I Taught a Virgin Entrepreneur to Approach 200 Women in 10 Days

Hey, excuse me, do you speak English?

Uh, a little bit.

A little bit? Just a little bit? I was just walking and I noticed your look and you look really cute, so I wanted to say hi. Of course. What's your name?

Uh, Bang.

Bang? Bang or Pang? Bang. Brendan. Nice to meet you, Brendan. Nice to meet you too.

This is Brendan, 29 years old, speech coach from Montreal, never kissed a girl, so he flew all the way to Bangkok with one mission. Approach 200 women in 10 days. Now, for a guy who's never had a girlfriend, that's like getting thrown into a Muay Thai fight with a busted back and one YouTube tutorial.

Do you speak English? I— All good.

But here's the thing. This wasn't random. Last year, he flew to London and I coached him through 100 approaches. And this year, we're doubling down, baby. Because after coaching high-performing guys around the world for 15 years, I've seen what 200 approaches plus does to a man. It cracks you open. It forces you to drop the mask. And it rewires your vibe, your dating life, your confidence, your entire reality. Now, here's a twist. There was one thing Brendon didn't tell me until he showed up.

Fuck! Fuck!

His back was completely injured. Every approach would be agony. And by day 9, something happened that completely broke him. But not how you'd expect. Let me show you what really went down in Bangkok.

So hard! Everything was there! Fuck! I'm so upset!

Okay, now before I tell you what really went down in Bangkok, Let me give you a shout out to my boy Brendan for being so vulnerable, allowing us to put together this beautiful video, and just even allowing me to label him as a virgin, because that's not easy, right? And all this time he's been taking such massive action, and he's a real MVP. You can say whatever you want about him, right? But what's undeniable about him is the fact that he actually took a lot of action out in the real world, and he never took no for an answer. So shout out to my boy Brandon. Okay, so first things first, what really happened in London? To recap, before coming out to London, he had never approached any women in his entire life, let alone going on a date. So the fact that he actually went out and approached that many women was a huge shock to his system. I mean, it was pretty crazy. So after approaching 100 women in London, Brandon thought, okay, that was a beautiful introductory experience. I created a couple of amazing dates that completely, like, blew my mind, never expected to happen. And now I want to practice on my own and really level up the vibe. I want to connect with someone on a deeper level and really stretch my comfort zone to another level. So after a few months of going out alone in the brutal cold of Montreal, Canada, he told himself and hit me up again, "Steven, let's do it round 2." So that's what really happened. So when Brendan first came out to Bangkok, not gonna lie, I was pretty surprised. In London last year, it was a huge struggle to even talk to a girl for more than a couple of minutes. So in Bangkok, in a city and country that he had never been before, he was showing up like a hungry tiger and mayaan, right? He would see all these women and I would point them out and he would approach them and he was hooking them. He was engaging them. He was having, he seemed to be having a lot of fun as well, right? Sometimes he would talk to them for 10 minutes, 15 minutes and move on. And I was like, wow, pretty impressed. So instead of really analyzing anything, I just wanted to see what really would unfold from all these different approaches. And with 10, 20, 30 approaches, nothing. He got these girls' Instagrams and numbers and everything, and everything seemed to fizzle out. And this is when we really started breaking down the vibe here. What we noticed was that even though Brendan really leveled up in his vibe and approaching, he wasn't really showing his real romantic intent. It was almost like he was too afraid to show his real interest in them, and he was really more obsessed and interested in just keeping the conversation going as long as possible. And because of this energy, a lot of the time when we actually broke down the footage, the vibe was this. He would approach a girl and she would have this vibe. Oh, hi. Oh, okay. Oh, oh, thank you. Oh, okay. Oh, like, what can I do for you energy, right? You see how, you know, when you're just doing your own thing, right, in your own city, and then some foreigner comes up to you, right, to ask for some information, and they're like, hey, of course you're going to be polite and nice, right, to that person. So he was getting a lot of these types of vibes. From these women. So then we're like, okay, like, what's really going on here, right? So even though he was getting in the reps, approaching a lot of women and getting a lot of experience, he kept on repeating and creating the same type of results. So then I was like, okay, we need to do something about it. All right, you got to make him polarizing. What does that mean? It's about time you owned your actual romantic intent. Instead of going in there and trying to be nice and trying to make your conversation as long as possible and trying not to lose them, hey, it's all about you going in there and then really stating clearly what your intent is. It's almost like, hey, I've noticed you. I don't know anything about you, but something about your vibe caught my eye and I want to find out more about you. Let's see if we qualify. "Let's see if we can play and connect and qualify for Magic," right? This type of energy. Obviously easier than said, but that's what I really, really got him to download, starting with his nonverbals, his tonality, his eye contact, his cheeky smile, open body language, good posture, right? And instead of having this like a simpy, like a, report-seeking type of vibe, right? And always asking a lot of questions, actually giving value, making assumptions more, making playful assumptions, right? And then not being afraid to express his romantic intent. For example, opening with something way more direct. I just saw you walk past.

Hi, I'm—

And you look really nice, so I wanted to come say hi. Thank you. Yeah.

Thank you so much.

Or during mid-convo saying something like, Okay, when I first saw you, obviously your looks caught my eye. That's why we're in conversation right now. But the more I get to know you, the more I feel like you actually qualify the vibe. Like, I like your vibe, genuinely. And actually telling them what about their vibe you like about them, right? So we dialed in on the vibe pretty solidly. Another thing that was amazing about this experience compared to the London residential a year ago, was that this time around, it wasn't just Brendon that I was coaching. We had another amazing brother, Siggy, AKA John, who came out all the way from Prague to join this amazing transformative experience. So it wasn't just me coaching him. Both of them were feeding off of each other's energy. And when you're actually on a very similar journey, or in this case, the same exact journey, it's really easy to see what their blind spots are, and you actually flip the script and you can also assess what your blind spots are as well. This is the power of brotherhood we have at Papa Club. We've got some of the most kind-hearted, international, high achievers, high performers from all around the world who are very intentional about their personal development and self-improvement in this area. And they're there to not only practice with you, but they're literally there to host you and practice with you, live together, and, you know, they're there to get inside each other's world. So you might be wondering, why is all this necessary? Meeting up with these other brothers, flying halfway across the world, and really exposing yourself to like all these difficult things. Cold approaching is the most powerful skill set that you can develop as a man. And obviously it's not easy, it's not comfortable. Because you're putting yourself out there again and again and again. You're getting that raw instant feedback on your sexuality, on your viability as a man, right? It's not easy practicing, playing, and vibing with other brothers on the same journey as you. In my almost 20 years of journey of doing this and really developing myself in this area, Brotherhood is by far the most powerful thing that I still have within me in my life as well. The brothers that I've gone on this journey with, I mean, it's just life-changing. And that's what's available inside Papa Club. So because cold approaching is by design not the easiest thing to do and learn in the beginning, is vital, is crucial for you to surround yourself with other brothers who who have a similar vibe as you, who are ready to go on this journey. So all of this can be actually fun. And whenever the going gets rough, eventually it's gonna happen in your journey at least once, and your vibe goes downwards, well, your brothers are there to really, really pick you up and motivate you and are there for you to not give up and help you keep going. And that is really the vibe. This is why both Brendan and John and countless of my other clients have really, really transformed in this journey. Now, when you hear this message, something about this vibe really, really resonates with you, you know what to do. Click on the link in the description below and apply for a free consultation to join Papa Club. Okay, so back to the vibe. With the feedback of being more polarizing and showcasing your romantic intent, more, way more, Brandon started seeing results immediately. He started going on instant dates. He started being more playful. And I could feel that he was actually showing his masculine vibe way more. And on day 9, something happened that would change the rest of his life.

Not kidding.

So what happened on day 9? Side note, this happens to be the exact same day my other client, Siggy, created his dream relationship by approaching a girl in a British accent, not his original accent. So what happened on day 9?

Hey, excuse me.

So until this day, usually this is the vibe. I see a lot of baddies and I would point them out and he would approach them and he would sit down because his back is completely destroyed, right? And you can see him like wincing and going like, ah, right? Again, shout out to Brendan. Never complained once, right? He's a champion. He's a warrior. My respect goes out to you. Now, for the first time ever, he sees a girl walking and he literally sprints. Like, I didn't even know where he was, right? He just like sprints and I didn't even really have a moment to catch my breath. And he approaches this girl, right? And he hooks the girl. And from my vantage point, he's holding the girl's hand for, what feels like forever. And I never knew he could actually stand up tall like that, right? Because I knew his back was completely wrecked, right? He's got a bit of a disability in his left arm as well. And like, I was used to seeing him kind of like hunched over, but for the first time he was really showing his masculine intent and I could see the magic unfolding right in front of my eyes. And he comes back And for whatever reason, he's pissed. I'm like, yo, Brandon, what's going on?

He's like, bro, if she spoke English, bro.

No, bro, that's—

I tried so hard.

What do you mean? You did well, right? Did you at least get her Instagram? And he's like, no, bro. Maybe she's still there. Let's go find her, right? So in the footage, you see us sprinting to find her, right? We see her inside the SkyTrain station and going up the escalator. You can literally see her going up and are like, yo, bro, fucking get the ticket, go in there. You know, Brendan realizes that it's really difficult for him to sort out the whole thing. And he says, I give.

Oh, she doesn't speak English. What?

And this was his biggest turning point. During this residential program. Why? It was a classic mind versus heart conflict because he'd been so focused on creating his dream relationship, finding his dream girlfriend, and he had already pictured in his mind that, okay, my dream girl is someone who speaks English, right? XYZ, the list goes on and on. And for whatever reason, this girl defied all the logic and his mind had already decided that, oh, she doesn't qualify. He can never really resolve properly. His entire life until this point, he had learned how to craft this really, really meticulously crafted mask and put on this mask and perform. And with this mask, obviously everything is about strategizing. Okay, when she says A, I have to respond with B. When C, then D. But the moment you encounter something that completely defies your logic and expectation, now you have to go off script and you don't know what to do. And it was, it's kind of like a system overload and you don't know what to do anything about it. And that's when everything clicked for all of us. Even though Brendan came to Southeast Asia really well prepared, How he had been preparing for this epic residential journey was by analyzing a lot of my own approaches. Oh, Steven does these things very well. Let me actually meticulously watch and analyze every single one of his approach clips and memorize a lot of what he says. Oh, this is what I should be saying if a girl says this, right? In this moment, I say this, right? So instead of showing his true self, his true emotions, and honoring his excitement and intuition. Like, he would see a girl and he would start calculating, okay, this is exactly what I should be saying in order to get the girl. And this is why when you see his clips, instead of having this free energy of connecting and playing and vibing and just flowing, and then actually his energy being lifted up after each approach and interaction, he would actually get tired more. He would actually get drained more. His energy would go down, down and down, down again, right?

Why?

Because when you have this mask, you have to perform, and that's not your real you. And when you're performing, well, guess what? It gets tiring. Whereas if you go out there and you're just there to put out your real self, whether it be with your colleagues or your friends or strangers, you're just the same dude. Well, you're just the same guy. And you're there to really see who qualifies for magic here. Who's there to, like, you see a pretty girl and your vibe is like, okay, she's pretty. Let me see if she's actually got some substance behind her pretty looks, right? And I'm not afraid to put my real self out there. So this was actually what was really, really going on. And so although this one approach completely broke down Brendon, conversely, he learned so many of his limiting beliefs, his scarcity mindset, his mask vibe, the heart versus mind conflict, and his performance energy. So that was the Bangkok vibe. We were there for 10 days and he created a lot of results and he also experienced some crazy heartbreak. Now, this wasn't the end of his residential journey with me. After the first 10 days of this crazy vibe in Bangkok, we all flew out to Bali and we completely upgraded Brendon's vibe to another level. In Bali, something crazier happened that he never would've expected. And frankly, neither of us saw it coming really. Safe to say Brendon had crazy breakthroughs views and results. To find out more, check out the next episode and get involved. Peace.