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11 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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In this short YouTube video, two speakers give practical dating advice for men on how to flirt without coming across as a creep. Speaker A warns against overtly complimenting a woman's physical attractiveness during flirtation, arguing that such comments can feel like harassment and make the man seem generic. Speaker B expands on this by explaining that physical traits are innate and often over‑used in compliments, leading women to view the speaker as just another guy. Instead, he suggests focusing on aspects a woman has actively worked on—her style, achievements, or personal choices—as a way to create a deeper emotional connection and make the interaction feel more genuine and playful.

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When you flirt like this, she's gonna think you're a creep. Never ever tell a girl how attractive she is when you're flirting with her. That should be conveyed by the way that you're saying things, how you're looking at her. It has to be a game. You have to make it fun for her where she's like, oh, is this guy flirting with me? Does he like me? Instead, if you're like, hey, beautiful, hey, you're so cute, she's not gonna be interested. It's not gonna be flirting. It may be harassment. She may think this guy's a creep.
In general, he's not wrong about that. A lot of the time, guys actually compliment a girl on their physical attributes. Hey, you're so beautiful. Hey, I love your eyes. And when you do that, She's like, "Probably heard that thousands of times, so you're no different than thousands of other guys." And number 2, physical attributes. She was just born with them. She didn't choose them. Instead of talking about what she's born with, talk about what she put effort into. This is the key to building emotional connection.