Dr. Ruth Schwartz shares how she studied psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory to create a roadmap for lasting lesbian relationships. She introduces her Conscious Girlfriend Academy, offering classes and community for queer women seeking relationship guidance and skills for choosing healthy partners.
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I'm Dr. Ruth Schwartz, and when I came out, I was so full of hope and pride and enthusiasm and lust and tenderness as I dove into my first lesbian relationship, and then my second lesbian relationship, and then my third lesbian relationship. And somewhere along the way, I started to realize that I was absolutely, completely unprepared to To show up and choose the right partner and also show up and be the right partner when the triggers hit, when one or both of us started feeling hurt or scared or mad. And so time after time, I would fall in love. I would have these really beautiful experiences that felt so promising and then would fall apart. And then I would spend months, or in some cases even years. trying to heal, trying to get ready to do it all again without being any better prepared the next time than I had been the last time. Because there was nobody out there offering me a roadmap or a path or a set of steps to follow to really be capable of the kind of lasting, loving lesbian queer relationship that I wanted. Nobody was telling me how to choose the right partner, how to calibrate my picker, how to do the pacing and healthy way, how to have a relationship vision, how to date in a way that would lay a strong foundation for the love I wanted. Nobody was telling me any of this stuff, and it took me so long, so much study of psychology and neuroscience and attachment theory to be able to piece together a roadmap at long last. And once I finally did, I knew I had to bring it back to the community. That's exactly what I do now in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. We have so many classes available to help you so you don't have to stumble through the woods in the wilderness getting hurt over and over or hurting other people the way most of us do. There is an alternative, and we've got it right here for you along with an incredible incredible, warm-hearted, growth-oriented lesbian queer community here in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy. So I look forward to seeing you in a class soon.
