She doesn't know you yet, so start simple 💡#shorts #datingcoach #confidence #coldapproach

23 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this short role‑play, a dating coach demonstrates a low‑pressure cold‑approach with a stranger. Speaker A begins with a simple, non‑intrusive greeting (“Hey, excuse me… I just noticed you and wanted to say hi”), then smoothly shifts to an observational comment about the person’s necklace, noting the heart icon. Speaker B responds positively, revealing the necklace’s origin (Turkey, a year ago). The exchange illustrates how to start a conversation with someone you don’t know by using a friendly opening, genuine curiosity about a visible detail, and a brief, relatable follow‑up, modeling the kind of authentic, relaxed energy a coach would recommend for building initial rapport.

If you just met her, you don't know anything about her, how would you start from the beginning? Hey, excuse me, you know, I was walking down the street and I just noticed you and I just wanted to say hi.
Hello.
Tell me a little bit more about your necklace. I like that it has like a heart icon.
Wow, super random. Yeah, I got it from Turkey one year ago.
That's awesome. So you got this necklace a year ago in Turkey.
First thing you talk about, oh yeah, the necklace, where'd you get that? It's almost like she has no reason to tell you. Instead of talking about where'd you get it, like you're not actually interested where she got it. You're interested more about her. Something about her caught your eye. Overall energy is like a lot of pull. It doesn't always have to be like, I like this, I like this, I like this. You could have like pushed her a little bit more. Another thing I've noticed you do a lot is that the vibe feels a little bit like podcasty. You ask her like very like open-ended questions, you know, giving like an easy option. It's like this or that. She doesn't know you yet and you don't know her either. I mean, these are great questions, by the way. Timing is a little bit too soon. Yeah.