kind of digging deep and brainstorming with each other about how to do a better job. And also like playing like just kind of like oh, let's binge watch this for another couple episodes. I should go to bed. Let's watch one more. Um, so there was a like I don't know that felt. Left me feeling really recharged as well. So that like kind of co creation in play and in. In like I love co creating with you, Rick. That's really fun for me. Someone said I do martial arts things that get me ready to go for class and events or things getting or getting changed into the costume. The GI and going onto the mat, the new warmups and greeting everyone. Getting used to the idea of being there. It's like a ritual in a way. Yeah, I love that. Like, there's ways we can kind of line ourselves up. And I love the idea of if we want to get work done and we're having trouble with it, we can create a ritual that helps us drop in faster. Like, is it lighting a candle? Is it, like, sitting in a particular place or putting. I put on my pink playlist. I love pink. If I need to clean my house or get something done, like taxes that I don't like to, I, like, put that on. And that's like, I drop in really fast. My brain has learned that we play pink, we get stuff done, and we jam out to it. So ritual is great.

Well, and let's. Let's. That leads us to, like, why? Why do we have to do it this work? You know, why? What? And, well, coming to understand that in the human brain, we not only have a primitive brain, which I think has been so conditioned through our schooling and everything else, As I look back at my whole school experience, I was in my primitive brain most of the time. And it's not a surprise that when I went into business for myself, that I brought that same kind of energy pattern. We have a big swath of our thinking brain called the default mode network. And it says, well, what do we do without thinking of. And so if somebody comes home and they sit down and they grab the remote control and they turn on Netflix, that's in the default mode network. Are the things that we do regularly unconscious? It's not even ne. I don't think the unconscious is necessarily the right expression for me. To me, it's like, well, what do I do if I'm not thinking about it? When I get up in the morning, I go and I make my coffee. That's in my default mode network. If I wanted to change that, I would need to boost energy in a different way. And so acknowledging that there's a skill of practicing a. Make it a ritual. If a ritual works for you, make it a activation. Like when I walk into the room or I do this, it can be something that when you find yourself. Like, for me, I'm so improvisational that when I. I've been practicing eagerness. So for me, eagerness is not part of my default mode. I am working consciously with skill to get it there. And what I notice is that I have associated. Now, if I'm overwhelmed, looking at my to do list, unclear about what I am to do, the pattern for me is like, hmm, well, what Matters to me be what matters of these tasks which is the work that matters to me right now. Like has that accessibility. Oh I'm grateful for the opportunity. And then I can lean in. I have to actually. Even if I'm sitting in a meditative posture with a computer in my lap, I need to lean in a little bit and physically change my posture to activate something that feels to me as that like the spark. Eagerness I've come to understand is not like a state of being that lasts a long time. It's like that very potent moment when you go from this is a match to this is a lit match. But that's not where it ends. Now I'm going to be putting it to the what matters. And as soon as I get into get some energy boosted around the what matters. It's acting as. As an activation energy for me. I don't stay in what I would call the eager state. That's just me. Some people are eager much of their lives. My nine year old.

But I think we can also reinforce the neural pathways that create that.

Yes. It's become easier and easier now that I'm aware of. Oh I have this energy it wants to express like overwhelm to me is like I. It feels like this and, and like what matters to me brings the energy down into my heart. So now more of that energy is going down into my heart and as it, as it boosts this, the energy here, my vision changes and I'm clearer. My mental clarity because there's less noise to you know, I've moved the energy down. It can point to that one. That's the one that we're right for. You're. You're it. It's. It's next. And if I then like it matters to me to be eager about my life. Like it just feels more alive and meaningful to me to have that little spark rather than okay, gotta grab the sledgehammer then work my way into the hard labor of my life. Which I can. Which isn't true but I can certainly, I can certainly wind myself into that. Does that make sense?

Yeah, I, I like. I like how you're employing that. Um, and we kind of touched on it a little bit already. But I want to emphasize that there's. We like when Rick's trying to get things done. He's done his over 800 days now on his morning miles. So that's a physical exertion but also there's emotional too I think especially until we get into the habit of it doing something new can feel Scary or unusual. And if we have a default mode of like going to, laying, laying on the couch or on the bed and just kind of collapsing, changing that. Even if we're taking baby steps, which Rick and I always encourage, like, okay, maybe you walk around the house once or you like, you know, I have a treadmill right here. Maybe I do a couple minutes of treadmill before I lay on the bed. Any, any change like that is going to take some also some, some energy that psychic, psychic, like emotional mental energy to do our willpower. If we keep doing it though, that amount of willpower goes needed, goes down because there's a habit, the neural pathways actually grow that way. And there's still the emo, the energetic output of like physically walking. And our bodies are very adaptive. So one of the things that happens is someone will start walking and they, the body learns to do it more efficiently and it gets in shape so it's less energy needed for that. So if we want to build good habits that will sustain us in our life, that doesn't mean we need to run a marathon every day, but maybe we, we start associate and associative things can help. So if every time I brush my teeth, I tap, they become linked and then I just, I only have to remember to do one and then they become linked and I do them together. So if I walk through the. You can whatever your schedule allows. But if I walk through the door and instead of collapsing on the couch and watching tv, I first get on the treadmill for a little bit of time, that after a while walking through the door becomes associated with that. Um, and it's amazing how powerful that is. I for a while was listening to this particular podcast that was encouraging me to do too much for my body. But every time I'd hear that podcast, I'd want to get on the treadmill. Cuz I used to want listen to it on the treadmill. Um, so just remember we can link things together to kind of like, you know, I don't know if, you know, when people bike race, they race right behind each other to kind of draft on each other. There's less energy needed.

And the other thing is energy psychology and the like. This was transformational to me because it opened up an awareness that, you know, okay, I've got a headache, but where's my energy? Oh, my energy's all like here and my neck is like trying to hold my body. The energy, it was palpable. Once I asked the question, where's my energy now?

And what a lot of And I do this all the time. I think however hard it is today is how hard it's always going to be.

What it take to, like, unwinding is a state of being. It's active. And as Kathy says, you know, once you dig the irrigation ditch and you get some flow going in it, you don't have to pay attention to it all the time, but maybe one of the walls collapses and think parts of it are being cut off. The meridian system, which is me for.

The rest of my life. So if it's like, oh, my God.

This is so hard to get so hard, would you.

Oh, my God. And I want to. Yes, yes. Let's do some tapping.

It's so hard to be that today.

It's so hard to be that today.

Go ahead. And with human awareness for thousands of years, that.

Okay, I thought you were gonna leave it. Karate job. Even though I'm convinced it's always gonna be this.

It's a circuit. It flows. And fundamentally, Chinese medicine is about picking up where you need, where you have a lot of energy and where you're deficient and low and helping you, assisting you in moving it. Tapping is a boost of energy. Even if what. It's hard. Even though a part of me is convinced it will always be this hard, what it's doing is taking you from being terrified to being back in your body. You've boosted the parts of you that say, I'm okay. Does that make sense? There's a whole thought, I'm okay. There's a whole biochemistry, I'm okay. There's a posture, like, if I'm scared, my physical posture is I'm not okay. Even though I'm not awkward.

No wonder I'm really resistant to this.

No wonder I'm always resistant. Okay. I'm actually surprisingly safe right here, right now. Resistant to this.

Maybe I'll be okay.

Maybe I will be okay.

Maybe it will get easier.

And maybe it will get easier, even.

Though I am so resistant.

Even though that those taxes made me feel just really terrified.

Taxes will do that. And I don't want to do this.

Even though I'm so resistant. I don't want to do this. It's too hard. I'm. I'm choosing to be calm and confident because that matters to me, that choosing.

To be calm and confident. What if it will get a little bit easier each day?

What if it will get.

I think that's a very powerful and sustaining place of energy. And there. So, like, I. I think of that, like the calm and confident energy that we're going through or we can be focused and tuned into what we need to. We may have times that spike something emergency may happen. We come back to that. And then there may be times when we allow ourselves just have a downtime. That was something I really struggled with.

Get a little easier over time, I'm not willing to say. Each day.

I had a really hard time just chilling and Covid I remember I was like, no, we have to do stuff, let's do the next thing. My experience and I'd be really surprised later on how easy it has got.

Here's the 20 page outline for a one hour workshop.

Yes.

I might be really surprised later on how easy it has gotten.

Top of the head. I have so much resistance.

I have so much resistance.

Ibrah. I don't want to let this energy flow.

I don't want to let this energy flow.

Saria. It's so hard.

It's so hard.

Yeah, I feel tired just thinking about it.

I feel tired just thinking about it.

And then our first, first couple workshops were like that.

We were very well prepared.

We were prepared for like a year long course, for an hour course. But I didn't.

And now we're on three by five cards.

Yeah. Well, just like a little post it with some notes. So it only took 16 years. But I think if we can, we can envision our life as a place where we're allowing energy and sustaining energy in from the environment around us, from the earth, from the air, from the. From the. Here it's rainy. I just love to imagine that rain kind of washing away old things I don't need from people around us that love us, from the food we eat, the air we breathe. It's all like it's sustaining us and giving us more energy. But then we can, if we can just see ourselves as kind of like we want to come back. We want to have this baseline of calm. And I do want to start moving forward with this.

And I want to start moving forward with this.

And what if I can just take it in baby steps?

What if I can just calm and.

Confident with some spikes up, some, some lulls down while we recover, but just kind of like a gentle fluctuation around that space and knowing that if we do have to go to a sustained like there's been time, take it in baby steps collarbone and allow myself to notice how much easier it is when I've had to have three or four days of really high output. Okay, let me plan a weekend where I can just be really quiet. I'm gonna curl up with a book. I'm gonna, you know, make sure I take care of myself and replenish myself. So I think that if we can. I love that eft keeps coming back to that calm and confident. And I think that grounded, authentic energy flow. I know that I get a lot more done when I'm in that space.

Of calm skating and allow myself to notice how much easier it's getting.

Calm confidence where I can sit down, I can look at things logically versus I would often be in the past. I would be very frenetic and adrenaline and I would get a lot under there. Let my survival brain actually notice I'm surviving doing this.

Let my survival brain notice I'm actually surviving doing this.

Top of the head. Cause it's convinced I'm going to die if I walk on that treadmill. Yeah, done. But it was bouncing around and doing a little bit of this and this and this and having to retrace that. And so I really think that when I can come in a calm, confident way, I get more accomplished with less expenditure and less wear and tear on my system.

Yeah, I'm going to be punished. Oh, so I reach happiness. I see. I see some. I see some people that I know do activities that, you know, whether it's art or martial arts or other types of just.

Whatever it is for you. But I do know that my survival.

Project management and all kinds of things.

Brain can be very dramatic at times. And if I say like, oh, I want to do that, it's like, oh, my.

I'm wondering if you want to share in the chat, like, what's something that you have found that helps you boost energy toward being in that state? Like, in your creative artwork, is there something physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually that that boosts your energy in that.

God, it's every day. It's gonna be so hard. It's gonna be. I'll be so tired. I want energy. And I'm like, really two minutes on the treadmill today. Like, that's so hard. And then before I had hurt myself, I was like, I was at 30 minutes a day really easily, like, direction.

Of that state of being. Not the doing necessarily of it, but. But it helps prepare you to be in the state of being that, you know, has got flow and energies available to that what matters to you. Anyone have anything.

Love to see what people just gradually increasing. And my body was really enjoying it. And now my knee is finally healed and I'm ready doing artwork and dance.

I read on Twitter today a very a Person who writes a lot and.

Get back on the treadmill. And my survival brain is like being such a diva and I try to be kind to it.

And they said that they go for a walk before they ever sit down to write that walking. Their partner said to them, some days I'm like, really?

Really? You're that terrified to get on the treadmill? We've done this before. It's not that hard. So, you know, just if we can notice that there's a lot of drama.

In our head that only took you 10 minutes. How. And no, I walked for an hour and then I came back sometimes.

And that can. The fear of that dramatic thing can.

Be like, oh, and my state of being was exactly right. There's that moving energy, boosting energy into the physiology and the. And the getting all the things attuned to for them. The writing act is one that is ripened.

Oh, I just don't even want to go there. Versus gently stepping forward into whatever after the walk. Yeah. Anyone else you want to create and things that would be worthwhile to you? That's worthwhile. That's worth.

Art, play with friends.

Journal guided meditations, tapping abstract painting. I love art. Putting out some energy for.

You said about like, when people are bike racing.

Or play with friends. That's really lovely. I had a friend here for a couple days and we just had a lovely time. And it was really. We were both very easy. So sometimes we.

They draft and there's kind of debrief about.

We were both doing coaching sessions. At one point. We kind of debriefed about like, I felt like I did a good job or I was struggling with getting this concept of court across without giving any confidentiality. How do I. How could you think I could explain this better? Like, it was the kind of breathing. And then other times we would sit and watch. We watch Never have I Ever, which is a Netflix show that was quite lovely. But like, we are alternating between.

To me, the real, real skills. If you have a skill that you've been working on, like, maybe it's.

I can be like kind of digging deep and brainstorming with each other about how to do a better job. And also like playing, like just kind of like, oh, let's binge watch this for another couple episodes. I should go to bed. Let's watch one more. Um, so there was like. Like, I don't know. That felt left me feeling really recharged as well. So that like kind of.

I can give myself space. And right now that. That looks like I go And I lie down. Right. You can add to that.

Well co creation in play and in.

In I. I go and lie down by adding to that.

Like I love co creating with you Rick. That's really fun for me. Um, someone said I do martial arts, uh, things that get me ready to go for class and events or things getting or getting changed into the costume, the GI and going on onto the mat, the new warmups and greeting everyone. Getting used to the idea of being there. It's like a ritual in a way. Yeah, I love that like there's ways we can kind of line ourselves up and I love the idea like when.

I go lie down it's an awareness I'm needing, wanting and taking space. I am, I'm giving myself idea of.

If we want to get work done and we're having trouble with it, we can create a ritual that helps us drop in faster. Like is it lighting a candle? Is it like sitting in a particular place or putting. I put on my pink playlist. I love pink. If I need to clean my house or get something done like taxes that I don't like to, I like put that on and that's like, like I.

Call it a horizontal reset. Now imagine I lie down like oh, I'm so tired. I just can't face this. Just the act of lying down, I.

Drop in really fast. My brain has learned that we play pink, we get stuff done and we jam out to it. So ritual is great.

Well and let's, let's. That leads us to like why. Why do we have to do it this work? You know, why what and well coming to understand is. Does change us right? Like our physiology, our breathing stand that in the human brain we not only have a primitive brain which I think has been so conditioned through our schooling and everything else. As I look back at my whole schooling the way that gravity works in our body it is going to do something experience. I was in my primitive brain most of the time and it's not a. It's not a surprise that when I went into business for myself that I brought that same kind of energy pattern. We have a big swath of our thinking brain called when you add the layer of well what do I want to call this all the default mode network. And it says well what do we do without of hiding? Well that's. Yes. And that's your primitive brain may thinking of. And so if somebody comes home what are you doing? On the positive side, when you lie down and they sit down and they grab the remote control and they turn On Netflix that's in the default mode network. Are the things that we do regularly unconscious. It's not even ne. Oh, well, I'm giving my sense of myself a chance to regulate. Well, what. I don't think the unconscious is necessarily the right expression for me. To me, it's like, well, what do I do if I'm not thinking about it when I get up? Could you add where in your body could use a boost of regulating? In the morning, I go and I make my coffee. That's in my default mode network. If I wanted to change that, I would need to boost energy in a different way. And so that comfort energy. So, for example, acknowledging that there's a skill of practicing a It making a ritual. If a. You know, I may need to hold a part of my body or two parts of my body need to. Meaning it's so strong when I tune into it. Ritual works for you. Make it a activation. Like when I walk into the room or I do this, it can be that it feels like so right. It's. It's. It's like it's something that when you find yourself, like, for me, I'm so improvisational that when I. I've been practicing so right to hold myself right there. And you're like, oh, okay, that practicing eagerness. So for me, eagerness is not part of my default mode. I am working consciously with skill to get it there. And what I notice is that really is a reset. And then you start coming up with. You tell me I have associated. Now if I'm overwhelmed, looking at my to do list, unclear about what I am to do people instead of, I'm gonna go lie down, I'm gonna go give myself a horizontal reset. I assure you that people react to that a little differently. The pattern for me is like, hmm, well, what matters to me be what matters of these tasks, which is the work that matters to me right now, like, has that accessibility. Oh, I'm grateful for the opportunity. Weird, right? And. And then I can lean in. I have to actually. Even if I'm sitting in a meditative posture with a computer in my lap, I need to lean in a little bit and physically change my posture. And you're tuning yourself a little differently too, or like a nap to activate something that feels to me as that, like the spark. Eagerness I've come to understand is not like a state of being that means something horizontal reset. For me, you get. You get to decide what that looks like, what it sounds, lasts a long time. It's like that very Potent moment when you go from this is a match to this is a lit match but that's not where it ends now like what what it's what it's like for you to change your state of being. How I'm going to be putting it to the the what matters and as soon as I get into get some energy boosted around the what matter and yeah matters it's acting as. As an activation energy for me. I don't stay in what I would call the eager state. That's just me. Some people are eager much of their lives my 9 year old.

But I think we can also reinforce the neural pathways that create that yes it's become.

Easier and easier now that I'm aware of oh I have this energy it wants to express like overwhelm to me is like I. It feels like this and and like what matters to me brings the energy down into my heart. So now more of that energy is going down into my heart and as it. As it boosts this the energy here my vision changes and I'm clearer my mental clarity because there's less noise. You know I've moved the energy down it can. There's a If you're having trouble like again I could not go from overwhelmed to eager about something. There is no pathway. Okay there's no bridge across the Grand Canyon. And it felt like that. But I can ground myself and I can notice what matters to me because I was practicing what matters and point to that one. That's the one that we're right for. You're. You're it. It's. It's next. And if I then like it matters to me to be eager about my life like it just feels more when I would not want to alive and meaningful to me to have that little spark rather than okay gotta grab the sledgehammer. So on the morning mile one I was free to not go it wasn't 800 days and work my way into the hard labor of my life which I can which isn't true but I can certainly I can certainly wind myself into that straight. There were a few days when I had Covid definitely was not my body. Does that make sense?

Yeah I like.

I like how your body's desire to go do that.

Playing it um and we kind of touched on it a little bit already. But I want to emphasize that there's we like when Rick's trying to get things done.

I think one time when I was sick I gave myself credit for the morning mile because I walked out he's.

Done his over 800 days now on his morning mile. So that's a physical exertion. But also there's emotional too. I think especially until we get into the habit of it. Doing something new can feel scary or unusual. And if we have a default mode of like going to laying, laying on.

The couch or outside, just walked outside, took a few breaths of fresh air.

Or on the bed and just kind of collapsing, changing that even if we're.

Taking baby steps, which so like 15 steps. And that was my morning mile and sometimes I go two miles.

Drake and I always encourage like okay maybe you walk around the house once or you like, you know I have a treadmill right here. Maybe I do a couple minutes of treadmill before I lay on the.

But I said I shared in the email and it's any.

Any change like that is going to take some also some. Some energy that psychic. Psychic like emotional mental energy to do our willpower on the.

The. The page where we're describing this as well. I needed.

If we keep doing it though, that amount of willpower goes needed, goes down because there's a habit the neural pathways actually grow that way. And there's still the emo, the energetic.

A stack of whys. Because some days output of like physically.

Walking and our bodies are very adaptive. So one of the things that happens is someone will start walking and they. The body learns to do it more efficiently and it gets in shape so it's less energy needed for that.

Like I may be just like so tired of parenting.

So if we want to build good habits that will sustain us in our life, that doesn't mean we need to run a marathon every day, but maybe we. We start associate and associative things can help. So if every time I brush my teeth I tap they become linked and then I just. I only have to remember to do one and then they become linked and I do them together. So if I walk through the.

You can whatever your schedule that the idea of living a long and vital life for my children. Actually there's no like.

But if I walk through the door and instead of collapsing on the couch and watching tv, I first get on the treadmill for a little bit of time. That after a while walking through the door becomes associated.

Not gonna get me on the trail. Right. But to let nature with that.

Um. And it's amazing how powerful that is. I for a while was listening to this particular podcast that was encouraging me to do too much for my body. But every time I'd hear that podcast I'd wanna get on the treadmill. Cause I used to want listen to it on the treadmill.

Reset my nervous system.

So just remember we can link things together to kind of like, you know, I don't know if, you know, when people bike race, they race right behind each other to kind of draft to.

Be able to replenish myself with some beauty.

Each other. There's less energy needed. And the other thing is a lot of. And I do this all the time. I think however hard it is today is how hard it's always going to be for the rest of my life. So if it's like, oh, my God, this is so hard to get so hard.

Would you look at that?

Oh, my God. And I want to. Yes. Yes. Let's do some tapping.

It's so hard to be able to shake it out and. And in a different space to tune in to my guidance about where to go and how long to walk and really tune into my body. Be that today.

It's so hard to be that today.

Go ahead.

Okay. I thought you were going to lead it.

Yeah.

Karate job. Even though I'm convinced it's always gonna.

Be this hard, even though a part of me is convinced it will always be this hard.

No wonder I'm really resistant to this.

No wonder I'm always resistan. So when you have. And I know that some of you are not writers, you know, you don't tend to think in terms of resistant to this.

Maybe I'll be okay.

Maybe I will be okay.

Maybe it will get easier.

And maybe it will get easier even.

Though I am so resistant.

Make a song out of it or something. But I. I have noticed, and I.

Don'T want to do this.

Even though I'm so resistant, I don't want to do this. It's too hard.

What if it will get a little bit easier each day?

What if it will get a little easier over time? I'm not willing to say each day hasn't been my experience.

I might be really surprised later on how easy it has gotten I might.

Be really surprised later on how easy it has gotten very consistently that if in all the cases where I had trouble being consistent with something top of the head.

I have so much resistance.

I have so much resistance.

Eyebrow. I don't want to let this energy flow.

I don't want to let this energy flow.

Sadia. It's so hard.

It's so hard.

Yeah. I feel tired.

I did not have a list of whys that meant enough to me across my life to be able to find a pathway to boost my.

Just thinking about it.

I feel tired just thinking about it under the nose.

And I do want to start moving forward with this, and I want to.

Start moving forward with this.

And what if I can just take it in baby steps?

What if I can just. Energy. Inspiration is one way, but I'll take it in baby steps.

Collarbone. And allow myself to notice how much.

Easier it's getting and allow myself to notice how much easier it's getting under there.

Let my survival brain actually notice I'm surviving doing this.

Let my survival brain notice I'm actually surviving doing this.

Top of the head. Because it's convinced I'm going to die if I walk on that treadmill.

Yeah. So encouragement and just that gentle, compassionate reminder that I'm going to be punished.

Notice whatever it is for you. But I do know that my survival.

This is good for me. And then when you go out. I remember the first time that I went out when it was ugly.

Raining, like cold rain can be very dramatic at times. And if I say, like, oh, I want to do that, it's like, oh, my God, it's every day. It's going to be so hard. It's going to be. I'll be so tired.

I want wet in your face rain. Where Rick.

Energy. And I'm like, really? Two minutes on the treadmill today. Like, that's so hard. And then before I had hurt myself, I was like, I was at 30 minutes a day really easily, like, just gradually increasing. And my body was really enjoying it. And now my knees finally healed.

And I would never have gone out before, but one of my lists was, I want to experience nature, get back on the treadmill.

And my survival brain is like, being such a diva. And I try to be kind to it. And some days I'm like, really? Really? You're that terrified to get on the treadmill? We've done this before. It's not that hard.

Yeah.

So, you know, just if we can notice that there's a lot of drama in our head sometimes and that can. The fear of that dramatic thing can be like, oh, I just don't even want to go there. Versus gently stepping forward into whatever and.

Know that there's no bad weather, there may be weather that's unsafe that I wouldn't go out in. But a rain like that with the right gear, which I had, you want.

To create and things that would be worthwhile to you. That's worthwhile. That's worth.

I didn't want to always feel repulsed by weather that wasn't Worth putting out some energy for. Perfect. I still remember about 500 you said about, like when people are bike racing, they draft and there's to me, the real, real skills. If you have yards into it, I looked at and I am just drenched and it's cold. A skill that you've been working on. Like, maybe it's. I can, I can give myself space. And right now that, that looks like I go and I lie down, Right? You can add to that. Well, I, I go and lie down by adding to that. Like when I go lie down, it's an awareness and I'm, I'm needing. But the, the energy that was in that woods. Pine, big pine trees. You were talking about smelling pine. I stopped. I felt wanting and, and taking space. I am, I'm giving myself to. I felt like, you know, there is nobody else out here. Like, I call it a horizontal reset. Now imagine I lie down like, oh, I'm so tired. I just can't face this. Just the act of lying down is. Does change us, right? Like our physiology, our breathing, the. The way that gravity works in our body. It is going to do something. And I'm getting to experience nature in a way that I've never experienced it before. And there was also that sense when you add the layer of. Well, what do I want to call this? Of hiding. Well, that's. Yes. And that's your primitive brain. Maybe. What are you doing on the positive side when you lie down? Oh, well, I'm giving my sense of myself a chance to regulate. Well, what could you add where in your body could use a boost of regulating? I'm living my why I'm being in my why. Comfort. Energy. So, for example, what matters to me.

Um, I think it can be helpful.

If that's, you know, I may need to hold a part of my body or two parts of my body need to.

Like I've had moments of flow where it was just so easy to get things done and I didn't experience meaning.

It's so strong when I tune into it that it feels like so right. It's, it's. It's like. It's so right to hold myself right there. And you're like, oh, okay.

That makes it mean heavy or hard. So just noticing what those are for.

You could be a really is a reset. And then you start coming up with.

Yep, you tell good way to kind of go, huh? What? Where can I get some good flow people?

Instead of, I'm gonna go lie down, I'm gonna go give myself a horizontal reset. I assure you that people react to that a little differently. It's kind of weird, right? And you're tuning yourself a little differently too like a nap.

Can I help my body? Because I think if we're really stuck I work with a lot of people.

That are in business mean something horizontal reset for me you get. You get to decide what that looks like what it sounds.

Like it. It's like if we're like what it.

What it's what it's like for you to change your state of being stuck.

It's hard to get flowing but if we can get a little trickle going we can start getting.

And yeah there's. If you're having trouble like again I could not go from overwhelmed to eager about something.

Getting a little bit of a stream and moving. So like thinking about places and times.

When you've had There is no pathway. Okay. There's no bridge across the Grand Canyon. And it felt like some good flow.

And inviting that for yourself and trying to set that up can be really.

Helpful that but I can ground myself and I can notice what matters to me because I was practicing what matters and when I would not want to go on the morning mile one I was free to not go. It wasn't 800 days and I think.

Kindness someone said they loved how I.

Talked with straight There were a few days when I had Covid definitely was not my body's desire to go do that. I think one time when I was sick I gave myself credit for the morning mile because I walked out outside just walked outside took a few breaths of fresh air.

I try to be kind to my primitive brain. There are times when I'm like serious.

So like 15 steps and that was my morning mile and sometimes I go two miles.

I just. But I do know that good boundaries it's okay to tell like you're like adira, I love you. I know you can't color in the.

Wild but I said I shared in the email and it's on the the the page where we're describing this as well I needed.

I still feel a little guilty cuz I could have painted them afterwards. And she really wanted to a stack.

Of whys because some days like I may be just like so tired of parenting that the idea of living a long and vital life for my children actually there's no like but she was.

Here she asked to come around my walls and I told her no.

And she's not going to get me on the trail right. But to let nature reset my nervous system to be able to replenish myself with some beauty to be able to shake it out and and in a different space.

Went into such dejection and disappointment when you're too for me some.

Kindness for to tune in to my guidance about where to go and how long to walk and really tune into.

My body selves about our energy flow and if we have blocks our survival brain is really trying to help us body up.

So when you have and I know that some of you are not writers, you know, you don't tend to think in terms of lists make a song out of it or something. But I. I have noticed very consistently that.

These patterns we have I do a lot of integration by parts work.

With part if in all the cases where I had trouble being consistent with something I did not have a list of whys that meant enough to me.

Parts therapy we talk about younger selves a lot. Whatever's blocking us is really across my.

Life to be able to find a pathway to boost my energy. Inspiration is one way but also encouragement and just that gentle, compassionate reminder that.

Really doing it because it thinks it's going to help us, it's going to protect us from something that's scary.

This is good for me. And then when you go out I remember the first time and maybe we.

Learned that like we had a lot of exuberance when we were little and someone was like whoa, that's too much. Or you were like how I was.

That I went out when it was ugly raining. Like cold, wet in your face rain where Rick would never have gone out before. But one of my lists was I want to experience nature and know that there's no bad weather. There may be weather that's unsafe that I wouldn't go out in.

But maybe Marvel's so tired seeing the kid with a lot of energy. It was like in a rain like.

That with the right gear, which I had. I didn't want to always feel repulsed by weather that wasn't perfect. I still remember about 500 yards into it I looked at and I am just drenched and it's cold. But the. The energy that was in that woods, like where.

Where are you getting this energy from? Like they felt jealous.

Maybe a parrot pine. Big pine trees. You were talking about smelling pine. I stopped. I felt jealous.

Whatever it was. There's. We could have been judged very harshly for having energy. And we, you know, that's one of the blocks that can come up. And then also like when we have a lot of energy, people expect a lot out of us sometimes. So it.

You Know, I felt like, you know, there is nobody else out here. And I'm getting to experience nature in a way that I've never experienced it before. And there was also that sense of I'm living my why I'm being in my why what matters to me.

I think it can be helpful if that's like, oh, if I show I have energy to do this, they're going to want me to do it all the time, forever. So if I don't, you know, like, I've had moments of flow where it was just so easy to get things done and I didn't experience it being heavy or hard. So just noticing what those are for, you could be a good way to kind of go, huh, what? Where can I get some good flow? Where can I help my body? Because I think if we're really stuck, I work with a lot of people that are in business. Like, maybe I shouldn't feel too much energy. It's protective. I. I would also, um, it. It's like if we're can get sick when I visited home because I didn't have good boundaries and they would want me stuck, that it's hard to get flowing. But if we can get a little trickle going, we can start to do all this work, this labor. And I didn't know how to say no. And as I got to learn how to say no, getting a little bit of a stream and moving. So like, thinking about places and times when you've had some good flow and inviting that for yourself and try to set that up can be really helpful better. There was some conflict because my parents really liked me doing all this. This work. And I think kindness and someone said they loved how I talked with what I. I try to be kind to my primitive brain. There are times when I'm like, serious, but I didn't have to get sick, which is a way to get over. Away from it, if that makes sense. I just. But I do know that good boundaries, it's okay to tell. Like, you're like, adira, I love you. And no, you can't color in the wall. Though I still feel a little guilty because I could have painted them afterwards. And she really wanted to, but she was here. She asked to color on my walls and I told her no. And she. My body would go. The only way to protect you is to get you ill. I'm gonna get you ill. I went into such dejection and disappointment one year too.

For me.

Some kindness for ourselves about our energy flow. And if we have blocks our survival brain Is really trying to help. I'm gonna make sure that you can't do this.

Yeah.

So I just. These patterns we have. I do a lot of integration by parts work. With parts therapy we talk about younger selves a lot. Whatever's blocking us is really, you know, just talking about the easy flow and getting, you know, we can build habits but also getting some movement. Feeling the energy flow when it's stagnant and kind of stuck in our body. Really doing it because it thinks it's going to help us. It's going to protect us from something that's scary. Doesn't feel good. I think we get aches and pains and then we don't want to move because it hurts. And maybe we learned that like we had a lot of exuberance when we were little and someone was like whoa, that's too much. Or you were like how I was. Maybe Marvel's so tired. Seeing the kid with a lot of energy. It was like, you know, like where, where are you getting this energy from? Like they felt jealous. Maybe your parent felt jealous. Whatever it was, there's. We could have been judged very harshly for having energy. But sometimes when like my knee has been stiff cuz I heard it a while ago and now and we, you know, that's one of the blocks that can come up. And then also like when we have a lot of energy, people expect a lot out of us sometimes. So it, you know, it's like, oh, if I show I have the energy to do this, they're gonna want me to do it all the time, forever. So if I don't, you know, like maybe I shouldn't feel too much energy. It's protective. Um, I, I would. All pain is gone, but I'm still stiff. If I sit for a while and I. So I'm like, oh, it's gonna be stiff. I don't wanna face it. But I know if I get up and move it's actually gonna get better. So wisdom is knowing that I can get sick when I visited home because I didn't have good boundaries and they would want me different. So train a turret and need to rest it and it's no longer hurt, it's just stiff. And we could do all this work, this labor and I didn't know how to say no. And as I got to learn how to say no. Gotta work through it. But if you're not experiencing the kind of energy you want, it could be that better. There was some conflict cuz my parents really liked me doing all this, this work But I didn't have to get sick which is a way to get away from it if that makes sense. Like my body would go. The only way to protect you is to get you ill. I'm going to get you ill. You just need to get it jump started a little bit and maybe finding a moment of flow can, can help you with it.

We're going to take a break here. In a moment I'd like to do a tapping.

I'm gonna make sure that you can't do this.

Yeah.

So I just, you know, just talking about the easy flow and getting, you know we can build habits but also getting.

It feels like that a core reminder.

To myself feeling the energy flow when it's stagnant and kind of stuck in our body, it doesn't feel good. I think we get aches and pains and then we don't want to move because it hurts. But sometimes when like my knee has been stiff cuz I hurt it a while ago and now that like the.

Cheetah, like my own heart rate which you know varies from, from 58 beats per minute to 184 beats per minute depending on what I'm doing. I'm not designed, you're not designed to operate at a, a boosted steady state.

Pain is gone but I'm still stiff. If I sit for a while and I, so I'm like oh it's going to be stiff. I don't want to face it but I know if I get up and move it's actually going to get better. So wisdom is knowing the difference between it's hurt and need to rest it and it's no longer hurt, it's just stiff and move.

And so I'm, I want, I use tapping to remind myself got to work through it.

But if you're not experiencing the kind of energy you want, it could be that you just need to get it jump started a little bit and maybe finding a moment of flow can that.

It'S really human and natural to have energy that, that, that goes up and then is naturally comes down and, and rises and, and, and that that can.

Help you with it.

We're going to take a break here in a moment. I'd like to do a tapping, not a defect. So it feels like that a core reminder to myself that like the cheetah, like my own heart rate which you can try this out. This is one of my little tricks with tapping is I'll say something out loud especially if I'm tuned to it. Like it's a defect that I Can't always have the energy that I, I want to have. You know. Varies from. From 58 beats per minute to 184 beats per minute depending on what I'm doing. I'm not designed. It's a defect.

It's a defect. And see how it feels.

You're not designed to operate at a. A boosted steady state. Yeah. And feel how true it is. So. And so I'm. I want. I use tapping to remind myself that it's really human and natural to have. So if it feels like 10 oh yeah. That's a defect. I gotta fix this. That would be a clue. And when I energy that, that, that goes up and then is naturally comes. I work with people that have a real lethargy problem or depression problem. Often down and, and rises and, and, and that. That's not a defect. So that's at a 10. The problem is is that that's inhuman to always. You can try this out. This is one of my little tricks with tapping is I'll say something out loud especially if I'm tuned to it. Like it's always have the energy that you want to have to do everything that you want to do. That's not human. That's not even a machine. There's very few machines that operate at that utilization rate. Defect that I can't always have the energy that I. I want to have. It's a defect.

It's a defect. And see how it feels.

Yeah. And feel how true it is. So if it feels like 10 oh yeah. It's a defect. I gotta fix this. That would be a clue. And when I. Even though a part of me might.

Believe Even though part of me might.

Believe that I should always have all the energy I need that I should.

Always have all the energy I need.

And all the energy I want and.

All the energy I want.

And. And I've worked with people that have a real lethargy problem or depression problem. Often that's at a 10. The problem is is that that's inhuman to always have the energy that you want to have to do everything that you want to do. That's not judged myself when I haven't had the energy.

I have judged myself when I haven't had the energy.

What is human? That's not even a machine. There's very few machines that operate at that utilization rate. Not a deep. What if it's not a defect?

What if it's not a defect?

Top of the head. What if it's not a defect?

What if it's not a Defect.

Eyebrow. A cheetah doesn't run for at 70 miles an hour a cheetah doesn't run in 70 miles per hour for a 50 minute session. Even though a part of me might.

Believe even though a part of me.

Might believe that I should always have all the energy I need, then I.

Should always have all the energy I.

Need and all the energy I want.

And all the energy I want and.

To and I've judged myself when I haven't had the energy.

And I have judged myself when I haven't had the energy. What is for a 50 minute session?

Side of the eye. They go in short bursts.

They go in short bursts.

And I'm not a cheetah.

I'm not a cheater on the nose.

And I am an animal.

And I am an animal.

Chen. I am part of the natural world.

I am part of the natural world.

I sometimes forget. Not a deep what if it's not a defect?

What if it's not a defect?

Top of the head. What if it's not a defect?

What if it's not a defect?

Eyebrow. A cheetah doesn't run for at 70 miles an hour a cheetah doesn't run in 70 miles per hour for a 50 minute session.

For a 50 minute session.

Side of the eye. They go in short.

I sometimes forget.

Hey, I want to boost my energy toward calm.

I want to boost my energy towards calm.

I love being able to boost my confidence.

I love being able to boost my confidence.

Top of the head. Short bursts.

I go in short bursts.

And I'm not a cheetah.

I'm not a cheetah.

A little eagerness can go a long way. A little eager and I am an animal.

And I am an animal.

Chen. I am part of the natural world.

Him part of the natural world.

I sometimes forget.

I sometimes forget. Your eagerness can make you go a long way.

But I don't have to stay there.

I don't have to stay there.

Eyebrow. I have so many different colors. I want to boost my energy toward calm.

I want to boost my energy towards calm.

Under the arm. I love being able to boost my confidence.

I love being able to boost my confidence.

Top of the head. A little eagerness can go a long way.

A little eager eagerness can make it go a long way.

But I don't have to stay there.

I don't have to stay there.

Colors and tones.

I have so many different colors and.

Tones out of the eye. I'm in the process of accepting me.

I am in the process of accepting.

Me under the eye and having more savvy with my energy.

I'm having more savvy with my energy.

Under those where I can move it, where I can move it, how I can move it, how I can move.

It.

How I can feel my stillness.

How I can feel my stillness.

Eyebrow. I have so many different colors and tones.

I have so many different colors and tones.

My rhythms.

And my rhythms.

What if I'm not defective at all?

What if I'm not defective at all? I mean, I like that because I think that we honor. Our society is very, very driven on that. And so like we should have energy. Like all the ads in Facebook and on TV is like, get your energy back. Get you. There's something wrong with you. You have to take this pill or do this activity or whatever to get to the place where you are, you know, like have the energy of a 21 year old on caffeine. And it's like, what if I'm great just where I am? I can be smarter and steady about things rather than trying to adrenaline myself through everything.

Everyone's body is different. There was a person on the elliptical trainer when I showed up at the gym the other day. They had been going for an hour and 27 minutes at a pace that would be my peak pace. And they were just. Their energy was like, I'm in it. And when they stopped, they got off and they did the ritual. They wiped down the machine. You could tell that they were like bringing themselves to completion. Now my body does not like that kind of exercise, but theirs does. And I think that when you notice energy boosts, our, our dear friend Eve. It's her birthday today. Happy birthday, Eve. She was, she spends time with Adira and, and she said something that, you know, she used to drive herself. Like that sense of not being enough is a, is a kind of artificial driver. It's, it's not natural. I don't think that that's a natural driver impulse. It's, it's domesticated. And that sense of not being enough is a, is a kind of artificial driver. It's. It's not natural. I don't think that that's a natural impulse. It's. It's domesticated and yet we have it as a culture. So many of us have that feeling and, and it acts as a driver. But she said once when she realized that yet we have it as a culture. So many of us have that feeling and it acts as a driver. But she said when she realized that she could just be in growth and engagement that she could be expressing her art and then get that impulse. She didn't. She could just be in growth and engagement also to move her energy to like rest or to music or to nature or. And when that she could be expressing her art and then get that impulse to move her energy to like rest or she reestablished that natural rhythm, just a little increment. She started to notice something about her chi, her energy field that she would already start feeling more vitality as she was heading into rest or to music or to nature, that the chi would, would, would. There was this. There's a she's a sensitive person or. And one person. And she could feel. She reestablished that natural rhythm, just her body boosting its energy. Even though on the outside what she's doing is becoming less active, mentally becoming less active, going to more of a little increment. She started to notice something about her chi, her energy field that still point a still place and she would already start feeling. That was my experience too, that there's a difference between what we've tended to think of as a boost of energy, Red Bull, and actual Qi. More vitality. As she was heading into rest, Life Force being boosted and boosted to give all the things that Life Force is meant to do that the chi would, would, would. There was this. There's a. She's a sensitive person and she could feel repair new cells, strengthening creativity, all the good stuff. And so her body boosting its energy, even though on the out, as we go out for our 7 minute break to move our bodies, if that's what you want to do, or minds or whatever, I'm inviting you to consider again outside, what she's doing is becoming less active. And what is it that you want to experience more of emotionally and as a mentally becoming less active, going to more of a state of being, an energy state of being. And as we've talked about this, is there anything that comes up to you as a block or a significant resistance to you actually actively boosting your energy toward that state? Still point, a still place and.

Okay, yeah, yeah.

So I'm going to pause the recording and if you're on, that was my experience too, that there's a difference between what we've tended to think of as a boost of energy, Red Bull and actual Qi Life Force being boosted and boosted to give all the things that Life Force is meant to do, repair new cells, strengthening creativity, all the good stuff. And so as we go out for our 7 minute break to move our bodies, if that's what you want to do or minds or whatever. I'm inviting you to consider again. Recording. Hi, thank you for joining us. And we invite you to take a seven minute break here too. We'll be back.

See you soon.

And what is it that you want to experience more of emotionally and as a state of being, an energy state of being. And as we've talked about this, is there anything that comes up to you as a block or a significant resistance to you actually actively boosting your energy toward that state? Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah. So I'm going to pause the recording and if you're on the recording. Hi, thank you for joining us. And we invite you to take a seven minute break here too. We'll be back.

See you soon.

Welcome back to Boost yout Energy. We are bioelectromagnetic energy. That's the stuff that we're made of. And there's an intelligence there and there flows. And in anatomy school they teach you things about lymph and blood. If you go to a different school of thought, they'll talk about meridians and qi and vessels and all kinds of other things to, to even acknowledge that we are energetic beings and that there are things that happen automatically. There are things that sometimes get out of balance and it's harder to be back in what you would call natural homeostasis. And it can feel someone shared that, you know, once I lie down, I may not feel like I can do anything. And that does feel like a defect. The approach that we have at thriving now and, and, and the energy approach is if you're sitting there, if you're lying down and you don't have the energy to do, chances are that is like a bridge too far. But what if, and I don't know that this is always true, but what if there's a change in your state of being, however subtle, that would take energy from one place where maybe it's causing distress and allow it to flow into areas where it could build your resource, rebuild your resource. For example, if I'm lying down and I have things, a long list of things that I wanted to do that day, and I say, oh man, I can't believe I'm not getting up and doing those things. I really need to get them done. Now that's a state of being. I call it, you know, fretting, worrying, self criticism. So I am in a state of being that has a particular energy to it. Now I could go in the direction of compassion, right? Like, oh, well, you know, Rick, you were up all night with your daughter in the sleeping hours, right, buddy? Hey, buddy, give yourself a break. It could be, you know, I know myself, it's time for a horizontal reset. I know myself. Like, that's a certain kind of confidence. I know myself. It's time for a horizontal reset. Can you feel that energetically the state of being there is going to. It's. It's a bit like changing the channel on your, on your. Are you. The playlist that you're on, it changes our energy. I do not. I want to live in a world where more of us are supporting each other. Like. Yeah, sounds to me that, you know, your state of being doesn't support doing a lot of work on your playlist. On your to do list right now. What is your body calling for? What state of being would be a reset for you or replenishing? Lying down? Yeah. Do you. Do you feel like lying down on the sofa or lying down in bed would be better? Oh, and as you're lying down, do you want to be like conscious and feeling your body or do you want to be kind of in ocean waves? Do we want to put on some music? To me, this doesn't fall. It falls into self care, but in the most kind of gross way. To me, this is self savvy. This is about like, I have energy, it moves and sometimes it doesn't. What do I do with it? And acceptance is another pathway that I think tapping helps build up. And I deeply, even though I'm lying down and I can't do shit, I deeply and completely accept myself. Ah, man. I did that for 20 minutes once and then I laughed because I was actually doing something. I was tapping and it was like, oh, okay. I think.

I don't want to interrupt your flow if you had something you wanted to share. So like, Rick has been dealing with having a two year old or a little baby. So he's very tired all the time. Sometimes we can get really stuck. And so he has like a looking at his life from the outside, it's very clear that the man needs to do horizontal reset sometime and take a nap. For some of us, it may be that we're kind of stuck emotionally or our body may be afraid of moving more. If that's something we want more physical energy. And one of the things that was really delightful for me when I hurt my knee, I was feeling very frustrated because I couldn't workout or I wasn't able to do a lot of things I usually did. And my chiropractor was just like, how about you stretch, lay in bed and you don't have to put any pressure on your knee, but you can, like, stretch in bed. You can do leg lifts on your other. On both legs, actually, was fine for me in bed. So if you always wanted. If you want to be in bed, and that's an easy place for you to be, what could you. And, you know, like, maybe you could let yourself feel safe in bed, but you could also get a little bit of motion going. Um, and I'll. And again, if you're always pushing yourself to do more, maybe you just need that horizontal reset, that chance to reset, and then maybe you can come back and do a little more later if that's right for you. But sometimes I've just been really stuck. And one of the things I think we tend to do as humans is if we're not flowing our energy, if we feel stuck, we want to avoid that feeling of being stuck. We want to run away from it. And sometimes just being with that feeling can be very powerful. So if you'd like to try. Is it okay if we just do a quick. If you think of one area in your life, you feel really stuck. And most of us have. Have something where we're just not moving ahead with it. Think about how you feel when you're trying to approach that. Notice what's going on in your body. Does your body feel tight? Do you feel, you know, like, are you gritting your teeth? Are you telling yourself certain thoughts or feeling certain sensations in your body? And if you'd like to just for. We're just gonna do, like, 20, 30 seconds, just with this part of the circle. Just step into that feeling of. Feel the suck for 20 seconds with me, if you're willing, rather than avoiding it.

The suck. Stuck. Yeah, the suck of stuck.

Right? So rather than avoiding it, running away, pretending, denying. Just in a moment, for the moment, step into it and breathe and just feel the feeling of, like, ugh, this is not what I want to feel. This is not what I want to be doing. Just 10 more seconds. See if you can just be with it. See if you can tolerate that feeling. Breathe into it. All right. And then I can just step out, maybe shake out your hands if that feels good, or kind of brush it off. Um, and just notice how you feel. Sometimes, me just stepping into it when I, like, oh, I faced that. I feel, like, a little lighter sometimes. I'll notice that there might be anger or sadness that I'm not wanting to feel underneath of that. That stock. Like, if I. One of the reasons I have been somewhat resistant Getting on the treadmill is. I'm a very somatic person. When I start moving my body, I feel feelings that I may not want to feel. Anger, sadness might come up. So if I stay still, I don't have to feel those feelings. And if I start moving, I would feel them again. But if I'm willing to be with that kind of sucky, stuck feeling, I'm like, oh, yeah, that's right. I can handle these feelings. Okay. I'm getting on the treadmill for a little while. So I just wanted to point out that, you know, sometimes, like, Rick is like, maybe I do need to reset. Maybe I need to rest a little before I have some energy to expend. And if that's clear, you know, if you know that's not the case, or you can just try it, like, oh, can I do 10 leg lifts on both sides? And then see if I want what I want to do from there? Did it give me more energy or less? Did feelings come up or not? And if I'm not. If I. If I intend to do the leg lifts and I'm just not doing them, can I be for 20 seconds with that? You know, stay with the suck feeling and just breathe through it and then see where I'm at. Can I do leg lifts now, or is there. Do I need to do some tapping in one of the circle calls with Rick or what's coming up for me? Because we do plug our energy flow if we think flowing with that energy will bring us feelings or experiences that we don't know that we're ready for. And building up some skills and tolerance for that can be really useful.

And I'm reminded for me, when I'm in that suck of stuck, as you said, there's the sadness and sometimes unwinding of the regret or whatever that it hasn't happened yet or that you wish things were different. And part of this workshop series is about returning to what matters to you. And maybe it isn't the hard one that you're working on. Maybe it's one that you own a bit more. Like, I'm naturally generous and appreciating and kind. Like, those things are things that I own. I'm not that all the time. There's no pressure, but something I can tap into. So that's where, if I can't get to eager, I can feel the sadness. As Kathy just described. Meditation usually takes me into those things. It's a big part of my life. And then there's the, well, maybe I can't feel eager about this. What could I, like, for me appreciate. What could I appreciate? It's not life or death. Yeah. I've got, I've got the freedom to not do it. I've taken that freedom. Now sometimes the, the things that you come out that you're, you're appreciating or that you're, you know, that I don't think we're going to see that as a Hallmate Hallmark, Hallmark card, you know, and that's. But for me, my emotional savvy is that I, I often need to acknowledge that the resistance is coming from a. A part of me that really wants me to be safe, that wants to. And for me, preserving my energy, like eagerness is, it's got chi to it. It's an expression. It's. You're. I'm about to light the match and then we're going to use the match, you know. You know, maybe it'll blow out, but it's a way of acknowledging and helping that part of me feel like its resistance has been acknowledged. And that's not where I have to operate from. Most of the thriving emotions are not ones that are, you know, primitive brain driven, overcoming all odds. That's kind of a fight energy. Whereas the, the kind of wise fearlessness that, that some of you are wanting, that to me comes from a different, a different energy mix. It's a different genre of being alive. That's the way I experience it.

Yeah, I know that we didn't get into a lot of tapping and working on blocks to energy per se. We talked a lot more about energy and kind of the flow and different ways to approach it. Um, next, our next call will be about removing blocks in general, clearing your.

Blocks to being what matters.

And I think that, that one of the big blocks to being what matters is finding the energy. Like a lot of. I often have, I really want to do this, this and that, and I don't have the energy of, you know, there I'm, I've run out of energy for that particular thing. So I invite you, if you're watching this, you know, over the next couple weeks, notice where you have the desire to move forward and you still don't. Like, like it feels like the gas isn't connected, the gas pedal's not connected to the engine, so to speak, because there's often, in that case, there's a, a block to the energy flow. Like. And we've often learned those energy is so connected to our subconscious. Like we, it often. Like it's the neural pathways, the neuro the nerves in our body that help in the cells of our body that create this energy, the mitochondrial DNA we have. It's like all of that is, I think I, I think it's very strongly affected by what subconscious beliefs we have, what fears our survival brain has. Um, so there's a lot of, there can be a lot of blocks to that. And I've noticed, and I'm curious how many people have. If you want to share in the chat, have you noticed you have tons of energy for one thing, and then someone asks you to do this one thing and you just feel the energy drain out of your body?

Right.

Um, so that's a time I see some people saying, yes. Um, and it's like, wait, what happened? I. And to me it's like, okay, is there a boundary I need to set? Like, hey mom, I love you, but I don't want to do that thing I can, you know, like. Or is it, I would really love to do that thing, but there's something in me that thinks it's not safe, I don't deserve it, or what, you know, what is going on that the, that someone pulled the plug. I'm like, drain my gas tank immediately. And then I can go back to the first thing I was doing and I've got my energy goes right back up. Or it might be a slow, like it might be the residual drain from that thing that we're just like the gas pedal, the gas pedal front disconnected. So I invite you, like, we've talked a lot about energy and different types of energy and most people that talk about energy are not going to talk about it from this perspective. This is kind of a pragmatic. We're somewhere between the woo woo. We're talking some woo woo stuff, but we're also very practical. Like we're somewhere in this middle ring. And the more data, data you can gather over the next couple weeks over where you are, what you, what you notice. And I invite your brain to kind of draw this to your attention. I'm talking to your subconscious too. Can you notice when, oh, I have plenty of energy to watch TV or to like shop or do something that's quote unquote fun or sometimes bad, like, like, oh, I shouldn't do this. So it's really fun to do it. And when is it like, oh, this feels really, really heavy. And I noticed myself when I feel really stuck. Sometimes when I, I think about something too much, it's really, really heavy to do it versus other times I forget about it and I just get it done and it's no energy at all. So like our thoughts and our beliefs can really get in the way of this. So I invite you to like take some data. Like I, I'm a big fan of post it notes and I'll just grab a few and I'll just write oh, Monday, you know, 8am really wanted that coffee but I really wanted to sleep a few more minutes. And you know, I convinced myself that if I didn't get that sleep I was going to be grumpy all day, whatever. Like just notice where your energy which was maybe okay, and then you think about something and it goes down or there's a certain task and your energy goes down. Gathering that data and being conscious of it as we go through clearing the blocks will really help you target in because one of the tricks our subconscious does is it blocks it, it hides it from us. If we're not consciously aware of it, it's a lot harder for us to work on it. It's a lot harder for us to tackle it. So if you can kind of keep it hazy and unaware, there's a, there's a barrier of protection around the thing that we want to most want to clear. So the more you can get a little data gathered, the more we'll be able to target in and clear some of this for you.

Thank you, Kathy. Someone wrote, I appreciate I am not alone in this moment right now with the circle and that's why we come together. I do believe that this work is better together. I appreciate all of you for showing up and putting some of your life and lifetime and life energy into co creating this with us. Our inbox is open especially to help us tune to what's coming up for you as we head into this month of this next month of, of workshops. We're clearing blocks. It's a very important part of it and I've, I'd love to say that it's easy. Look, we've all know that it's, it's not as it. There's nuances and challenges and subconscious and other things. I will say that though that as you get the data that matters to you and to your nervous system and to your way of being and you expand what you look at rather than, you know, the judgment and thought field. Like I used to spend so much time just thinking about something and I really didn't have a connection between my thoughts and my body as Kathy just had us be with a feeling. The emotions like where you feel it in your body that shifts things and it's not complicated. As you, as you, as you figure out the, the skill as it works for you, then you can be eager. But you'll know that you're not gonna go from overwhelmed directly to eager. You're gonna go here and then here and here and here and here. Because your pathway, that is a delight for you that all along that way, like if I go from overwhelmed to calm and grounded, that's something that matters to me. And it's a skill I practice. If I, if I go from a bit more grounded to, well, what could I be grateful for? Oh, well, that and, and I activate my appreciator and then I'm like, well, what matters to me here? Okay. Yeah, it really does. This does matter to me. It matters to how I want to be in community and, and finding postures, postures, movements, getting. Making your body part of the instrument of who you are. I didn't used to put my hand on my heart nearly as much as I do, but I find that this. And also just like starting to tap my collarbone, these are signals to my body of a state of being. It boosts the energy toward something. A state of being that matters to me. Calm and confident. I don't have to think about. If I start getting anxious about something, you, everyone who's close to me knows that I start tapping my collarbone points often. That's enough. I don't have to process it and talk about it. I know that if something's running around in my head, that's sharing it out loud. Even if I'm the only one on the trail, I share it out loud. That working the energy of my throat and my throat chakra and my heart and my truth. That's enough. And every, Every one of these little incremental skills makes. They certainly make me feel like this energy of who I am as a human being and how I operate in the world that I am the co creator with my body. It has sometimes a mind of its own. And. But I'm a co creator. There's a relationship. I'm. I'm. I'm in relationship with you all. I'm in relationship with the. The trails that I walk. I'm in relationship with the energies of my world. Both ones that I craft and ones that are are part of it. And that kind of empowered, thriving, practical and embracing what we've come to understand and re. Understand about the energy of who we are in body, mind and spirit and the world that we live in with its realities and unwanted realities and how we be with that that to me, is a profound work that impacts everyone that you love. Every little increment that you change impacts the people, whether they realize it or not. Their default mode starts shifting when someone in their world becomes more calm and confident, especially in situations where they maybe weren't as calm and confident before. And it's really cool to notice how you're influencing people whether they realize it or not. In. In how you tune yourself and the rituals and other greetings and other things that you start doing.

I love that. Just as we're leaving, I had asked you, we asked you to kind of tune into some of the things that are blocking you. And someone said, I barely have energy for washing up or cleaning the floors. And just reminding me that sometimes we have thoughts or beliefs that are just below the sub. The conscious level and they can really affect us. Um, we may not be noticing them because we're kind of like that fish in water. We've heard it so much that it's just always there, but it can also. Our subconscious can be pinging us where we have a flavor of an energy, but we don't realize what's going on. So if you can just start asking yourself, if I could hear myself speaking to myself, what. What might I hear? And maybe the washing up is like, look what a mess you made. Oh, my God, I'm gonna have to clean up this big mess. Or like, why did you. You know, why I have to do this every day? This is like, there might be beliefs there that are hidden. So I. I just wanted to invite you, invite yourself to say, if I could hear this, if I could hear or notice what was going on that's making me feel so low energy, what might it be? Because we wanna root out those subconscious blocks and like Rick said, let us be a. Our body, be an instrument for getting these things that matter accomplished or created and experienced in this world. I just. I really, you know, if you can invite your subconscious to let you know and just write them down because again, it will disappear. And if you can bring them, we would love to work with you next time on clearing those blocks so you can really create what matters.

Thank you all. Take care.

Have a great night.

Thank you. Bye Bye.