I think we've all been guilty of this 😳 #shorts #datingcoach #reaction #datingadvice

10 Feb 2025 · 1 min

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In this short reaction clip, two speakers discuss common misconceptions about how men should approach women. Speaker A argues that trying to "play cool" or act like a tough, non‑chalant character is counter‑productive; instead, approaching with a warm, friendly energy is more effective for getting a girl to like you. Speaker B shares a personal anecdote about his own failed attempts at cold‑approaching while trying to embody a "badass" persona, explaining that it felt inauthentic and led to poor results. He concludes that people who naturally exude friendliness attract similar vibes, creating a win‑win situation. The overall message encourages authenticity and warmth over forced coolness when initiating contact with women.

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For those of you out there struggling, here are some ways to get a girl to actually like you back. Be friendly. Duh, right? But most people, especially guys, feel like they have to play it cool to get a girl's attention. But if you just went up to her with a warm, friendly energy, it's going to work out a lot better than trying to play some badass.
I was guilty of this when I was learning how to cold approach before. I thought I need to embody this super cool, nonchalant character. And then like when I approach a girl, I'd be like, hey, nice to meet you. Trying to play this like a very badass, cool character. I was very bad at it because like, that's not really my vibe. If you're someone who's actually naturally friendly and warm and you're someone who can actually spread this vibe, well, you attract someone similar as well. So it's a win-win for you.