Sleep Now - 6.2 - Being Gentle and Present
Kathy and a co-host explore how gentleness and presence can shift your energy and creativity. They walk through tapping and breathing exercises to help you stop being abrupt with yourself and find a calmer, more open state.
So I loved Rick's analogy of hypermyelin, where you can get a lot more mileage for your car on the same tank of gas. And all of us would love that. We have. You know, we have so much time and energy in a day. We can definitely invite more, and we'll do some tapping on that in a few minutes. But how can we get more oomph for. How can we get further on the same amount of gas? And part of that, I think, is for humans. We're obviously not cars where we can put meters on everybody, but. But to me, it's about being present with yourself. It's about inviting gentle transitions rather than slamming out, like Rick said, slamming on the brakes, where we're kind of abrupt. And I know that when I'm on days like that and I still have them, I just shift out of them faster, thanks to tapping and calling a friend and going, something's wrong. And they're like, have you tapped? Have you breathed? When I'm in that space, it's very abrupt and somewhat angry and judgmental at myself. It's like I'm, like, going full speed ahead as fast as I can in one direction. Damn it, I forgot that other thing. Slam on the brakes, jerk the car around, go as fast as I can, and it's exhausting. One, I'm not celebrating where I am. I'm not enjoying the process. I'm just the brake, the pedal is to the metal. I'm going as fast as I can and am not present with myself or my needs. And I find that I get a lot more done when I take a nice, slow, deep breath, even in the midst of a deadline or whatever, if I can get present with my body and invite all of me, all of my body, my energy, the parts I don't like even to come and help me with the project. When I bring all of me, when I'm not fighting back other parts of me, I find I get a whole new level of creativity and insights that I'm like, wow, where did those come from? And it feels great. And I'm not exhausted by the process. I'm actually revved up by it. Like, I. I may be tired at the end of the day, but the process of creating goes from painful and forced and demanding to delightful and engaging and, like, the whole process and that sense of flow of time where you're like, wow, I got all that done. Like, where did the. Like, I'm not aware of the time, as opposed to the pedal to the metal. I'm like, it's 505. It's 5:06. Oh, my God, it's 507. Like, there's that sense of like, of urgency and intensity that's not delightful at all.
No. And it's not delightful for the people that are around you and in your world or in your vehicle. And just like in a car, you don't necessarily get there much faster. You know, a minute or two versus the level of stress that it puts.
On our under the arm. I'm looking forward to that, actually.
I'm looking forward to that, actually.
Top of the head. And I look forward to what we can create when we're not driving so hard.
And I look forward to what we can create when we're not driving this hard.
Take a nice deep breath and if it feels true for you, imagine that you can feel the tension and strain flowing out from that younger self into the ground. The ground will recycle all that stress and see how your body feels. And if you can't experience that yet, we encourage you to go back and do that tapping again because you might have something more stuck there. But if you can allow that old tension to flow out, that lets you flow in new, vital energy. It's hard to get filled up by the flowers and the good experiences when you're full of stress and tons of tension. So you are doing great. And we look forward to what you're going to create with this new energy.
And this new perspective, resistance to letting yourself tune in. Because this strategy sometimes can feel like, I don't know who I would be if I didn't drive myself that way, even though I'm so used to driving myself this way, even though I'm so.
Used to driving myself this way.
And it is really abrupt.
And it is really abrupt.
I'm not sure what the alternative is.
I'm not sure what the alternative is.
Kathy talks about being gentle and mindful.
Kathy talks about being gentle and mindful.
I don't even know what that feels like.
I don't even know what that feels like.
Yes, I do.
Yes, I do.
And sometimes it's not accessible.
And sometimes it's not accessible.
And I'm tuning my body to use my energy in gentle and accessible ways.
I'm tuning my body to be accessible and gentle. Sorry, I totally messed that up.
I am tuning my body I'm tuning my body to have my energy be.
Accessible to have my energy be accessible.
In gentle and mindful ways.
In gentle and mindful ways.
Top of the head. I really am abrupt with myself.
I really am abrupt with myself.
Eyebrow and that's not easy on my body.
That's not easy on my body.
Side of the eye. I thought it was the way to get things done when I'm tired I.
Thought it was the way to get things done when I'm tired.
Under the eye. And I do get things done and.
I do get things done under the nose.
And then I'm really exhausted.
And I'm really exhausted.
CHEN I wonder if there's a different approach.
I wonder if there's a different approach.
CALIBAN what if I was more in my own flow?
What if I was more in my own flow?
Under the arm? A little bit less abrupt with the accelerator?
A little less abrupt with the accelerator?
Top head what if I took the anger out of my treatment of myself?
What if I took my anger out of my treatment of myself.
