Sleep Now - 5.6 - Conflicting Needs
Jen guides you through managing the conflict between needing sleep and feeling obligated to stay awake. She walks you through acknowledging both needs and finding ways to honor them without sacrificing either one.
Those conflicting needs can kick you in the butt. You may have the intense need to sleep. You may feel exhausted, physically, painfully, to be awake exhausted. And you may have agreement with your boss that you'll show up at a certain time, or you have an important meeting or you have to take your kid to school or whatever it is. You have to pick somebody. Airport. That conflicting need between your body really needing to get sleep and you having to meet an obligation, or you wanting to play and you needing to sleep. There's times when that can feel equal, equally valid. Like, I really need some time just watching TV or reading a book and just relaxing, and I'm so tired. So those feelings. I've had it where I was so tired last night, actually, I'd had a really, really long day at work. I came home and I fell asleep, and I didn't have dinner, and I woke up at three in the morning going, oh, I'm really hungry. And I wanted to sleep and I wanted to have something to eat, and I did get up and get a little something. But there's times when they're equally valid needs, and both answers will support what we want to create in the world. Taking care of ourselves or creating something that's important. And it can be really hard to choose.
Mm.
It can be really. And there's times when we're just sick. Like, you know, we're so. We're tired because we're ill, and it really might be best to call our boss or whatever, call the neighbor and say, can you take my kid to school? Or tell our boss, you know, I cannot make it today. How do you decide? And how do you be with that feeling? Because I. There have been times when I just felt miserable because I couldn't make a decision. And I wasn't, like, even conscious. I was just, like, torn between them. So I'd like you to tune into a time that comes to mind. I think all of us have had times when we felt conflicted and take a nice, slow, deep breath and notice what you feel in your body when you tune into that moment. That time where I had two things or five things that I had to do at the same time, and I couldn't even decide which to do first. And let's tap. Karate chop. Even though I have this horrible conflict.
Even though I have this horrible conflict.
And it feels awful.
And it feels awful.
I am so tired.
I am so tired.
My body hurts.
My body hurts.
And I committed to doing these other things.
And I committed to doing these other things.
And I really need to get them done.
And I really need to get them done.
I kind of feel powerless here I.
Kind of feel powerless here.
And not very happy.
And definitely not very happy.
I choose to take a deep breath.
I choose to take a deep breath.
And come back to my body.
And come back to my body.
Top of the head. I can feel my feet.
I can feel my feet.
Eyebrow. Even though I have this conflict Even.
Though I have this conflict.
Side of the eye, I can take a deep breath.
I can take a deep breath.
Even though I have this conflict.
Even though I have this conflict.
Under the eye, I can be present with myself.
I can be present with myself Even.
Though I have this conflict.
Even though I have this conflict.
Under the nose. And as I get more present with.
Myself and as I get more present.
With myself, I have better choices.
I have better choices.
Collarbone. That commitment is really important to me.
That commitment is really important to me.
Under the arm, I can choose to take care of it.
I can choose to take care of it.
Top of the head. And maybe there's some other options.
And maybe there are some other options.
Eyebrow. I'm open to seeing these other options.
I'm open to seeing these other options.
Side of the eye and I'm open to doing what's right for me.
And I'm open to doing what's right for me.
Under the eye, I feel this conflict.
I feel this conflict.
Under the nose. And I still stay present with myself.
And I still choose to stay present with myself.
And there may be consequences to my choices.
There may be consequences to my choices.
Hallo. And I can stay present with myself through the consequences.
And I can stay present with myself through the consequences.
Under the arm. If I'm tired during the day.
If I'm tired during the day.
Top of the head, I can support myself as best I can.
I can support myself the best I can.
Eyebrow. I've been tired before.
I've been tired before.
Side of the eye. And I'm learning to take better care of myself.
And I'm learning to take better care of myself.
Under the eye, I don't enjoy this.
Conflict I do not enjoy this conflict under the nose.
And I invite my body to guide me to the best choice.
I invite my body to guide me to the best choice.
Jen. I'm glad I can stay present with myself.
I'm glad I can stay present with myself.
Collarbone. And I remind myself that I do have choice.
And I remind myself I do have choice.
Some people may be disappointed.
Some people may be disappointed.
Top of the head. And I'll still be okay.
And I still will be okay.
Take a nice deep breath. Yeah. So if you can, when you notice the conflict and that kind of tearing feeling where it feels like you can't win, realize the consequences are not what our primitive brain often has us think. One time I had a really, really important meeting, and my house had been broken into the night before. And I called up and I said, I am so sorry, but my house is like, the police are coming to take a report, and, like, I can't be there. You know what? Nothing horrible happened, right? It just like, you know, people are like, oh, I'm so sorry. Are you okay? Do you need support? We understand. And, you know, I can't. It couldn't blow off meetings all the time. But, you know, it's okay once in a while to say, hey, I really don't feel good. Can I call in from home? Or there might be ways you hadn't thought of, like, I can be at the meeting, but I don't want to have to drive into work right now. Can I call into the meeting? Or can I come to the meeting, do the meeting, and then, you know, I'd like to go home and rest. Like, I don't feel well, whatever it is, Be open to other solutions. Because sometimes when we're in that conflict, like, must, must. We don't look. We're just like, I want to sleep. I must be at the meeting. And there's like, no, no opening. Because we're kind of in primitive brain. So be open to different possibilities and nurture yourself as best you can. You will be okay. Well, very few people have died from lack of sleep, and it's okay to take care of yourself. So we hope this helps.
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