She Said "No" Twice... Then This Happened (Infield Breakdown)

Welcome to how to create dates with beautiful women anytime, anywhere, naturally and organically. What you're about to see is a clip of my client approaching a girl, vibing with her, and against all odds, creating an instant date. For context, he's a software engineer in his late 30s who had just flown in from the West Coast of the US to live with me and getting coaching from me for almost a week and a half for our Soul Game Residential. A lot of beautiful things happened in this journey where after this moment, he essentially created an instant date literally every single day, multiple per day. And by the end, he literally had to choose which ones to go on additional dates with. So that's the vibe. Without further ado, let's get it started.

Excuse me. Hi, do you speak English?

Yes.

I saw you from over there. Yeah, I thought you were cute, so I want to say hi. Yeah, you look like, uh, you want to talk and walk, walk and talk?

So yeah, very smooth stop and smooth delivery. Obviously because we altered the voice, so you can't really hear the voice, but his voice is good. The pacing is really good, right? And he's very present in the moment. He notices that the girl wants to walk, right? Like she's not stopping, and he's like, oh, he's like kind of inviting himself, right? And he's like, oh, you want to walk and talk? Okay. So that's the vibe.

Going home. Oh, going home. Did you have a long day?

Yeah, yeah.

What's that?

Long day working.

Oh, oh wow, you work in Thailand? That's really cool.

No, I'm not working in Thailand. I just recently come. I was out of Thailand long time.

So what you're seeing here is that the conversation itself is pretty— it's not necessarily deep or anything. Obviously they just met, right? It's just like bantering here back and forth. And you notice that she's kind of swaying her body back and forth, right? And she's releasing her energy. What that means is that, yeah, she's enjoying herself. And I think she was looking for this exact moment. She's looking to be— I wouldn't say necessarily approached, but I think she's looking for some type of spontaneous vibes, right? And this is exactly the vibe.

Oh, you haven't been in Thailand the whole time? Yeah, you're traveling?

Yeah, I love Bangkok. Are you?

Yeah, I'm not local. Yeah, can you guess where I'm from?

Um, I don't know, no idea, but I was Also, one thing to notice is that like they're walking and then they obviously stop. He stopped and then she could have just walked off, but she stopped with him and they're carrying on the conversation with him. And she's also a little bit hooked because she's asking, okay, are you local? Right. Um, she didn't have to ask that question, right? So there's like some level of interest. I wouldn't say completely green, but there's like green, green light, yellow light, red light. Definitely not red, you know, because if she was red, she would have walked off, right? And she would have been like, okay, bye. Still there enjoying the vibe, right? So let's see.

Understand that you're not local. Yeah, yeah, because of your appearance.

Yeah, I can guess you're not local too from your appearance.

That's logic. Yeah.

Are you from Russia? Is that I can tell with the way that you dress.

Why? How Russian dress get? Like what kind of baby?

Very modest, elegant.

Maybe where you was born?

Ah, right here. So I always talk about playing with your assumptions. And she— he guesses that she's from Russia. And then she's like, okay, like, how do— how do Russian people dress? Like, right, elegant, very modest. And right, it's not like rocket science, right? Like, you don't have to come up with anything elaborate. It's about just being present in the moment and basking yourself in that energy of connection with them. And that's what's what's going on, right? She also listens to it, but like the words don't really matter. It's about the energy that you're creating here, right? And I mean, she's obviously interested, so she's actually like, she's asking him, okay, so like, where are you really from? And he goes, can you guess?

Oh, can you guess? Do you know the different ethnicities of— yeah, Thai is part of it, the word.

But you're from Southeast Asia?

I'm from Taiwan.

Oh, Taiwan.

You know Taiwan?

Yeah, I meet people. I met people from Taiwan, so they give advice to me. Oh, come to Taiwan, we've got great food, great night food. Wait, I've never been in that country before.

You seem like you would like food if you just came from India. Like, did you like the food there in India?

Yeah, the content of the conversation is nothing crazy, right? They're talking about food, they're talking about where they're from, right? It's pretty one-dimensional, but actually it does not matter because the vibe is really good. The vibe is really good. The pacing is really relaxed. He's not in a rush. He's not— because he's not in a rush, he's a masculine, right? So he actually leads the vibe in that direction. Because it's chill, because he's relaxed, it relaxes her as well, and she's— she can actually express her femininity in that way. So yeah, like, a lot of stuff is going on, but to break— to break down the vibe, that is fine.

Hey, Soso!

Yeah, how's it? It's strong in here.

You pick that up in Indy. I'm Charles.

Charles. Yeah, I should go. It was nice to talk.

Yeah, it's nice talking to you.

Bye.

So yeah, one thing to note here, and she's like, okay, I gotta go, bye. And she's not leaving actually, she's not leaving, and she just kind of like staying there. She's kind of testing to see how he's responding, right? And this is the vibe. Like, if you just listen, if you just only pay attention to what she's saying, right, he could easily just have, okay, all right, I'm done here, bye, next time. Okay, I got a number, I got her Instagram, so then what? Now what you don't see here in this clip is that in the corner, right around the corner, I am actually listening to my client, right? I'm calling him so I can know what kind of conversation is happening. And then he also got his earpiece, right? And I tell him, I unmute myself and I tell him, hey brother, like, she's telling you that she's got to go, but she's keen, she's interested. It, like, right? Like, just her movement, her body language. I can see her face actually, right? And yeah, I think there's an opportunity for you to create an instant date right now, right? And just, you know, relax, stay in there, and then just calmly invite her out, right? And see what happens. Let's see what happens.

Let's exchange Instagram. What are your plans for the next 2 weeks?

I'm not sure.

I can choose by myself what I want Oh, you're very spontaneous.

Yes.

Do you want to do something spontaneous now?

No.

So this is very interesting when you think about it, because it always depends on your frame. We always talk about it, right? Your frame is your lens on reality. And depending on what kind of color your sunglasses or glasses have, it filters not only the way you look at the world, but it obviously influences is the way the world perceives you. She just mentioned, yeah, I can choose by myself what I want, right? Some people could look at that and say, all right, she's like, she's, she's quite bratty, right? Why do you, why do you come off like that? But the way my client perceives the way she expresses herself is, oh, you're very spontaneous. You know, I like that, right? Um, you want to do something spontaneous right now, which is actually excellent. Let's see what happens.

For now, I think enough because like early days.

There's a matcha place right here, it's really good.

So literally she says no. He asks her out, he asks her to join him for a quick matcha, and she's like, oh no, early days, I need to wake up, this type of stuff. And then he's like, no, there's like a matcha place, you know, you can buy a drink, right? Let's see what happens.

Buy you a drink.

I also like matcha.

Yeah, me too. Yeah, you like matcha, right?

Yes.

Yeah, it's just actually right up there. Right up, right up here.

Yeah, yeah, right.

It's so interesting how at first she said she's gotta go, bye, and then she said he— because I told him, hey, invite her on a quick instant date, and he does, and she says no. Hey, no, I gotta wake up. And then I tell him, no, like she says no, but she's down. Does no mean no actually? Well, in this case, clearly not, right? She's also testing to see like how you behave, right? She's like, yeah, I'm not going to explicitly tell you that I like you, that I want to spend more time with you, but I'm going to use my body language to express it. And it's your job to actually lead me.

Right, right.

It could be quite controversial, but that's the thing. No doesn't always mean no. Like, if a girl says no, like, no versus no, I gotta go, you know, essentially that's what happened here, right? Otherwise, if she—

if he—

if he had invited— if he had invited her out again 'Hey, there's a matcha place,' she would have said, 'Oh no, I gotta go.' She would have actually moved on. She would have walked off. She did. And that's what, that's what we're talking about here, right? And oftentimes, depending on their culture, especially women from the Slavic world culture, right, like, you know, they're used to— it's, it's a lot of time they think that, okay, it's, it's my, it's my feminine way of expression, and I'm not just gonna say yes to everything, right? Even if I'm interested in the person, right? And I'm gonna show with my body language what the vibe is like here. And that's exactly what happened, and off they go to an instant date. That's the vibe.

You're spontaneous, right? Yeah.

This reminds me a little of Khanh Indiagoa.

Right here. Tough for you to, um, yeah, and you see it, it's so cold.

Makes sense.

Yeah, you seem like you have a good heart. Yeah, what would you like to drink? Hot drink?

Hot matcha? You called me for matcha, but you Take water?

Yeah, I'm very sensitive to caffeine. If I drink that right now, I'm gonna be like—

Really?

Yeah, like I can run like 10 miles. Yeah, yeah, I get a lot of energy. Yeah, I'm trying to keep it chill, you know. Yeah, cheers! Yeah, wish I could drink with you. I love matcha. This is the morning.

Do you want to try, Lito? Um, it's okay. Yeah, it's tasty. Um, I like also matcha in Malaysia. They make it also tasty, very well in Malaysia.

In Malaysia?

Yeah, yeah, nice matcha.

Yeah, got apartment with my friends and like Just like had a lot of fun. Yeah, this is like back in college.

Yeah, it's my lips green. My lips green because of matcha.

Well, there you go, right? The girl says no, right, at first, and yeah. I gotta go. And he invites her out on a quick instant date, and she says, oh no, I gotta go. Hey, there's a matcha place, you can buy matcha. She's like, oh, I like matcha, right? She goes, and now the tables— the table has flipped, the table has turned. Like, I don't know if you've noticed, like, but the way she looks at him, she goes like, you know, and she goes like, is my lips green? Because of Matcha, right? What do you think she's signaling there, right? Why would she even talk about that, right? Her lips. I'll leave that up to you to, to find out, to, to, to suss out what the vibe is like there. So that's the vibe. And the thing is, if he can do it, you can do it, anyone can do it. Right? Especially if you're, if you're a successful guy who is short on time, who thinks that, wow, it's so hard for me to actually make time for something like this, right? And in order for me to create a situation like that, create an instant date, I must practice like hundreds of times, thousands of times. Like, it's hard for me to kind of put myself out there, right? Like, I'm gonna risk my reputation. Well, number one, you can— there's an opportunity for you to actually completely rewire, right, that, that action. Actually seeing, seeing it as, okay, I'm here to offer my vibe, right? As long as you actually are completely comfortable in your own skin, right, you have an opportunity to give your gift of presence, time, and energy, right? And hey, I'm going to grab I'm going on a walk anyway, right? I'm going to get a quick coffee or matcha anyway, right? And if I see someone, I can say hello. And then, you know, these magical situations happen. How natural and organic it is, rather than doing it the mainstream way, swiping endlessly, right? Just like being so sick and tired of the mediocre quality of the people you meet there, right? Because of the, yeah, overproliferation of all these people, the nightlife, being drunk, a lot of overstimuli. This is the natural and organic way. And that's why, like, when you actually approach it like this, to them, when you— when, when the woman actually thinks about you You're not just one of them, right? You're that courageous guy. You're that brave guy. You're that ballsy dude who actually put your balls on the line and actually walked up to them and just vibed with them and then actually led them to a situation that they didn't even think about, right? And this is what actually creates magic.

All right.

So that's the vibe. If you want to learn how to do this on a deeper level, if you want to learn how to do this way faster with guidance, right? Um, if you want to understand your quirks, right, your vibes, if you want to really, really unleash your self-expression so that you can actually do this anytime, anywhere, anywhere in the world, Hit me up, let's have a quick chat to see if you'll be a good fit, and here to help you vibe. All right, sending much love as always. Keep Calming Vibe on.

Peace.