Ukrainian Model Asked Me Out After I did THIS (Infield Breakdown)

Welcome to how to create dates with beautiful women anytime, anywhere, naturally and organically. For context, I'm coaching a client of mine in person. He wanted to go grab a quick coffee. We're in a cafe. I'm not a coffee drinker myself, so I just wanted to grab a quick seat. I see an open empty seat in front of me, so I start walking over there, and my cameraman just started his camera rolling, and there's a girl in front of me. She's got a cap on, so I don't even look at her face, but we start chatting and a lot of things just unfold beautifully. So let's check it out.

Hey, excuse me, is this seat taken? Can we sit here? Yeah, thank you.

Appreciate it.

Where are you from, by the way? So one thing that happens here is that I'm just asking, hey, is this seat taken? Because I don't know if she's waiting for a friend, I have no idea. And she says, okay, yeah, have a seat. I sit down and instead of waiting, right, I see her, I check her out, I'm like, okay, where are you from, by the way? I'm just curious, right? I go right away, right? So I'm not letting myself that time to think about it, right? Just express it right away. That's the vibe here. You said—

I, I just— when you, when you talk to me, I was like, I thought like I was getting like a Russian vibe, but you're not. I don't think you're Russian. Oh, okay, okay. I just— when I talked to you, when you looked at me, at first I got the Russian vibe, but I don't think you're Russian, right?

So here, instead of just asking right away— I mean, I did ask, but I am catching myself. Okay, let's make an assumption. Let's make a fun game out of it. Why not, right? And I'm literally just expressing what I'm downloading very directly, right? Easy.

I'm glad you said that because I'm Eastern European but not Russian.

Okay, you're Eastern European but not Polish?

All right, between Russia and Poland.

Ukraine? Okay, can I have an ice latte, please? Slava Ukraine. What does 'Dokhrate' even mean?

Yeah, it just means glory to Ukraine, right? Obviously I'm not saying that just to like get her approval or anything like that, right? I have some extensive experience in Ukraine, right? Just a quick knowledge tidbit right there, right? Easy.

Oh, what are you saying?

No, no.

And that's the difference, right? Like, I could have gone on, I could have launched into this whole tale of, hey, like, I visited Ukraine for the first time like more than 10 years ago. I did this and this. I visited many times, right? Like I have a lot of friends who went to festivals. I could have said all that, right? But no, I'm not gonna launch into all of that, right? Like I just met her and let's just like ease her into it, right? There's no reason for me to tell her all that either. Like I'm still finding out about her, right? So just like little by little breadcrumbs, fine? Just here to connect.

What's a Kyoto latte? That would be like an easiest guess, right? Yeah, but I actually grew up in an Asian country.

What country? Can you find out?

Yeah, I was born in the US, but I grew up in Asia, and then later I moved back to the States, you know. So which Asian country do you think I'm from?

So here, instead of just saying that— I mean, I did live in a lot of different countries for context. Instead of just revealing right off the bat that, hey, I am from this country or I am from this country, Right. Just actually telling a story about my life in a very natural and easy way. Right. Hey, okay. You, you guess the US, ah, partially is true. At the same time, I kind of grew up in Asia. Right. And yeah, launch into this story, right. A little bit. So she gets an understanding, right. Just really dragging it out, right. Not doing it just for the sake of dragging it out, but I'm actually making it easy for her to get to know me, for us to connect. Right? Right. And the temptation is to just say like, oh yeah, one country, this country, this country, right? That is very one-dimensional. But through telling, through telling stories in this way, it's easier for me to also express it. It's easier for her to actually understand the vibe on a deeper level. So that's the main difference here.

I just want to, you know, make assumptions so you will not be like offended because I'm not really—

I'm gonna get super offended if you get it wrong. I'm just kidding. I mean, it's not about getting it right, right? At the end of the day. So what do you think?

I don't know, maybe Korea?

No way.

Really?

Yeah, you're the first person that gets it. Everyone's guess is like Singapore or something, you know?

Maybe that's why I—

Maybe you cheekily manifested that, you know? Yeah, Thursday. Today's Thursday, Friday? Friday at Arabica, I'm gonna manifest a Korean guy. It's like right here, you know?

Yeah, super easy, right? You look at the body language, you feel the vibe. It's been less than 2 minutes, and then we're quite easing into it. I'm getting her to guess, right? It's not like a gambit or anything like that, right? They just here— we're here to make it fun. And she got into the vibe and then she was like, oh, I don't want to guess wrong, right? I'm like, yeah, well, I might be offended, right? Tongue-in-cheek type of vibe, right? Most people think that it's okay, that's your frame. You think that if you guess it wrong, you know, you're gonna offend me. But like, yes, I'm gonna be very offended, you know, this type of vibe, right? And then she guesses it, and genuinely not a lot of people guess it. So I'm just like actually pretty pleasantly surprised, right? And I'm like, well, you manifested the guy right here, you know, right here. So already, like, we just met literally, and then the conversation just starts flowing, and it's as if I'm meant to be there, and she's also enjoying the company, and we just keep it going.

That's because of the style, you know, because a lot of my friends are very stylish.

Yeah, I would say so. I mean, I like to think that a lot of Korean people are very like, they wear the same things, you know. Like when you're in Korea, it's a very— people, people do the same things, you know. It's like a collectivism type of mentality, you know. You do one thing and everyone does the same thing. It's like if there's a trend, everyone follows it, you know. No one's like trying to break out of the trend, or no one's trying to kind of like redefine something, you know. There's a bit of a different vibe, but yeah, this is my opinion, right?

Um, A lot of the time, like, when you're sitting in front of an attractive girl and then she tells you her opinion about something, in this case about Korea— well, in this case, I happen to have some extensive experience growing up there, right? And I have my own opinion and perspective, right? I'm not gonna just, you know, just listen to her, say like, okay, cool, right? Well, if I have something to say, I'm gonna say it. And Her vibe is like, okay, well, Korean people, they're very stylish, right? Well, you could also think that because that's what like social media portrays it a lot. But actually when you go there, you know, people have a very— a lot of the time, I'm talking about the mainstream here, right? Like a lot of the time people want to be perceived in a certain way and there's like this collectivism mentality there, right? So yeah, essentially expressing that very in a very real way. I'm not hiding anything.

Right.

Yeah, it is what it is.

Maybe because once I had to like a video casting and I had to learn Annyeonghaseyo from Korean.

Annyeonghaseyo. You're good, you're good, you're good. I like that. Okay.

Do you like living in Korea?

I don't live in Korea anymore. I mean, I was there, I grew up there when I was a kid.

So here she already started telling me about her world, right? That she went for this video casting, she learned this word, right? And she starts asking me questions about Korea, right? The thing is, she didn't have to ask me anything like that, right? I'm the one who actually came in and sat down right in front of her, and she could have been like, okay, hey, I'm kind of doing my own thing, can you just like leave me alone, whatever. But she was actually doing her own thing, and she actually gets invited to play this game, right? Play my game essentially, right, that I invited her to. And yeah, we're just vibing here at this point, right? And the vibe kind of like slowly, slowly, slowly amps up.

I hated it.

I hated it.

Yeah, it's like, I mean, visiting a place as a tourist versus actually like growing there as a local, obviously completely different experiences. But Korea, when I was growing up, it was like going through a huge economic boom. You know, and then like everything was getting like— the country is small, right? And then there's like a lot of people, millions of people, and it's very like, um, people— there's this like expectation that you have to like really perform at a high level. Um, I mean, obviously I cannot ignore that there's like a family thing as well, but yeah, I didn't like it. It doesn't really— it's not like a society that really, really like fosters like diversity or individuality.

Yeah, 100%. I mean, that's true. Um, and here also pay attention to the self-expression here, right? Because most people, they get tempted to just talk about like, oh yeah, it's, it's great, everything's great, right? But the reality is that, yeah, Korea is a very exciting place to be as a tourist, especially right now. But when I was growing up there, especially someone who moved around a lot and, you know, like went through this huge economic boom. Of course I benefited a lot as well. It's been an amazing experience, but there's like a darker side as well, right? And I'm just telling her I'm not afraid to hide anything, uh, right? I'm, I'm here to really express and also see if she, uh, how she actually responds to that, right? Like, does she have enough of a vibe beyond, beyond her looks to actually vibe with me? On this level? Let's find out.

Because it's almost like, as I said, like everyone's like doing the same thing, right? So if you're like someone who's like, let's say, not really academically oriented but more like, let's say, artistically oriented and musically oriented, more creative, like I think it can be a little bit stifling. But now, now things are a little bit changed. You see like K-pop, K-media, whatever. But you're in— so you said you're in casting, so you do like modeling? Like print or runway? Commercial.

Commercial, okay.

Like in Bangkok mostly?

I think you're as a tourist.

Yeah, so one thing I did there is that I talked about my world, but then instead of like going deeper into my world, right, I'm like, okay, that's enough. I want to find out more about her actually, right? Because she was asking me these questions and now we could keep on going in that way. But then, no, actually, I want to actually find out more about her. I wonder if we vibe, right? She's shown to me that she's a good listener, but I want to learn more about her world actually, first and foremost. So let's switch the vibe back to her. So that's what's going on here.

That's how it starts usually.

Yeah. And like, just for holiday, and I was expecting to sign convention this year, but it didn't Vegas. So now I'm going to China.

You're going to China? Like when? Like Shanghai?

Oh, okay.

I know a lot of Ukrainian and Russian girls who are like, yeah, they kind of shuffle back and forth between Bangkok and Shanghai, like Guangzhou as well. You know, it's like these seem to be like the hot markets for like modeling, right?

Yeah, right.

So if you know a little bit about their world, talk about that, right? I know about their world, right? I'm expressing that. Easy. Instead of just saying, oh cool, right? The vast majority of the time, like, you know, you tend to say, oh cool, and then next, right? Well, add some more meat to it, but then Like actually by being present, you talk about, you add me to what's actually being talked about in the present moment, right? We talk about her world, we'll talk about her world, right?

Easy. For me it's gonna be like first time to go to China.

Oh, you've never been there? Prepare to be shocked. Prepare to be shocked, you know.

I've been scared that nothing like, you know, European doesn't work there, like social media and stuff. South.

Yeah.

And also, at first I saw this something like close to North Korea, but then I saw something—

Excuse me, can I have a cover for this?

Wow, these— But you're going to Guangzhou? Okay. I've never been to Guangzhou before, but a lot of my friends actually go there for modeling, actually. So yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Also, I don't know about what— what about Chinese people? They always seem to prefer this, like, Eastern European faces, you know?

So like, I would say another thing to pay attention to is the body language, right? So I came in, sat down, and I'm just leaning back, right? I'm just chilling. It's kind of like owning the space in a way, right? Super important. When you're relaxed, when your body language is relaxed, your mind is relaxed, right? The way you come off also is going to be relaxed, right? So that's the key.

You just like fit right in.

Yeah, but that was like very funny that I was with my friends and they usually really take care of like face SPF and stuff, you know, to be very like light, light skin. Yeah, but my agency asked me to tan.

Really? Oh, so you're actually tanning right now? You're tanning here indoors?

No, no, I like, literally in my schedule there is like 2 hours. Yeah, rooftop.

And really, that's your routine? You have like a Google Calendar? Okay, tanning from 10 AM to 2 PM, check, check. I love that. What's your name? Kate. Nice to meet you. Steven. Kate. It's, uh, my first name is actually my American name, and my second name is my Korean name.

Oh, right. So you can see that she's very interested, um, because first of all, she starts telling me about her schedule, about her life as a model, right, in a very in detail, essentially. And then we start talking about names, and yeah, I tell her my name, and then she's like, hey, so okay, you have this Korean background, you're also American, okay, you have an American name, you also have a Korean name, right? Showing interest, actually getting inside my world, right, in a very natural way, right? And essentially, that's what's so magical about actually creating these types of situations, right? Anytime, anywhere. Instead of, you know, swiping on apps, hoping to get lucky, going out at night, getting drunk, right? Well, when you're just going about, out and about, right, during the day, well, you go to cafes, you go to these different restaurants and, you know, events. Well, cafes are perfect, right? Because people are chilling, they're sad, right? They're having a moment to relax, right? And literally, there was an empty seat, right? And it was like mine for the taking, essentially. I just came in, sat down, and just keep it going, right? And she just clocked out that, okay, this guy's not afraid to express himself, right? It's quite fun. And then, yeah, we just keep it going.

Like an interview right now? You're like trying to profile me. Uh, my Korean name is Junhyuk. Junhyuk. Junhyuk, yeah. And you, Kate?

Katerina?

Katerina. I don't know so much about history here.

I lived like, I've always moved around and lived around the world quite a bit. So essentially, after I moved back to the US, I was like kind of all over the states for like a few years. I left the US like 10 years ago. And then I was mostly living in London. When I was living in London, I was like spending a few months at a time like Kiev, Moscow, Warsaw, Belgrade. So I was most— I was in Europe, Eastern Europe a lot.

Yeah, all true story for work and stuff.

So it's actually very rare. Yeah, that's many people go. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's part of Europe.

Exactly. Sorry? Why was there like a little pause there, you know?

Like, you know, like, maybe my city is on the—

One thing to actually pay attention to here is that I asked her if she spoke Russian in Russian, and then she hesitated and she's like, yeah. And the thing is, you know, we're all intuitive beings. We have been trained to communicate with different people, and we also notice these different details, and we're also trained not to express. But here, the main point here, the main thing I always coach my clients on is the idea of always expressing. Calling out the elephant in the room, right? I caught that she's hesitating. Okay, why is hesitating? Why are you hesitating? Not judging her, right? I'm not making her feel wrong, right, or anything like that. I'm just curious. Hey, what's going on there, right? Like, it sounds a little bit unusual, right? I'm curious. Is there something there?

What's going on, right? North part of Ukraine.

Ah, so it's more like Ukraine. Okay, okay.

So yeah, obviously the situation between Russia and Ukraine is sensitive, right? So like, that's the reason, that's why she hesitated.

Russia, like, and everybody around spoke Russian, but I guess after first like conflict between Russia and Ukraine, yeah, my dad and my grandma Oh, okay.

So the thing is, she also could have just told me, yeah, you know, Russia-Ukraine, um, you know, conflict, war is crazy, right? I don't want to get into it, right? But she's just explaining the story in detail, right? She's telling me like her family, uh, background, personal story, and this is why, right? She's, she's getting into like multi-different layers, right? So that's how you know that this is not just like a— yeah, it started off as like a random vibe, right? But you can see how she's opening this kind of warms in a way, right? And she's like very warm.

Yeah, all right.

And it was like a room of, you know, this national path, like Ukrainian.

So that's the whole vibe. Let's skip a little bit because this is a pretty— this is pretty long.

Jacqueline. Yeah, nice.

How are you? I see.

What do you think?

Take a wild guess.

Oh my God, I don't know.

Take a wild guess.

Almost everybody here, like, some freelancing style, digital marketing.

That's what I used to do back in the day. I used to do a lot of, like, uh, digital marketing back in the day. Now I'll do mostly, like, um A lot of coaching, content creation, and stuff. Content creation and coaching, like coaching men, like confidence.

Yeah, exactly. I'm telling her what I do, right? Nothing to hide, right?

Self-improvement, like communication, figuring out their purpose in life, this type of stuff.

Yeah. Oh my God, I forgot this. How to say it in English? Like, psychology?

Yeah, that's part of it. A lot of my clients come to me for, like, let's say, like, they experienced a heartbreak with a girl or something and they want to navigate with, like, the next steps. Or, like, yeah, usually they come to me, like, with dating issues a lot, but sometimes, like, they come with, like, career issues. Like, yo, I've, like, done XYZ. I feel like it's not really the right vibe for me. I want to figure out the next step. Like, how do I navigate this whole maze? Where'd you learn your English, by the way? Your English is like—

Right, so this is what's so beautiful about creating a date, an instant date like this, right? Because I'm not in a rush, she's not in a rush, so this is as if we actually are on an an official date, right? Like we met somewhere and then we agreed to meet, right? And then this is like, we're kind of like getting into each other's world on a deeper level, fun level. We're kind of like doing this ping-pong back and forth, right? And yeah, she's obviously displaying her curiosity, right? Hey, like, what are you doing? Okay, like, and then I tell her coaching and then she's like, hey, so tell me more. What about? Your coaching, right? Like, tell me more about your clients, right? This type of stuff. So like, we keep it going.

For like a Ukrainian?

Yeah, yeah.

I like your question, I like your question. Um, yeah, I moved from the States, mainly because I felt like it wasn't my place. It wasn't like an amazing place for me to really grow, you know, like experience like a new culture. Like, I mean, I have an American passport, just like I— yeah, it was great, but something, I don't know, it's like, it's hard to explain, you know. But I've— when I was in the— when I got to the US, like my one number, one of my— everything was great, but then And then like about a year into it, I was like, I got this itch to kind of explore Europe, for example, and Asia.

Yeah. So even the questions she asks me at this point are way deeper. It's not the surface level of, you know, just, yeah, talking about stuff that really doesn't really matter. Right. It's just kind of like she's displaying a lot of curiosity about the different choices that I've made in my life. Okay, so why did you leave the US, right? This type of stuff, right? Um, it could be that she just maybe naturally a more curious person, but actually that's part of the qualification. I actually like, like that I can talk to her about in this way, or like she's actually, instead of me proactively, you know, opening up the vibes in that way, she's— she also has a capability, capacity, and ability to help us get there together, right? So very, very fun. And then it allows me to kind of tell her my story on a much deeper elaborate level as well, right? So this is what makes it really fun.

And then I started exploring and I was like, yeah, I feel like, you know, in the past— do you believe in like past lives and stuff?

Not very much, but like 10% I can give it.

Why, why not, why not like 9%? Why 10%?

Just, you know, my Virgo man.

Yeah, yeah, that's a, that's a Virgo vibe, you know, 100%.

So funny. Opposite. I feel that United States is more my place.

Yeah, yeah.

But, uh, look at it the situation which is happening right here.

Yeah, so we're talking about astrology, karma, past lives, right? A lot of very deep stuff. And these, these are the kind of things that I actually like to talk about anyway, right? I don't really care too much about the surface level stuff, right? Like, it's good to break the ice in that way, but this is what really connects you, right? And it's not that— it's not really important to me whether they believe in past lives or not, right? It's not really about that, right? It's just about the quality of the conversation itself. So that's what's really at here, what's really alive and present here, right? Yeah, it's beautiful because, yeah, it's been what, almost 20 minutes, and we're just kind of flowing into it, right? And I, uh, at a certain point I realized that, yeah, Wow, my client is actually like waiting for me, right, to finish. And I could have kept on going, but I'm like, okay, let's wrap it up at some point, right? So that's what's going on in my head right now.

Right now with the politics, it cannot make sense.

Nikki.

You know you can get certainty like here. Here. Delivery, they have it. If you like it.

Thank you. Are you on Instagram? Yeah, yeah, let's connect. Can you open?

Yeah, so this is a very opportunistic timing, right? It's not like I'm looking for that opportunity, whatever, you're right. Usually at the end, we plant some type of seed to meet up again, and then, you know, we swap our contact details and bounce, right? Here She's openly telling me, hey, you know, you know you can order this type of food if you want. I can tell you, right? And I'm like, oh, okay. She's hinting, right? Okay, you're on Instagram, let's connect. Easy, right? Supernatural.

No case? What if you like drop it? You just drop it?

Really?

Burger vibe. This is me, I'm gonna follow ya. When's the last time you had Korean food?

Well, I think the last time I had it, we went to like Korean barbecue.

Was it a good one?

It was okay. Yeah, I wanted to try.

Okay doesn't sound great. No, that was okay. Like, no, I'm here until the end of the month actually as well. I'm here for coaching my clients. They're kind of flying from different parts of the world, and then we're going to live together and I'm going to coach them in person. And then Bangkok is just kind of like a hub.

So like, you go to clubs to meet girls and teach them how to communicate?

Everything and everything.

Like sometimes like clubs, bars, sometimes like during the day. Anytime, anywhere. But then that's kind of like the— there's many different sort of like stages, right? That's like stage 1, but it's more like, you know, it's like how do you express? How do you express in a way that like, you know, makes you feel whole and complete, you know?

Yeah, this is literally— she's telling me, she's asking me about how I coach my clients, right? And what I coach them on. And literally I just tell her, right? This is it. Like this is case in point, right? We're in action right now, right? Talking about the residential, about how I live with my clients and everything, just telling her about my life and the stories in a very transparent, real, and raw way. And it also makes it easy for me to assess whether we two vibe, you know, what is her lifestyle like? What is my lifestyle like? Like, you know, what are our values like, right? And I'm also just, instead of making my life appear as if it's like, you know, very mainstream normal, it's not, it's not, it's not too mainstream actually, right? I move around a lot, right? I live with my clients, right? It's like what I do is very, this is, it can be quite polarizing, right, in an amazing way. So I tell her exactly what the vibe is like, and then she becomes even more curious. You'll see.

If you keep on expressing in a certain way, like, but then you know that the right way to communicate is like something else, like, why do you keep on doing that? You know, what are some of the limiting beliefs that, you know, you've been telling yourself? You know, what are— what's actually stopping at the subconscious level? Like, all these things, you know. How do you— when you communicate with someone, how do you make them feel seen and heard? How do you actually create this, like, a strong emotional connection, etc.?

Yeah.

And from, like, what nationalities, cultures your clients mostly from?

They're from everywhere. Yeah.

So she's like, at this point, she's just, like, even more curious, right, about my world. And yeah, like, definitely, I think she's someone who's definitely a little bit more curious. But what I'm getting from this, watching this again, is that yeah, she's engaged, she's interested, right? She's into it. She told me many times that like it's, you know, like meeting someone like me is very unique, right? I— we skipped the bits where we kind of talk about her culture, how I've been there a few times and like my experiences and everything, right? And even that's how we kind of start talking about their national food, sedniki, as well, right? And yeah, I think she's kind of like getting sort of like more interested and more and more and more into it, right? And yeah, I'm just pretty clear that, right, I'm not— I'm not here to fit my life into someone else's mold or some society's mold just because I think that's what the vibe is like, even though I've been through that, right? The corporate world, the investment banking world, the, the stacking the credentials, schools and everything. But like, I've actually learned how to carve out my own path and create my own uniquely exciting life in my own way, right? And I'm pretty unapologetic about it. And I think it's pretty evident that's what the vibe is like. And I think she's also getting that. And also she's looking for kind of someone who, who's like that anyway, right? Because also she's a model, she like travels around the world, she's— she got different contracts, right? Um, so yeah, that's kind of the vibe here. And if you're watching this and you're telling yourself, yeah, like I consider myself a pretty successful guy, I'm the— I'm the kind of guy that actually creates luck in pretty much all areas of life except in this area because I just don't know how to How to do it? I don't know what the blueprint is like, right? Well, this is exactly it, right? If you have an exciting life, even if you don't have an exciting life, if you're actually carving out your path, if you are on your journey, it's extremely beneficial for you to express that or even learn how to express it, right? Understanding where you're going in your life and why, right? Your values, your North Star, your higher purpose, your lifestyle values, relationships, right? All these different things. So that's number 1. Number 2, being comfortable in your own skin. Obviously you can see that this guy is pretty damn comfortable in his own skin right now, right? Right, most people, especially Koreans, right, if there's an empty seat, right, like they don't even think about just like putting themselves in a situation where they're like, okay, I'm just gonna grab a seat there. Well, hey, I'm gonna sit there and I'm gonna like, I'm gonna talk to her because I want to, right? Because not coming from like an egotistical mindset, but I'm here to offer her my own unique gift of my presence, right? Time and energy, right? It's all energy, energy, frequency, and vibration. That's what Nikola Tesla said, right? If you want to understand anything about the universe. And yeah, like seeing this as an opportunity for her to get to know me as well, right? Not seeing it from the lens of, oh, like I'm going to interrupt her, right? Because otherwise if I hadn't sat down, right, none of this would have happened, right? If I hadn't actually talked to her, right? If I hesitated, none of this would have happened, right? So This is what the magic is about. And lastly, third, having fun along the way, right? So knowing when you're going, knowing where you're going in life, being comfortable, being comfortable in your own skin and having fun along the way. That's what makes you already a high value man. But it's about actually expressing these vibes anytime, anywhere so that you are actually an unleashed being. You can unleash your self-expression, right? You're not being stopped by anyone or anything. That's what makes the vibe super powerful, right? And that's when they feel the energy. That's when you feel the energy, first of all. And that's when you can actually offer this incredible, incredibly uplifting energy, grounded energy, Fun energy, dynamic energy, and they can also feel it and they want to be a part of that, right? So that's the vibe here.

Like, clients from Canada, from Luxembourg, Italy, Dubai, US, like just UK, just everywhere. As long as they can speak English, you know, their vibe has to be great though. It's just like, usually my brand is very much like Yeah, as a man, you need to know where you're going in life. And then it's like, you know, being comfortable in your own skin, knowing where you're going, and then having fun along the way. So it's like a lot of guys, they already know—

that's exactly what I just spoke about, right? Case in point, they already have the right elements.

Then they're not— they're kind of like, they're really successful in their careers, for example, but then like in their non-professional life, it's like they're struggling. So it's almost like, okay, Okay, let's actually help you switch gears and help you operate differently. So yeah, I like it. So I used to be— I used to do something completely different. I used to be in like finance, you know, like suit, tie, glasses, like trust fund. Yeah, yeah, hedge fund. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it, that's it. Yeah.

Switch from finance to coaching?

You're really great with questions. We should do some podcasts next time. Maybe, maybe we'll go to a restaurant and then set up a thing and then it's like podcast vibe, you know? Great idea, right? Um, it's a long story, but to really—

yeah, again, very deep question, right? She didn't have to But she did that, right? So this was actually— when I think about it now, when I look back on this now, it's a very unique one, right? Um, and this is actually what happens a lot of time. Like, when you first come in, you break the ice as a man, right? And you essentially engage her in conversations. You start telling her different stories, and you just pay attention to what actually occurs in the conversation rather than you bringing you with yourself, something that you want to talk about. You just kind of pay attention to what's being present in the present moment, and then you carry it on. And then at a certain point, right, if she's interested, she's gonna latch on to one of the topics, and then you start going deeper, deeper, deeper, right? And then now the table is flipped, right? And she's actually asked— she's asking me way more questions rather than the other way around, right? So that's the vibe here.

Simply, uh, to simplify it, I'm a very like a vision-driven person. Once I have like a goal, it's like I'm very like relentless, you know. I just like go for it. And then I always thought that like my goal was to like, you know, graduate from college, make a ton of money as fast as possible. Like, my parents have done so much for me and my sisters, so like, help them retire faster. This was my goal, right? And then pretty much like a year into it, not even a year into it, the first job right out of college, I realized it wasn't what I was looking for. So I've just been like looking to just like trying different things, you know. And then this coaching, I realized that, I mean, this is just something that really helped my life, you know. I went through a pretty crazy, like, depression, like, when I was, like, in my early 20s. And then, like, yeah, like, just, like, getting coaching and personal development, this type of stuff, like, it all really helped me get to the next level, help me really feel whole and complete, and, like, really helped me, like, completely reinvent myself. So that really taught me, and it's just something that also has been naturally happening, just, like, a lot of my friends, they're just like asking me for help. So like, you know what, if it's naturally happening, why not actually do it?

Wow, that's so impressive.

So yeah, here what I'm feeling is there's a lot of realness here. Like, yeah, obviously I'm here to give my feedback on my own, way of being, my self-expression. But yeah, it's, it's unleashed, right? And the thing is, it's a two-way street. It's not like I'm just here to just talk about myself and whatever. Um, usually it's the other way around, right? I'm here to kind of get inside their world. But in this case, because, because she's so intrigued and hooked, she, she was asking me a lot of very deep questions, right? Getting deeper, deeper, deeper, deeper, right? Almost as if this is like a real first or second date, right? Just finding out about each other, right? And yeah, that's the vibe here. And yeah, like I would say, if I wasn't coaching, right, I probably would have, um, sussed out her vibes, you know, for the day, and then see what she's doing, and then just kept it going, right? But hey, there's value in keeping it short. And yeah, let's see how we wrap it up.

Wait, I wanted to say something, but I forgot. Oh yeah, so I wanted to say that, like, you know, when you're like 16, 17, everybody said that like 20s is the best time of your life because you're like party, travel, and all of this stuff. But actually, almost everybody who I know in their 20s, like, having depression, have trouble to finding themselves, changing those careers. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

It's like the—

how old are you now?

Huh?

How old are you now?

Oh, did I tell you? Oh, maybe I didn't tell him. How do you think I am?

Mostly just like this.

Yeah, I look old, huh?

No, I—

Yeah, so this is also fun, right? Like, she's getting quite personal, and yeah, that's the vibe. She's just shocked at how old I am. And yeah, happens all the time.

Crazy, huh?

You must have a lot of experience.

It's one of the things that like I get— I actually feel like younger the older I get because I'm like, like I'm doing everything in my life that's really aligned with like my soul's purpose and mission, right? So I feel like very like uplifted, and that's why like I I think I'm always expressing my truth, right? So I get younger, but then when I was younger, actually, I was like more stressed out because I was like, oh, like, what should I do? When I look at my photos from my, my 20s, I look like way older. I was trying to grow like facial hair and I couldn't even grow properly, you know? It's like little stubbles here and there. Yeah, mostly no. I mean, look at my legs.

It's like I don't even need to shave.

Hey, it's a privilege now, you know. It didn't feel like a privilege back then, you know. I'm like, no one takes me serious because I look way younger, you know. So I'm like trying to grow facial hair. Now I'm like, well, I embrace it, you know. Do you have any plans for Songkran?

Yeah, I think my friends and I, we are going to do this like festival thing.

Oh, the S2O or something? Yeah, like music festival. Like everyone's going there, probably.

Yeah, they are planning everything and I'm just— I'm here, I'm so racist, all that stuff. Yeah, I need to buy this like water gun.

Yeah, me too, me too.

Wait, Songkran, does it start on Saturday or Sunday?

Sunday.

Sunday, okay. Okay, okay. Yeah, I need to, I need to buy a water gun too.

Yeah, so like I saw outside.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

So maybe next year.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So she's referring to, um, meeting again. We essentially briefly talked about getting food together, right? We talked about Ukrainian food, Korean food. I kind of like skipped over the details because quite long. And yeah, essentially, yeah, we talked about kind of like our rough plans. And then, you know, I never really directly asked her this question, okay, like, when do you want to do it? But she actually brings it up, right? She's like, hey, right, like maybe next week, right? We can do it, right? So she's like kind of expressing her interest there.

Yeah, yeah, let's vibe, let's vibe. You completely distracted me. I was looking, my friend was like getting a coffee and then I was just like waiting for them and I sat down and they're just like gone, you know?

It's like, what?

Where are they going? Anyway, Kate, so do you go by Kate or Katya?

No, not Katya for sure. Kate.

Kate.

Um, how do you say, like, fake name for, like, career, for my career, my social media, foreigners, and all of this stuff. So usually I don't go with Ukrainian name.

So you prefer Kate?

Yeah.

Okay, Kate, hope you have a lovely rest of your day. What are you— what are you doing?

Content planning.

Content planning. Do you like, like, Reels or like YouTube or what kind of content? More TikTok? Okay, you're more active on TikTok.

I want to be her. Okay. And also I need to do some updates on Instagram, like his portfolio and all of that, you know, modeling stuff.

Yeah, yeah, got it.

Cool.

All right, well, hope you have an amazing vibe. Yeah, cheeky, cheeky of you to distract me like that, you know.

You know, I was hiding.

Hey, your vibe, you know Nikola Tesla? You know the guy Nikola Tesla? He's like, I like that, that you know. It's like, if you want to understand anything about universe, energy, frequency, and vibration. Vibration, it transcends, you know, your visual stuff. It's like, you're like, yo, like, I'm calling in a Korean guy. Okay, have an amazing day. All right, see ya, bye.

Okay, so that is the vibe. All right, so in summary, yeah, as I said, the vibe transcends the visual stuff. I looked at her— I actually didn't even look at her, actually. I was waiting for my client, right? I didn't want— I'm not a coffee guy. I see an empty open seat, I just sit down, right? And you know, the vibe just keeps on going. We end up spending almost 40 minutes, longer than 40 minutes, just vibing. And you can clearly see that there is magic in the air, right? Uh, it's not like the, the whole vibe is not really forced. I'm there, she's thanking me for, uh, approaching her, right? She, she told me she was actually hiding with her cap and everything, right? And we're like bantering, we're jokey, but at the same time we're kind of connecting on a deeper level., right, talking about our challenges, what we want out of life, like where we're going, why, right? And then it's both sides as well. So yeah, this is essentially, right, the, the vibe, like what you can actually create when you know how to capitalize on any situation anytime, anywhere, right? This is because most of the time if you see a girl like this in a cafe, you're like, okay, she's doing something, right? She's engaged in an activity. Um, there's an empty seat, but let's not bother her, right? That's, that's what most people think. But no, if that's, if that's how you see the world, where you're not really gonna get anything done, right? If you want to, if you, if your lens is such that, hey, I'm here to offer her my own vibes, my value, and I'm here to express myself. I'm here to play, connect, and potentially create magic. Well then, well, I'm gonna essentially do the job of breaking the ice and yeah, saying hi. And that's exactly what happened. And yeah, storytelling, obviously bantering, quick back and forth, and This is, I would say, the easiest way to actually create your dates, right? She's already sat in a café. All I have to do is to just say hi, sit right in front of her, and carry on a conversation. I didn't even actually see her face before, and that's the beauty of it. And we just kept on vibing because the vibe was great. And yeah, Obviously, if you want to learn how to do this on a deeper level, hit me up and let's have a conversation. All right, sending much love. Keep calm and vibe on. Peace.