I Taught a Dubai Constultant to Say Hi to 47 Women in 3 Days

Hi, excuse me, do you speak English by any chance? Oh, you speak good English!

Oh yeah, thank you.

Oh, nothing, I just wanted to say I love your retro like streetwear type outfit, like the pants especially. I kind of want to just like fast forward to the end, you know, because I just want to see what it looks like.

Yeah. Oh, Jesus Christ, bro, just killing it, literally. Day 1 of residential one-on-one coaching with my client who has just flown in all the way from Dubai. Thank you, brother. Day 1. So today, in terms of my goal, in terms of like the stats, you know, I would say 10 girls, right, as fast as possible. The easiest thing to do is instead of like trying to have like the longest conversation with each approach. Just quick, quick say hi. Ready? Let's do it.

Let's do it.

Okay. We're going to mainly focus on cold approaching, vibing, soul game, making it easy for him to— and fun to go out there, walk up to any woman. Yeah, just be like, hey, excuse me, do you speak English? Basically, you can either be like, hey, where's the best— like, I'm kind of thirsty right now. Where's the best coffee to get?

Right.

And then basically, just kidding, you know, I thought you were cute, I wanted to come say hi. There's something I've noticed about you. You can go with the whole ninja vibe.

Hi, sorry, this is super random. Do you speak English?

Nope. Did it.

That's funny. One thing that a lot of guys are just very concerned about is like, Okay, if I'm being really, really like, am I gonna like bother them or something like that? You know, I need to like lower my tonality.

No.

Like, where'd you get the drinks from? Oh, they had the drinks, but the drinks are gone. She's hiding the drink, right?

Okay.

Hi, sorry, excuse me. Do you guys speak English? Only a little bit.

My friend is translating.

Hi, what's your name?

I'm Marie.

Chuck, nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. I'm curious, like, these drinks look really cool. Like, where'd you get them? What do you guys study? What do you think about the tariffs and Donald Trump?

How was it?

It was fun. They're like very young. Yeah, one of them spoke English.

Yeah, uh, the one who was like very, very engaged.

Yeah, yeah. And like, what I started with didn't matter by the end. It was a bit rough in the beginning because I was like trying to grasp onto different stuff. But then like eventually, like once I get into a convo, like—

Just to fine-tune a little bit in the beginning, like have more of like a dead-on, like a very focused eye contact, smile big, and then like more like a bigger sort of like tonality. But I mean, in this situation, in this context, it was like pretty perfect because the energy was low. You matched their energy. I don't know.

I actually told this to her. Yeah. I was like, you're not normally my type. I said if there was like a hot to cute axis, I normally go more towards hot and you're like more towards cute.

Yeah, it could be that you're subconsciously quite wired to really be challenged more, you know, and then like for you, you might be, you might associate attraction, love and relationships, you might equate those things to, for example, conquering a challenge, you know.

Yeah. Hi, excuse me. Hi. Do you speak English?

Uh, yeah.

I was wondering where you're from. Are you Thai?

Half?

I'm half Thai, yeah. Okay, half Thai and half Russian? No, German. German?

Ah, where in Germany are you from?

Frankfurt.

Okay, I was just in Frankfurt. My best friend's from Stuttgart. I went there for the Euros. Yeah, yeah, like, uh, they were in Germany last year. Actually, last weekend my friend, he did his birthday. I had like 10 Germans staying in my house. Yeah, I don't think I've had this much beer. Like, I'm still hungover from it. Yeah, so sorry, I never got your name. What was it?

Uh, my name is Amy.

Amy. Shaq, nice to meet you. This is my friend Steven.

Nice to meet you. How are you?

Steven is actually— I've been, um, we've been friends for like a year. He does these really cool, um— I'll let you explain House Manifest.

Yeah, essentially it's like a residential experience.

That's your style?

I can show you my Instagram.

Are you around here for Songkran?

Uh, yes, in S2O and Siam Songkran.

Oh, we might go to S2O. It's like a festival.

Okay.

Tomorrow, you know.

It was great meeting you.

Okay, it was nice to meet you.

Good to meet you.

All right, bye-bye. See ya.

So I think like you're already good at kind of like talking about, like talking about stuff, but then the, like, I would say your opportunity is actually finding one bit and then like really go deeper.

Yeah, you know.

Okay.

And then not being afraid to show your, like, your curiosity. How you conversation, how you make her feel really seen and heard. Yeah, you know, and then in the process, if you do it really well, she's gonna ask you anyway. It's like, okay, like, where do you— where are you from, by the way? How do you know so much? You know, exactly.

Oh, okay.

Then like, let me drop it. Then she's hooked, right? Okay. And then let me actually dial down the energy, and then we can actually focus on connecting.

Yeah, I think zooming in on like a specific topic to build a connection, I think I'm I'm normally good at that. Yeah, it's just like, I think because of being nervous and because of this out of my comfort zone, I'm not doing the things that I normally do, you know?

Yeah, when you talk to your friends or something, you shoot the shit, right? Yeah, you kind of like bust a ball and like do all these things. Do the same thing whilst going deep and then just getting a deeper understanding of her soul, essentially. Yeah, like what would you want to find out about her, you know? Make her feel seen and heard, you know? Yeah, beyond the whole like, okay, you're a pretty girl, like everyone knows that. She's pretty.

Yeah, nah, that's it.

I'm choosing— there's a lot of attractive women out here. I'm choosing her, you know, because something about her energy is interesting. I want to go find out. I'm curious. I want to find out more about her, you know. When you first meet a woman in this, like, a cold setting where, like, they don't know anything about you, you don't know anything about them, like, they just need to make a snap judgment, right, in terms of, like, to figure out whether you're a high-value man or not, you know, whether you're like a hobo trying to like make something happen, or you're like, um, I'm a hobo kind of guy. Yeah, you do this more often, then inside you're not trying to like prove yourself to them.

Hello.

Excuse me, do you have any tips for dealing with the sun here?

Literally none. Just, just slather on sun cream, I'm afraid.

Like, it's not working for me, like at all.

Why, because it's too hot? It's too hot.

You're not getting burned? I'm not getting burnt, thankfully. Yeah, my skin doesn't allow that, but it's just annoying. Like, I'm not used to it.

No, no, me neither. Yeah, I did know, but we're leaving tomorrow, which is such a shame.

Oh, are you like island hopping or what's the vibe?

We were in Koh Samui and then we just done 4 days here, but honestly, I don't want to leave. Like, I love it so much.

It's a numbers thing. I'm not like Steven here. I'm just gonna like, you know, vibe with everyone, but, um, I think, uh, no, it's very good. Like, very warm. Like, it's a good interaction.

Yeah, that was good shit. I like that. It was more fire, you know? It's like you went in immediately.

Yeah. Sorry, you speak English?

You don't speak English?

Only a little bit? You don't speak English?

A little bit?

You speak great English!

I saw you and then you look cute, so I'm saying hello. I feel like you listen to a lot of like, um, like, uh, On the surface, you have this like a very well-put-together vibe, but then in private, you listen to some crazy music. I feel like that's the vibe I'm getting.

Oh, like The Weeknd? Do you know The Weeknd?

The Weeknd? Who doesn't know The Weeknd?

Like, who doesn't know? It's like classic.

You approach someone and sometimes they're really into you, but that they're not really opening up. Yeah, she was just there. She was on the way to meet up with her parents, you know, but she was still locked in and she was still talking to me, right? That means that she's keen and she's not like, okay, bye, I need to go. She's still there, right? Yeah. So that's something for you to be aware of. Nice.

Isso!

The man.

All right, first day.

The day is not officially over because we're gonna keep going.

I'm getting this anxiety of like, oh, they're walking away, should I go, should I go? But like every time he pushed me to go, I went and did it, you know? Like, funny enough, I had the best vibe with people that don't even speak English the best, but it You have this natural kind of energy that— I was just really surprised with like how many people I just went up to.

Yeah, you're just going with it.

And they just end up talking to me, you know, like whatever. Results will go like parabolic, I think, the more that we do it.

Yeah, bro, I would say your first day, I think it was smooth. Obviously still some limiting beliefs around like how fast a girl should respond to you, for example.

Yeah.

Or how readily they should be open by certain states.

Yeah. Right?

So I think that's something to work on. I want you to see a girl, or like me point out a girl, and then just like, just go right away. And then really kind of bring that sense of urgency and then fire, and they can feel that. Be more shameless. Day 2 today, the focus is on very simple, making the vibe, making the stop way more, I would say, way more impactful, like right from the get-go. So you go in with this like more fire, like more fiery, more like a flirtatious energy right from the get-go. So I want you to experiment with openers that are a bit more risky, like more direct, you know?

Okay.

Hey, excuse me, I just saw you, super cute, I wanted to come meet you. What's your name?

Right?

Or like standing, just like when you say, okay, I want to approach a girl within 3 seconds, approach right away. The vibe is aligned, go on an instant date.

Excuse me, do you speak English? Um, I don't know, something about your outfit really caught my eye. Like this black and white, where'd you get it from? Yeah, from Zara. Oh, okay, I love Zara. Like, is this like your normal style, or how do you normally like to dress?

Uh, it's like normal style, like black and white color.

Black and white, okay. Like, how would you say you developed your sense of style? Where does that come from? Where did you develop your sense of style? Like, how did you learn how to dress? Who taught you? Or my From IG? Okay, do you like some? What influencers do you like?

What? My— yeah.

Or are you an influencer? Really? What's your Instagram? Okay, you said you're not an influencer, but you have 6.5 followers. Okay, that's not bad. Yeah, bye, nice to meet you. I think worth it just to like shoot a message and see what's up. Yeah, maybe even a cheeky pop-up voice note. I like that. Sick. Hi, excuse me, do you speak English by any chance? Oh, you speak good English.

Oh yeah, I help you.

Oh, nothing, I just wanted to say I love your retro like streetwear type outfit, like the pants especially. Look at this, just literally approach anywhere, anytime. Well, it was nice meeting you. Maybe I'll see you again.

Nice to meet you too.

Excuse me. Hi, do you speak English by any chance?

Yeah.

I just want to say I really like your style, like the dirty jeans with like the shoes.

Thank you.

Are you into streetwear? Are you into streetwear?

Um, no.

This is like streetwear, no?

Actually, yeah, I'm not a streetwear style.

What's your normal style?

Just as fashion. We are going for some pickleball like this.

Okay, wait, you play— they play pickleball here?

Yeah, we have. No way!

Meet you.

Nice to meet you.

And yeah, hope you see my friend.

Okay, well, maybe I'll see you there.

Is this seat taken? Can we sit here? Yeah. Thank you. Where are you from, by the way? Okay, you're Eastern European, but not Polish.

All right. Between Russia and Poland.

Ukraine. Yeah.

Okay.

Can I have an iced dark latte, please? South Slava Ukraine.

What does dark latte even mean?

I was born in the US. Yes, but I grew up in Asia. I used to be in finance, like suit, tie, glasses, and trust fund. Yeah, yeah, hedge fund. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it, that's it. Yeah.

So what made you switch from finance to coaching?

The first job right out of college, I realized it wasn't what I was looking for, so I've just been looking to just trying different things. And then this coaching, I realized that— I mean, this is just something that really helped my life, you know, really helped me like completely reinvent myself. So that really taught me, and it's just something that also has been naturally happening, just like a lot of my friends, they're just like asking me for help. So, oh, did not tell you? Oh, maybe I didn't tell you. How old do you think I am? Yeah, yeah, true, true, true, true.

You must have a lot of experience.

It's one of the things that like I get— I actually feel like younger the older I get because I'm like, like I'm doing everything in my life that's really aligned with like my soul's purpose and mission, right? All right, well, hope you have an amazing vibe. Yeah, cheeky, cheeky of you to distract me like that, you know.

He just took the girl and the vibe is on fire. No, I just love this dress. Are you going out to a party or what's the vibe? Where are you from?

Yes, where are you from?

Yeah, guess where I'm from. Here.

Yes!

How did you know? How did you know? Is it just like the vibe and stuff? I love Bangkok because it reminds me a lot of Dubai, actually. Like the partying, the people, like the rooftop. Oh, you especially with this outfit, like you would love it. From it, like, I took off my glasses. Yeah, I think, like, I came from, like, the front. I was like, hey, excuse me, do you speak English? She's like, yeah. I was like, are you going to, like, a party or something? And she's like, no, why? I was like, well, I'm in this dress. And it's immediately, like, she's like, oh wait, what is he talking about? Like, you know, and then I just have my smile. Like, I was being very funny, very playful, you know? Like, I'll show you a message.

I'm here.

Like, You know, I will see what happens, but it was really good practice. I think this guy has been just like smashing it, you know, one after another. Yeah, it feels like the vibe definitely shifted, you know, compared to yesterday. So yeah, break it down for us. What happened?

I've just been going in with very intentional, spicy, whatever kind of openers, or like you know, like, hey, I really like your dress, so are you going out in that?

You know, like, I like your style, that and that.

And it's like immediately, "Hokki ji fo," you know. I'm getting a lot more like, oh, where are you from, what are you doing, like getting a lot more like that. We got like 3 IGs today. It will happen, it's just like things have to align, you know. But I think the next step is just doing the ID.

I loved how you essentially hooked almost everyone. You went from, okay, I don't want to do this, to like you're just hooking girls, you know. Shaq has been learning and integrating, like really downloading everything so fast. Instant date, next step. Day 3. Yesterday was a huge day for Shaq. A lot of magic happened, things that we can't really talk about on camera. Some magical stuff happened, you know. I just taught him instant dates. How you feel? Feel good, man. Yeah, I'm just about having fun today. Yeah, I mean, aren't you always?

This is special.

The glasses are from your sister's shop? Yeah. Okay, nice. Did you make the necklace by yourself? That's really cool. You bought it? I mean, it looks like you made it yourself, like you picked all little pieces. Is it a custom? Where did you guys get the guns?

Um, okay.

Oh, they sell them? Yeah, get the Do they accept credit card today?

I thought it was tomorrow.

And what are you doing for Songkran? What's your vibe?

I don't do anything.

Why not? What time does it go?

Uh, I think midnight.

Midnight? Okay, that's not bad. Any suggestions for Songkran?

I don't usually play Songkran.

It's not building emotional connection, it's just very service level, factual level stuff.

I think like the vibes today, much less the types of people I'd say that we want to talk to because I think they're out going to S2O, the music festival, just doing their own thing or in between, moving between. But even though it's a weekend, um, I've been trying to hook with like Songkran and stuff like that.

Here's why it's not really flowing because you're trying to work with the Songkran stuff, which is a kind of like the contextual information, you know, like the background stuff, which might work well as an opener.

Yeah, the thing is It's not building EC.

The energy that she's getting from you is like, oh, he's just like, like trying to ask something, you know, and that's it. Okay, it's like maybe he's— I don't know if he's interested in me. Like, there's none of that intention, right? As soon as you talk about Songkran, for example, if you want to talk about that, talk about it real quick. Okay, she said, okay, homebody. Oh, so you're like an alternative person. It's like while everyone else is doing this, you have your own independent stuff, you know? Like, have you always been like this? You need to get inside her world, just like get her as a person first. And just forget the whole Songkran stuff a little bit.

Yeah, I agree.

Yeah.

This is a graph that shows my walking score. When I was in Bali, no walking at all. As soon as I get to Bangkok, it's like a hockey stick, you know. Yesterday, 14,500. 1,000 steps. All right, we're on a serious mission today. Shaq, what's happening? What are we doing with this? What's going on?

We're making girls wet, just differently this time.

Different vibe, baby. Something so attractive about being in this city landscape, you know, it's kind of like an urban jungle. We've got the subway going on, a lot of buildings, some trees, greens, you know, a lot of little bridges connecting different streets with each other. It gives you this sense of, uh, play, you know, you're here on a playground, but it's exploring different things, you know, connecting with different people.

Like, I'm happy because like I have done this for me and it's something that will stay with me for the rest of my life. I was having so much fun with it, you know, that it almost became like— I don't know how— it is a game, like, yeah, like, I think that's like—

should be—

that's like the highest state of this shit. In my interactions now with people that I'm dating or that I'm talking to, just being like really playful and like having this pop-up frame or whatever vibe, you know, You know, like, I've really implemented that now.

Yeah, 100%.

Um, to the point of like, I'm just enjoying being myself and doing that stuff. When the vibe is actually really right with someone, you don't even have to think about what it is that— oh, exactly— that you're doing. Yeah, yeah, you should be doing. Obviously I've learned and grown a lot from here, but there's gonna be like aftershocks, or like there's gonna be ways that all of this will sit with me for a while.

Integration.

And integrate over time. It's like, I've learned all this, I'm gonna continue doing it, and then who knows what's gonna happen, right? Yeah.

So yeah, for me, just being in this type of city, it really makes me feel alive. And yeah, like coaching my clients to essentially become unleashed and express his soul as well, that for me, it's like, fills me with a lot of sense of joy, fulfillment, and energy.

Yes.