How can we tackle the male 'approach anxiety' epidemic we're facing? 🤔 #shorts #datingcoach
In this short panel discussion, the speakers highlight a striking statistic: roughly half of men aged 18‑24 have never approached a woman in person, and a similarly high proportion of men aged 18‑30 have not done so in the past year. They attribute this "epidemic" to the COVID‑19 pandemic and the shift toward online dating, which has reduced face‑to‑face social practice. The conversation then pivots to a controversial solution co‑developed with evolutionary psychologist David Buss: encouraging women to actively cultivate receptiveness, thereby giving men clearer signals and reducing approach anxiety. The speakers acknowledge the tension this creates in a post‑MeToo context, where women’s safety concerns are paramount. They also discuss a claimed gender gap in emotional intelligence (EQ), suggesting men operate at roughly 50 % of women’s EQ, which exacerbates misreading of social cues. Finally, practical advice is offered to women: when a man makes an awkward or clumsy approach, treat it as a genuine attempt rather than dismissing it, and consider the broader social environments (e.g., CrossFit, yoga) where “good men” might be found.
