In this coaching monologue, the speaker celebrates a client’s first successful “instant date,” where the client spontaneously approached a 35‑year‑old woman living abroad and spent an entire day together. The client now asks whether to pursue a relationship, concerned about the woman’s age, the biological clock, and the feasibility of having children. The coach frames the dilemma as a mind‑versus‑heart conflict, urging the client to move beyond rational over‑analysis and listen to his body and intuition. He introduces the “Qualify for Magic” (QFM) framework, emphasizing the first level of assessing mutual vibe, excitement, and potential for a shared legacy, rather than pre‑defining criteria like age or language. The coach advises the client to gauge his own excitement, observe the woman’s reciprocal interest, and stay open to unknown variables, while also noting future deeper qualification factors such as grace, feedback integration, and karmic alignment. Practical next steps include continued communication, meditation to access deeper emotions, and prioritizing heart intuition over mental control. The session ends with a motivational call‑to‑action for further coaching.
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Crazy vibe. One of my clients just created his first instant date ever on his own, meaning he goes out there alone, sees a beautiful woman walk by, walks up to her, says hi, vibes with her, ends up spending almost the entire day with her, taking her through what I call an adventure date, exploring different parts of the city together, getting to know each other, creating these magical moments with her. He comes back to me and he says, "Steven, that was an insane, out of the world, out of control experience just being able to do that on my own without you being there." Now, reality check though. She's 35. She doesn't live in the same country as me. And because our context is creating my dream relationship, I don't know if I necessarily feel that she is my dream partner because she is 35. The biological clock is real. If I date her for a couple of years, she's already in her late 30s. And I want to have a couple of kids for sure. And I don't know if she's capable of raising children like this, right? He literally sent me a 5-minute voice note asking me this question, helping, asking me to help her, help him qualify for Magic essentially. So yeah, let's get straight into it. I'm gonna respond. Yo, brother. First of all, congrats again. Huge milestone for you. Now let's get straight into it. For you, it always comes down to your mind versus heart. My mind is telling me no, but my body, my body is telling me yeah. This type of vibe. Yeah. More mind versus body. Your entire life, pretty much almost throughout your 3 decades of your existence, you've always prioritized your mind. This is why the main thing that we've been working on for you specifically has been around really getting outside your mind and in your body more, really honoring and communicating with your heart? What, what does your soul want? What is your soul really excited about? Right? Yes. Let's acknowledge that you want to create your family. Yes. Let's acknowledge that the biological clock is real, right? That's, that's all true. The thing is though, like number one, you never know what's actually really gonna happen if everything is aligned. Down the line, right? You know, you could have kids sooner, right? Or maybe she doesn't even want kids, right? Maybe you might change your mind later. Who knows? Right now we don't know anything about that. The first level of Qualify for Magic, QFM, is assessing whether you two have the best vibes, whether you two have this strong potential to create, connect, play, and build your legacy together collectively. So that's the right vibe, you know. It's not really about, hey, like, okay, I want— in my mind, I've already decided that I want my kids with, you know, a woman who's like young enough, and like, you know, let's kind of play this out. Yeah, there's nothing wrong with you having your intention, right? But you also don't control what life throws at you. You don't. You just, you just deal with and you navigate what life gives you, essentially, right? And for whatever reason, life handed— life connected you two together, right? So now you have a choice to make, right? Okay, that was an amazing experience. I could either play this out because I really, really deep down want to explore what unfolds with her, or hey, that was a cool experience. I'd rather explore more opportunities with another soul, with more souls, right? And that's completely up to you. But what I don't want you to do is to repeat the same Bangkok experience with Pang, for example, right? Where, you know, in your mind you've already decided that your dream girl speaks English, and right, like, your mind, not your body, not your soul, had already decided that these were the attributes of your dream girl, right? And the moment you, you realize that she didn't speak English, you just kind of disqualified her, right? And then you ended up regretting it a lot, right? So it all goes back to your mind versus heart vibe for you, again and again and again for you, more so than any other soul that I've coached before. The thing is, you don't even know if she want— if she wants any kids. You don't even know anything about her, like what she wants, right? Maybe, maybe you guys had a, had a conversation about that already, but you never know, like, whether you two are— have this intention of meeting again in person, right? You don't even live in the same country. So there's too many unknown, uncontrollable variables out there. So for now, thing is you guys are not in the same city or same country. So right now, focus on really understanding what you feel about this opportunity and with her, and actually objectively assess whether she's excited, whether you're excited, and what are you actually really excited about, and what kind of qualities and attributes you're drawn to, right? And whether— yeah, if you want to qualify further on, this is like way, way more stuff to unpack later. But if you want to qualify a woman on, hey, like whether she's going to be a good wife, good mother, right? That's definitely part 2, 3, 4, 5. It's more like, okay, is she graceful? Does she have— does she integrate feedback that well, right? So all these things are gonna come into play much later down the line. But then right now, what you— something for you to put the most important thing for you to focus on after your date number 1 with her, frankly, is to really understand your excitement level. Follow your highest excitement. Are you actually excited about the possibility of getting to know her on a deeper level? Do you also feel like she has— she shares a bit of that excitement as well? And if you do, then keep vibing with her. You can message her, You can call her, you can, you know, keep in touch with her, right? And see how it unfolds. But one thing I want you to be aware of again and again and again is that like, your mind is very strong, right? And you always want to control all these different variables. And this is your natural tendency. So rather than focusing on and already deciding on all these different things that you want to create in your life, and from there qualifying and disqualifying aggressively, because this is almost like your first experience creating these types of moments with anyone, I would lean more into the unknown. Hey, like, like, hypothetically speaking, yeah, it is totally possible to be with someone who is older than you, and having babies with them is also a possibility. Yeah, they say that the probability is quite low, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen, right? You never know. So yeah, just understand, tune into tune into yourself and really, really tune into what the emotions actually really, really feel. And I would— I'd advise you on doing some meditation, really tuning into your deeper subconscious mind. And then if you're drawn to her, Really think through and feel through how you're finding yourself more drawn to her and why. Get to the deeper layers of your emotions. So there's that. Always, always, always prioritize your heart and intuition versus your mind. Not to say that the mind is not important, it is important, but for you specifically, we need to train, we need to train your heart and intuition so you can actually listen to them, pay attention to them more, and nurture them instead of just ignoring and deprioritize them. In terms of qualifying someone for, let's say, like super long-term, a long-term relationship or even marriage. There's also, uh, an aspect of vibes where I haven't touched on before, but it's, uh, it's also a karmic territory as well, right? And I'm going to touch on that later, but for now Yes. Ask yourself if this opportunity, if this vibe is a fuck yes, or if it's like, oh, that was a fun time, but I'm not too excited about her. There's no right or wrong here. There's no right answer. There's no wrong answer. It's just for you to be aware of the vibes. For you to be aware, for you to gain this awareness of the vibes, and you make your, your choice. So that's the vibe. Again, congrats, super happy that you're taking action. And yeah, like, the main thing that we've been working on is to help you not be so scripted and really, really not be afraid to express your deepest layers of your fun vibes. And I think slowly but surely they're getting unleashed. So super proud of you, brother, and let's go. Keep calm and vibe on. Peace. So that's the vibe. If you're looking to have major breakthroughs in your dating life, love life, and relationships. You are looking to understand your subconscious limiting beliefs holding you back from achieving what you want and really create these crazy transformative breakthroughs, just like what my clients do. On a daily basis, hit me up for coaching. Link in the description below. Yeah, that's the vibe. Sending much love. Keep calm and vibe on. Peace.
