Sleep Now - 5.2 - How They Taught You to Wake Up
Rick Wilkes guides you through childhood memories of waking up and the stress they created. Using tapping techniques, the session helps you build a gentler morning routine instead of the harsh wake-up patterns you learned as a kid.
How did you wake up when you were a kid? How was it modeled for you realize that our brain is going to latch onto the times that were more intense, usually because that's what it thinks is really important. There's more intensity around it. And I know when I was little, there were times when I was just having a really good time. Like the bed felt comfy and I'd had a good dream and I was just kind of getting there when I got there and that was not acceptable. And there were times when I was woken up more gently and lovingly, but there were times like, the bus is coming in 20 minutes, you have to get your butt out of bed. And the bus really was coming and it was an hour ride to our school. It wasn't something that if I missed the bus, my parents could just quickly drop me someplace. So it was a big deal. But even as a kindergartner, there was that time schedule. Like, the bus is coming at 7, you have to be ready. Waiting out in the cold and the dark. And that wasn't like a fun way for like, I'm like, but it's still dark out and it's cold and I just want to sleep. So I'd like you to think back to how the energy was when you were a little kid. How did your parents handle it? Most of our parents didn't have the benefit of tapping and the Internet with all these beautiful courses on how to be nurturing and self care and how to use your time well. And we subconsciously, we let that in. Our mirror neurons go, oh, that's the way we're supposed to wake up. Okay, we slice bread this way, we brush our teeth this way. We wake up, it becomes like muscle memory almost. We're just doing what we did and we don't think about it. So we're really, I mean, you being here and looking at this is powerful. You're looking at something that so many people never even consider. It's just what we do. We always wake up screaming at each other or ourselves. And there's always a mad rush for the door.
There's always this kind of stress and strain and worry and being out of the flow. I would say for me, there wasn't a sense that there was a natural flow. It felt closer to the primitive brains. Fight, flight, freeze. It was.
Well, that adrenaline rush will get you up.
It will, yes. Fire, you know, it's the get to school on time equivalent of fire. And in fact, both of them are evoking the similar kind of reaction in My body. So what I'm going to encourage people right now. We've been talking about this. You've been tuning in what's happening in your body. Do you even feel your feet on the floor? Like mine feel like they're like pulling in away. And in my pelvis and in my belly. Like my belly feels really blank and. And there's so much energy, like right up in here. As I tune into now, what's coming to me is mostly as a teenager that kind of. I don't know what to do. My yes is to stay in bed. And all of the impulse is. And the urgency is to get out. And it feels, you know, I haven't touched on this one, so it still feels like a 7, 8. If I really focus on, like the color of my bed sheets and, you know, the feel of the room and the light that's coming in. This is something that you can do to make the biggest progress. You can say, oh, what was it like? Picture yourself in that bed. Which way was your head on the pillow? What's going on?
And we're going to do some tapping.
Yes.
All right, so what I'd like you to do, just like Rick's already guided you, is remember where you were and whatever comes forward. And you can do this recording a bunch of times. And each time you might get a different place in time. There's probably different mini traumas where you really didn't have choice, but it did feel really important to sleep. And we'll do. We'll talk about conflicting needs in a little bit. But just imagine that place, wherever it is right now, where you felt that you have to get up, that your parents were. Or your caregiver was yelling, come on, get up. You have, like, urgency. And what I'd like you to do is imagine that you have this big remote with a big red button in the middle and you can push pause. And that's going to pause everything but that younger self back there. And I'd like you to take a nice, slow, deep breath and imagine that you could go back in time with just a thought and sit down on the bed with that younger self and say, hey, sweetheart.
Hey, sweetheart.
Yeah, we'll tap on the karate tub. And if it feels alright to tap with them, go ahead. Otherwise, just tap on yourself. I know this is really hard.
I know this is really hard.
Nobody really explained this stuff to you.
Nobody explained this stuff to you.
And they didn't transition you at all.
And they didn't transition you at all.
Probably nobody taught them to do that.
Probably nobody taught them to do that.
But I want you to know there's no five alarm fire.
There's no five alarm fire.
There'S no leopard about to eat you.
There's definitely no leopard about to eat you.
I know they're acting like there is.
They're definitely acting like there is.
But this is kind of how it is every morning but this is how.
It is every single morning.
And I haven't spotted a leopard yet.
I have not spotted a leopard yet.
They're kind of over dramatizing things.
They're over dramatizing things. And that's so tiring.
Yeah. And it's stressful.
And it's stressful.
Top of the head. I invite you to take a nice, slow, deep breath.
I invite you to take a nice, slow, deep breath.
Eyebrow. Notice how the bed is still supporting you.
Notice how the bed is still supporting you.
Side of the eye. And you are actually safe.
And you are actually safe under the eye.
They're using leopard fuel.
They're using Scared of the leopard fuel.
Under the nose. When really it's just get out of bed fuel we need.
It's just time to get out of bed.
Chin, I love you.
I love you, buddy.
Collarbone. And I can't wait to share the day with you.
And I can't wait to share the day with you.
Let's not start it off full of adrenaline and cortisol let's not start it.
Off full of adrenaline and cortisol.
Top of the head. You did a really good job.
You did a really good job.
I wrote, it's okay to wake more gently.
It's okay to wake more gently.
Side of the eye. I invite you to rest deeply during.
The night I invite you to rest deeply during the night under the eye.
And wake easily in the morning.
And wake easily in the morning.
Under the nose. Maybe even a few minutes before your alarm.
And definitely a few minutes before your alarm.
Chin. So you can snuggle and be present with yourself.
So you can snuggle and be present with yourself.
Collarbone. Today is going to be fantastic.
Today is going to be fantastic.
I can't wait to see what you create.
I can't wait to see what you create.
Top of the head. And we get to do it together.
And we get to do it together.
Take a nice deep breath and just. Just feel present with that younger self. To me, it feels entirely different. Energy I'm not going through in that kind of disassociated panic state. I'm like, oh, I may be tired I may still be waking up, but I'm not having to be, like, in fight or flight mode. I can be like, oh, okay. So I'm just a little groggy that sometimes happens in the morning. And I can kind of, you know, stumble to the restroom and wash my face or whatever it is without having that feeling of, you know, impending doom or terror running through my body.
And this is a good time for you to get conscious about how you would like to wake up. And working with clients, we often find that people want somewhat unrealistic view. Like, I wake up alert and refreshed and boing.
Sometimes that happens.
That sometimes happens. But sometimes it's a bit more like the butterfly in the sunshine getting the juice out to the ends of its wings after being in the cocoon. And so for me, that there's a sense of flow and unfolding and activating and engaging. We encourage you to take a moment and just express in writing or in a little drawing or even just in a sound, what is it that you would like as your direction? Energy. You know, most of the time, we know what we don't want. What is it that we do want? What is the kind of energy that we want in those first moments as we're unwinding from transitioning from our sleep mode?
Let's do a new video on that one because topic. Good job, guys.
