Overcoming your fear of rejection is crucial 💪 #shorts #datingcoach #rejection #coldapproach

25 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, two speakers discuss how men often mishandle interactions with women by projecting an idealized judgment onto them rather than seeing them as individuals. They present a concrete exercise—approaching 50 women in a single day to ask for their phone numbers—as a method to repeatedly confront and diminish the fear of rejection. By repeatedly experiencing rejection or acceptance, men can reframe the experience as non‑threatening. The speakers also emphasize cultivating an abundance mindset, shifting from a scarcity view of needing a woman's approval to a perspective of qualifying women based on desired qualities. This mindset encourages confidence, reduces pressure, and reframes social interactions as opportunities rather than tests.

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Men make such fools of themselves in front of women that they're attracted to. It's because they don't see her as an individual. They see her as the manifestation of a judgmental ideal. One of my clients who ran this men's group, one of the things they had initiates do, which was very intelligent, was to go out and ask 50 women in one day for their phone numbers. And the idea was get over your fear of rejection. And how do you do that? By encountering it continually and continually.
This is such a powerful framework. Getting over your fear of rejection is one of the most critical things you can actually overcome as a man. Based on my own journey, learning how how to overcome that fear has been the most valuable thing ever. Once you've actually gone through the action of speaking to a lot of women in the real world, you actually realize that it's not a big deal to say hi to a woman you're attracted to. Just go up and say hi, see what happens. You actually get to cultivate a mindset of abundance. It becomes more about you qualifying them on all the different qualities that you're looking for, rather than you feeling, I have to find someone that really likes me.