Can a Hairless Guy Get a Girlfriend? | Infield Dating Coaching Testimonial
The video documents a full‑day in‑field dating coaching session with Nick, a man who lost confidence after experiencing hair loss. The coach (Speaker C) meets Nick at a bachelor party, learns about his insecurities, and designs a simple, action‑oriented task: compliment three strangers. Over eight hours they move through a music festival, city streets, and various social settings, with Nick eventually approaching around 15‑50 women, receiving real‑time feedback, and reflecting on each interaction. Key breakthroughs include recognizing that opportunities are everywhere, that limiting beliefs are internal, and that returning to a woman after a perceived “mistake” can be powerful. The conversation emphasizes the importance of "vibe," authenticity, offering value, and deep, curious dialogue (e.g., with a digital‑nomad). Nick reports a dramatic shift in mindset, increased confidence, and plans to continue practicing the approach. The coach’s style is supportive, non‑judgmental, and focused on actionable practice rather than theory. The testimonial ends with a call to continue the momentum and a hint at future coaching opportunities.
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I mean, it started out as like the task was to compliment 3 people. Yeah, just like, and I was like, no, I don't even know, bro.
Today I'm gonna share a crazy story about meeting a guy with huge insecurities about dating due to hair loss, giving him a full day of infield coaching, and how it completely shattered his limiting beliefs about himself and women. So about a month ago, I went to a friend's bachelor party— stag, as they call it here in the UK. So at the stag, there are about 10 guys, and I immediately hit it off with this guy named Nick. Nick opened up to me about his deep confidence issues, mainly stemming from this one huge event. A few years ago, he started losing a lot of hair, which he thought really made him look unattractive. And therefore, his thinking was that a lot of women would find him really unattractive. And he started worrying that women would not be interested in him. As he told me his story, I sensed that he's such a vibey guy, a loving, grounded soul who really enjoys deep, meaningful conversations and connections. And he really cares about his self-development and he wants to really, really work on himself. This told me that number one, he would benefit a lot from someone like me, really stepping in on a deeper level and getting coached. And number 2, that I would actually really love to be his mentor because he's got that vibe. Later that day, the bachelor party crew and I went to a day music festival, and there I approached a few women to show Nick how simple it can be.
Like this one.
I love your necklace.
Super dope.
Where's it Where'd you get that? It's like a nature vibe.
Spain. Spain?
Like southern Spain?
Not from there.
Not from there?
Not from there.
In Abbeywood. Abbeywood?
I have no idea. It's not near here.
Not near here.
No idea.
I gave him a glimpse into what's possible when you start putting yourself out there and start offering value. So a couple of weeks after the bachelor party, I ended up giving Nick a free session that lasted an entire day. He first came over to my spot and we started chatting. So Nick started asking me a lot of questions about how to vibe, how to connect with people, how I actually developed all the skill set and my journey and everything. And that was really important because setting a powerful context is key. But then At a certain point, I said, hey bro, we can sit here, conceptualize and theorize all day long, but nothing beats action. Let's go out there, start saying hi to people, start offering value, and let's actually learn out there in the real world. Especially given where you're at, this is really, really important. So let's do it. Before meeting me, he had never said hi to a stranger during the day. So rather than giving him a super daunting mission of saying hi to a lot of women during the day and try to go on a date or phone number, I was like, okay, let me give you a super simple mission. All you need to do today is to say hi to 3 people and just give them a compliment about their outfit, their behavior, and their vibe.
Simple, right?
What ended up happening was something I never would have expected. And 8 hours later, here we are sitting down and reflecting on our day.
Yes.
What happened over the past 8 hours?
It's been a big day. You pushed me. Yeah. You pushed me out of my comfort zone. And I basically have been approaching women. I think we said about 15, something like that today. And yeah, it was a very illuminating process, you know, seeing all my insecurities come up, seeing my limiting beliefs, you know, stopping me from doing certain things, making me act a certain way. And each time I approach, you know, we talk about it, and you gave some amazing feedback and It was just this like process of just trying to refine it. And now I'm feeling really hyped. Yeah. The vibe has been amazing today and I'm excited to keep going with this.
What would you say your biggest breakthroughs and takeaways are?
My biggest takeaway is that there are just opportunities everywhere. Constantly presenting themselves to me, but I'm— I wasn't seeing them before today. And you showed me how there's just opportunities everywhere, in the supermarket, walking from this place to another. So that was a huge takeaway. The other thing was about just how so much of this is just coming from within me, that I'm the source of all the insecurities they're all just my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.
Yeah.
And whenever I approached anyone, it didn't come across as weird, or, you know, I had those kind of beliefs that they might think it's weird or that I would get rejected. Like, none of that ever happened.
Yeah.
So it just showed me that, like, that all just came from me. Mm-hmm. And so much of it is just like my limiting beliefs. That's all they are, just beliefs that are just holding me back, basically. And that was, that was very illuminating.
Yeah.
A big emphasis that you, you speak about in your videos is this thing of the vibe. So I was really intrigued to kind of pick your brain about that. But then also, I think, like, you're kind of— your approach to this as well, like So much of it, yeah, is about the vibe and just like giving compliments. And yeah, that seems to kind of work quite well with me.
Offering value versus taking value.
Yeah, definitely.
I think the first interaction that like really stood out to me was when you approached that— actually, no, this is not—
that's actually the second one.
The first one was like when we were at Angel Station.
Yes, like that girl sitting down.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And you like, you, you complimented her, and then she just kind of like smiled at you immediately. She took the earphones out, you know, and then, and then she was like, all I saw was like the body language, and she kept on smiling at you, and then you just like ejected, you know. Yeah, yeah. And then I think like after that, maybe the The one right after that, it was like this Asian girl.
Yeah.
And then I just went straight for it. And I really like that energy of like, you just like, you ran quite a bit, but then like, that's the type of energy I want to see. You know, you're like, okay, let me go for it. I don't care. You know, like that's like, that's very masculine, very attractive. Going for it. And then yes, you technically didn't do the right stop. You kind of like, you know, start walking a little bit and like, it wasn't very masculine, but then like, The vibe was so— she felt your vibe that like despite all of that, she was still happy to give you, you know, all her info and all that stuff. And like you definitely could have taken her number, you know.
Definitely.
Yeah. Then lastly, I cannot forget that girl with the leggings and like the gloves, boxing gloves. Again, the vibe was great. You ejected and I was like, yeah, she's sitting there, gotta go back, you know. And then you went back.
But you, when you were like, go back. Yeah, it's like, what? Yeah, just went against all of my beliefs. Yes, that was actually amazing. That felt like a big breakthrough moment for me. Fuck yeah, was realizing that's actually like a strong, powerful move to go back up to someone and to just fully own what just happened. Exactly. That, um, you know, I think you said like a good thing to say would be like, look, I really like your vibe. I, I don't normally approach people, just being completely honest and authentic and saying, look, I just completely ran out of things to say. Yeah, yeah, just owning it. That's what I did. I came back and she laughed and was like— and, uh, we went back and forth a few times and I said, oh, do you fancy like getting a coffee sometime? And she said I actually have a boyfriend, but you should definitely approach people more. Which, you know, that was cool. Yeah. So even going back to this girl for the second time, I had all these beliefs that like this was going to be game over. And actually it was received very well. Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
And so much of it was the vibe that I came in with.
Yeah.
Um, so yeah, you did an amazing job helping me do that.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was really fun actually.
Just like me saying like, yo, let's go, let's go.
You're like, oh bro, I don't know, man.
Like, yeah, I mean, all of my ideas about like approaching women, the idea that you, you fumble it and then you go back up to her, like that went against everything that I, I thought. But the way you kind of flipped it, made so much sense.
Because number one, you did not flip it. You didn't fumble it.
Yeah, yeah.
That's the thing, you know.
I believed I did.
You believed you did. That's also limiting belief. Yes. You just left, but then all I saw like from a few, you know, meters away, I was like, okay, she's smiling.
Yeah.
She's appreciating, and then you just ran out of things to say and you just left, you know. Yeah. So, well, she's there still sitting. Let's go back. Yeah, I know. And it's also fun, you know.
It was fun. Yeah, so much happened. Just us walking around the city. Yeah, like so much has happened today. So much learning. Yeah, just by walking around and just approaching women.
Exactly.
So much has been learned today.
Yeah, I'm very glad. And then that one girl, that Austrian girl, remember? Yeah, that was funny. She was just like, she just immediately opened up. And I was like just trying to like observe you guys, and she started talking to me as well. And she's down to vibe, you know.
We just all started walking together.
Yeah, yeah.
Talking about life.
Yeah.
And she was so open to it.
Very open.
It was quite an unusual situation, but like she didn't seem thrown off at all.
No.
It was just chill.
No, she wanted to keep on going, you know. We actually said like, okay, we gotta go. Like, we could have walked. Together with her, but then we're like, okay, we're going this way, you know.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was interesting.
Just, yeah, huge day, bro, huge day, huge day, big day. But, uh, one thing I was emphasizing quite a lot was that the only way that we can learn powerfully is through action. Then you did, definitely. And, and, and then I'm very, I'm Very proud that you, you made that happen today.
Thank you, man. Yeah, it was an amazing day. Thank you for your wisdom. Serious wisdom was dropped.
Yeah, yeah, I appreciate you actually taking that in, you know.
Yeah, and this is just day one. This is just day one. It's crazy, like so much has changed within this one day. It's Yeah, I'm kind of hyped tomorrow just to like go to a coffee shop and just start talking to people. Exactly, you know. Yeah, so it feels like something's kind of shifted right now in my, in my mind, in my mindset, which is fun and exciting. Yeah, um, because I'm, I'm always out and about, you know, I'm trying to be out in the world and make myself open to meeting people, but the thing that I've lacked is just like the confidence where today we just like took action, just did it. And they did. Um, yeah, it was very illuminating how, um, how possible it is, you know. Yeah, it's just right there for the taking, basically. And it's just limiting beliefs, just that's the only thing, basically.
Exactly, exactly.
That's it, just the stories, the limiting beliefs. And if I could just put that to one side for just like a split second and be present when I'm talking to this person, yeah, it all seems —To go find. Exactly.
Creating, you create your own reality. You own the vibe, you own your own vibe, you create your own reality. And that's how you really dismantle your limiting beliefs. And yeah, by being present, you know how to have like the most unforgettable, you know how to create the most unforgettable moment with the person in front of you. Because when you're like so focused on that present moment, then when you're having that conversation, for example, that digital nomad girl, right? Like, you know, instead of like next, next, next, it's almost like she's like telling you multiple times like, hey, so I'm traveling a lot, you know, I'm like packing today. It's like, oh, like what? So what brought you to London? And like, why? Why US? You know, why do you have this digital nomad lifestyle? You know, curious, being curious and going deeper. You know, curiosity is a form of love.
Yeah. Yeah, that was definitely one really big takeaway is, is learning how to build kind of like a deeper connection with someone quite quickly. You were really good at kind of explaining that through— if they say something that's kind of interesting, exploring that instead of just like I was kind of rushing and moving on to the next thing. Yeah. Not really being present, feeling slightly insecure. But like, just within that one sentence, like, I'm a digital nomad, there's so much within that. So much. Yes. And there's an opportunity there to really like get to know someone deeply. Exactly. And that was a big takeaway for me, you know. Yeah, I'll work today for sure.
Yeah. When you actually think about like a normal conversation that you have with like a friend, you know, it's like, um, when we met up with Harry and Izzy today, like, we're like exploring all these topics. We go like, we talk about one thing, we go really deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, you know. And then like maybe we like talk about the same, we bring that same level of depth to like someone else, but we still talk about the same topic, you know. Business, we're talking about business for quite a while, you know. Okay, what do you do? Like this, like, um, approaching, creating these connections, and we're talking about that for a while, you know. So you can bring that same type of depth. And because this is also aligned with your brand as well, of like depth. I think you're someone who actually really, really enjoys deep, meaningful conversations. And then that's, that's a very, very powerful way to show your vibe. You know, like how to lead them, how to lead the conversation in a way that like is aligned with your authenticity.
You know, that's cool because I think my belief before today was very much that I have to kind of change who I am and be more of like an extrovert type person where I think I'm naturally more like introverted and like talking about things on like a deeper level. But actually that kind of fits in with your approach.
Exactly. Which is so cool. Exactly. Exactly. That's why actually, I mean, I'm a, I'm a, I'm a strong extrovert, but at the same time, like, I enjoy very deep conversations. And what I've noticed is that for introverts, That depth comes way more easily. Once they've really learned how to make that first approach, then in terms of going deep in their conversations, it becomes way, way, way easier. For example, you're talking to a girl, "Hey, oh, I think you're in fashion." But you can have way more colorful vibe around it. "Oh, you must be doing fashion because just like your bag right now, it matches your funky sunglasses." definitely like a bohemian vibe that's like very unusual here in this setting. It's like way more like colorful, you know, so you can start adding more and more and more and more and more to it, you know.
Yeah, I really see that within you, how you embody it, or, you know, that confidence that just kind of like runs through you. Yeah, that you're, um, constantly growing, you're doing what you want to be doing, you know, you've like found your purpose. It like really comes through in a big way. And I think, yeah, like today just was, was such a good example of that when you're like the triant and like the girl is trying to talk to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's something that's kind of like started to become quite clear to me over the last like few months is that I feel like I'm very much trying to like fit myself into the world where like with you, I see you just like owning your story. And like the truly extraordinary people just like own their story and they don't try and make themselves fit into a world. Yeah, they just like show up to the world as themselves and make the world accept them. Exactly. Exactly. And I feel like I've been like trying to like, yeah, fit into a world where like I've had a quite unique, unusual life and I should leverage that and own that.
Own it. You know?
Bully. And nah, so yeah, that's the vibe right now. Um, so yes, it's been cool to like see that from you. And, um, yeah, that's definitely something I'm trying to like embody right now, which is like fully owning my story, my life experiences. Yeah, 100%.
And really completing all of them, you know, really owning them, not judging yourself, you know.
I appreciate it. Um, And just, just the vibe of you as a coach is just, it's so nice and friendly and fun and playful. Um, yeah, like it never felt like you like knocked me down at all. Why would I do that? Yeah, I don't know, like you never criticized anything I did actually. Why would I do that? Yeah, it was always just like trying to bring me up, which is nice.
Yeah, I guess that's my style. Yeah, I mean for me like knocking someone down doesn't help. Anyone. And honestly, you were killing it, bro. Honestly. I mean, if you're not like pulling your weight, yeah, like I'll tell you, you know, I'm very straightforward, but like honestly, like you were killing it. Today was a massive day objectively.
I mean, it started out as like the task was to compliment 3 people. Yeah. Just like, and I was like, nah, I don't even know, bro. And you were like, no, no, no, literally, like, if they've got a cool top, just be like, hey, nice top. If they've got a cute dog, like, cute dog. Like, nice socks. Yeah, like, that was the task. And I was like, no. And then I ended up, like, approaching, like, 50 girls, having legit conversations.
It was insane. So yeah, it's a good fucking day. Yeah. Yeah, objectively, that was wild. Wow. Strong case study, bro. Strong case study.
Yeah. I wonder what you think would be like the next kind of day out, like approaching, like what would that look like based on today? What do you think you would set as like the goal?
Yeah, I mean, I think doing this in a like Maybe you being a bit more direct and then like having like more of a masculine intention come through, right? And having just like going deeper actually, you know, staying with like the topic, you know. And then, you know, actually you connecting with them on an emotional level and then you understanding something like 3, like most like 3 strong takeaways from them and then them feeling the same. Recognizing when and where they actually start investing in the conversation with you, and then like letting them invest, you know, so that they also find out more about you. Totally, totally. And then some more like group sets, and then like, yeah, like getting their contact details, like, you know, like going on an instant date. Quick coffee, quick tea.
Yeah, well, I think that's what was so mind-blowing about today. Like, that's what was so illuminating about it is like each interaction, there was just so much to be learned in terms of like body language, like the way I spoke, what did I say, how did I respond. Yeah, like just so many things, so many layers to each interaction. Yeah, pretty crazy. Totally. Yeah. And so something else we spoke about, which I think is just so true, is just like how everyone's using dating apps. No one is doing this. Like, it's very rare for a guy to approach a girl on the street like we did today. But it's like so powerful. Exactly. Such a powerful move if you can do that. You know, it shows that you've got like, you've got this level of self-worth. You've got this like confidence, you've got good communication skills, like that immediately puts you in this like higher echelon of men. Exactly. Exactly. You know, it's a very different vibe to like, pick me on a dating app.
Exactly.
Which is kind of like what I've been doing, which like hasn't worked.
Yeah. Yeah. It's like they don't put you as— they don't put you in the same bucket as like one of those other guys. You're not one of them. You're the only one. So true. So true. This is actually like a really powerful skill set that's also quite dangerous, you know, if you don't use it the right way. Yeah, that's why, like, I almost, like, consider it, like, my duty to kind of give this skill set to someone who deserves it, you know. Like, I really mean it, you know.
Yeah, that's cool.
Yeah, because I know, like, it can be— it can can hurt some people if you— because it's like, it really, really like gets to the like heart of the vibe, you know, and it can really kind of like sort of like stimulate someone's soul, you know, like, and I think you've seen like a glimpse of like me doing it, you know, yeah, it's like just like that, you know, yeah, and they're like, whoa, like what is that, you know, yeah, very powerful, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I mean, imagine like what it did to your confidence today and to your limiting beliefs. Imagine like what would happen like a month from now, 3 months from now, 6 months from now, a year from now. Keep up with this momentum. Imagine what would happen like if you parlay this type of vibe into the rest of your life, to your business, to your lifestyle. Yeah. To your community. All right, cool, man.
Thank you, man. You're welcome.
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