She's Married, Russian. Still said Yes (Uncut Approach)

Excuse me, sorry, you speak English? Yeah? This is gonna sound super random. I just saw you, I was walking past, I just saw you, you look cute, so I wanted to come say hi.

Thank you.

Yeah, where do you think?

Chinese?

Chinese?

No.

I haven't gotten that in a long time actually. What do you think? I'll give you another guess.

Malaysia?

Malaysia?

Singapore?

I got— why does everyone think I'm from Singapore? Maybe, maybe because of my skin, I'm like way darker than—

because my language.

Have you Have you been to Singapore before? Yeah. Do they speak like me?

No, they don't speak English, but exactly, some of them do have really good English.

That's true, that's true.

And you're from Russia?

Ukraine?

Correct.

Russia? Yes, Russia. Oh, okay.

How do you know?

Your accent.

Your accent. So your accent like Australian, maybe a little bit New Zealand. Australian? Kind of.

Really?

I'm talking about your accent.

My accent? Is it Australian?

A little bit, yes. We have Australian friends, they sound exactly like you.

They sound exactly like me?

Yes, really.

You're funny, you're funny actually.

Yes, so where you from?

Come on, this is like Australians don't speak like me. They go like, "G'day, mate." Mate! You know, that's how they speak, right?

So you're from Russia?

Me?

Yes.

Chuchut. Chuchut. Yeah. You got very bad accent. No, chuchut. Just chuchut. No, but where—

you from Moscow?

Moscow? Okay, and then you came to Bangkok to do some shooting? No? Like fitness, yoga? Like, you're like ready to conquer the world, you know, with your like a black outfit.

I'm just from my tennis lesson. Huh? I'm just from my tennis lesson.

Tennis lesson? Okay, so like you like learn how to serve?

Okay. So where are you from?

Yeah, I'll give you one final guess.

It's easy.

It's really easy. 2. You can guess 2, right? Because I grew up in a couple of different spots around the world, right? Asia and then Western world. So yeah, one Western world and one Eastern world.

United States.

There you go, that's one, that's one. I mean, this is like the most typical American accent.

Well, I have no friends with American accent. I don't have with Australian accent.

But you must watch TV, you know, like TV, YouTube.

So you're traveling here?

I live here kind kind of part-time Bangkok, and I live like— spend my time between here, Bali, and London.

Oh really? You're February 1st born?

What do you think I do based on—

besides learning how to play tennis?

Paddle.

That would be a good guess.

No, this is like the third time I got asked if I play paddle. You know, in Bali everyone asks me, hey, like, you play paddle?

This is an obvious hint.

Huh?

This is an obvious hint.

Any obvious hints? No, just like it's too hot, so I have to wear like a white beater.

So I guess, I guess you're a shooting—

you're a photographer?

Am I? I'm a photographer?

You look like.

I look like? What does being a photographer look like? What does a photographer look like? Like this?

Yes, exactly.

Your guesses are terrible, man. What's your name? What's your name? Your name is?

Ellis.

Ellis? No, that's not your name. Ellis is not like a Russian name. What's your actual Russian name? Ellis.

Ellis. Ellis, yes, correct.

Get out of here.

Ellis?

You're like the first Ellis that I've heard coming from Russia. Your parents are like more Western?

You should come more to Russia.

I've been to Russia a couple of times, long time ago.

Moscow?

Moscow, Saint Petersburg, long, long time ago. Yeah.

How was it? Yeah. Did you like it?

Actually, it surprised me, you know, a lot of matrioshkas, you know. A lot of matryoshkas. Everyone thought I was like, uh, Kazakh, you know?

Yes, a lot of Kazakhs, right?

A lot of Kazakhs, right? Everyone thought I was—

yeah, you look like— right?

Come on, you thought— you thought I was from Australia one second, and you're like, you don't have Kazakh accent. What's the Kazakh accent?

No, tell me.

It's like you're speaking like Russian, like with Russian accent, but it's even stronger.

Like, tell me, like, give me an example.

What is your name?

What is your name?

Correct. Try to speak in Russian with this accent and they will decide you're Kazakh.

I like that. The more I speak to you, I feel like at first I thought you're a little bit— it's like an introvert. I think you have like introvert energy, but you're quite fun. You're quite playful.

So what's your job?

You just don't forget, huh? You're like, tell me, tell me now. Okay, I'll give you one more guess. What do you think?

On the face or what?

Can't tell anyone.

You can't tell anyone.

The thing is, if I was spy, would I tell you I was spy?

Yes.

Why would I tell you, some random stranger that I just met, that I was spy?

Maybe I'm not random. Maybe you followed me for a couple more years ago. Maybe I'm not random stranger.

Maybe I've been following you all this time, huh?

Who knows?

That'd be terrible. I don't have the energy for that, to be honest. I don't have the patience for that. I don't have the energy for that.

Okay, so what you're doing, following me?

I, uh, what are we doing right now?

Are you PR manager?

Huh?

PR manager?

PR manager. That's a very, that's a very, ah, okay, close, close. I, uh, I help people self-express better.

Like a coach? Like psychologist?

More like self-expression. I call myself like a self-expression coach. But it could be anything. It could be like relationships. Dating, public speaking, could be like them and their like some childhood trauma, you know, like completing their incompletions, different things.

So it is like medical issues or it is—

Medical issues?

Yes. For example, is it connected to observation of their experience of the people and thereafter you conclude to some decisions and thereafter you propose something? Or it's just like observation of the current situation?

Communication.

I like where you're going with this. Yeah, kind of similar, but a lot of the time what ends up happening is that like people want to express a certain way. For example, if they meet a cute girl and they want to express, they want to be playful, they want to like be themselves, right? But then something about them or like the way they see themselves actually stops them from fully expressing themselves, right? So they feel like, oh, like I want to say XYZ, I wanted to communicate in this way, but something like I feel stuck, right? And when you actually dig deeper deeper, deeper, deeper, deeper. It's multiple things, right? For example, like for men, it's like we need to— if you want to communicate properly, we need to know like where we're going in life, our vision. We need to be comfortable in our own skin, which is actually a lot of the time, that's like not a lot of people are really comfortable in their own skin. They are like not really confident around like how they are being perceived by others. And being playful, you know, they're like, oh, it's like, oh, I gotta be really serious, you know, I gotta be like, it's like macho. "Macho alpha man." You know, it's like, so like, okay, well, let's actually find your true authenticity, right? Help you, help you express that truth, right? Anytime, anywhere, with anyone. So you feel very complete, right? And you feel liberated.

Great.

So that's the vibe. Okay, what about you? Tennis vibe?

I'm trying to find myself a really good, powerful man.

Ah, okay. Good, powerful man.

Yes, maybe I become one day.

You want to become a powerful man?

Yes. Okay.

You're compensating for the lack of masculinity.

I have not inner child, but inner powerful man inside.

I see. You haven't had like a proper masculine energy around you. That's why you feel like you have to step into the masculine power. Because deep down you want to be feminine.

No, I want Mr. Masculine side.

You want the masculine side? Why? Tell me.

It's just a joke.

Of course, of course.

Kanye.

I can tell.

Kanye. How do you know this?

I'm a spy, remember?

I see you're a spy. I'm a spy.

You're a spy. But no one thinks I'm a spy because, you know, I wear this.

You have glasses. It's obviously too bright here.

Yeah, yeah, just— but you know, that's a little secret between you and I.

But you know, there is one problem. I can see your eyes still.

Yeah, but you know, you can like— but that's the point, you know. If I'm just like wearing these like dark sunglasses, too obvious. The shady guy, you know, like what are you doing? It's like wearing sunglasses like indoors, you know, like Just like doesn't add up, you know.

Maybe just after party.

Maybe on a Wednesday evening, 6:30 PM, like just party like, uh, like very long party night. Okay, so you're looking to find yourself?

No, I'm complete.

You're complete?

I'm feeling complete.

You're feeling complete?

I'm feeling in harmony.

Okay, that's amazing to hear.

Yes.

Okay. Did you have to do a lot of work to get to this point?

No, I'm not the first year in this head.

Oh, okay.

In this craziness? No, just in this head.

In this head?

Yes, not first year in this head.

I thought you said— when you said head, I thought you were talking about your hair.

No, no, about my head inside.

Okay, now you feel like same, more like normal, normal.

What is normal?

I don't know, you tell me. Everyone defines their own normality. Normality? Normality?

Normality?

Normality? Anyway, okay, that's great.

It's very subjective.

It is subjective. It is subjective. Okay, okay, nice one. So what is, uh, so what are you looking to find in Bangkok then? Why are you here?

I live here.

Yeah?

Yes, I moved here with my husband and I live here with him.

Nice.

He works here, so I moved after him. Nice.

How's that going?

We have some problems. We have some nice issues.

Nice issues?

Weather.

The weather?

Yeah.

People. Spy? Spy is like S-P-Y. Not spice, like P-U-Y. Yes, like P-U, like you. P-U.

What does that mean?

Spy.

Oh, spies. Okay, okay. I see, I see.

Not very obvious sense of humor.

Not obvious. Yeah, I have to like think for a second.

Yes, I'm sorry. Sorry for thinking.

All good, all good. And you, you, you like living in Bangkok?

1 year, yes. First year was difficult, but now it's fine.

And now you're settled. Your life is great.

Yes.

Marriage is great.

Yes, I'm in harmony. Super great to hear.

And you like to spend your time like playing tennis, that sort of thing?

Yes, yes, it's like very good after work activity.

So that's the sport.

And it's nice weather here. Maybe you should try it. You can, tennis? Yes.

Oh, that That was like me back in university.

So you studied in the United States?

Studied in the US. I lived there for a bit as well. I was born there actually, but I grew up in Korea and I moved back. But I left the US a long time ago, like more than like 10 years ago I left the US.

So you live up here? Huh?

You live here and then London?

Here, London, Bali.

I spend my time. And you work remotely or?

I work online, both online and offline as well. Actually, here in Bangkok, I have a lot of clients here, so I meet them and then, you know, we work together in person.

Okay, so how do you find your clients? It's like Instagram?

How do I find my clients? Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, word of mouth, referrals.

So you're a blogger or just host? Instagram is like a content platform or you're a blogger?

I do, yeah, Instagram. There's like different stages, right? Instagram, I hook people with Instagram, right? And then nurture my audience with YouTube, email.

So you prefer London to Bangkok or Bangkok to London?

It's apples to oranges comparison, right? I feel more home in London, but Bangkok feels a bit more exciting, a bit more like energy and vibrance. And what about Bali is like very settled for me and secure also. It's like you meet like so many interesting kinds of people like doing different things, right? Like really like extraordinary things, right? Yeah, Bali is also great.

So that's why I'm kind of—

And you?

You like it here?

Well, as for me, Moscow is number one. And I have never lived in Moscow more than 6 months. Because Bangkok is the first city I left Moscow. So Moscow is still number 1. Bangkok is fine for me now. So first off, it was a little bit complicated to find attractiveness in rats and cockroaches and mosquitoes.

Tropical paradise, huh?

Now I'm fine with it. Just try not to have a look exactly at rats and everything. Now it's fine.

Yeah, I see.

Now you got used to it.

To it.

So where are you from originally?

I told you, no?

No, I'm a Colombian. What about your parents? Korea. Korea? I was—

I told you, US, Korea.

Yeah.

So you know Korean? Only English? Really?

I grew up in Korea.

Ah, okay. So you were born in United States, then you moved to Korea, then studying in United States.

Now you might— now you know my Wikipedia, you know, like I'm a spy, but you know the entire Wikipedia I haven't told you I'm not a spy.

Now I know much more than you about me. Now I know much more information about you than you about me. That's true, that's true. Maybe I was following you.

Maybe you were following me this whole time, and you just distracted me with your headphones, you know, because that's the first thing I noticed. Black headphones, shiny, but not like Apple— what do you call it? iPad Max, something like that. AirPod Max, that's what you call it. They're like Bose. Yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like kind of grabbed my interest, right? That's your tactic all along.

Sorry, this is very expensive.

This is very expensive.

A lot of money.

A lot of shiny.

A lot of money invested.

A lot of money invested. I can tell, I can tell. Keep that up, you know. Nice one. So you come here often?

Yes.

What do you do here? Just for tennis lessons?

Correct.

Okay, well, let's— are you on Instagram?

Yes, but not a blogger.

Huh?

Zero pictures.

Oh, you have no photos.

So how do you keep in contact with people?

By talking. I meet people and I talk to them.

Before you meet them, how do you— hey, like, let's meet. Connection, mind connection, synchronicity. You just think about them, they just hit you up. Manifestation.

Exactly.

Have you, have you read Reality Transurfing? Um, Vadim Zeland?

Well, no, I did not read that, but my friend that proposed me to read this one, uh, told a lot about this in this book, and I decided not to read this one because I have Russian author, Levin and Panov, two books that propose almost the same ideas about the future, about the fifth generation of people.

Fifth generation of people.

How they will create their living. That almost connects to the Rick Redburn's Fahrenheit book about the living in next 50 years where the books are prohibited and all people live in the walls. Walls that are with TVs and sounds. So I decided not to read this book because I've heard this already.

Sounds like a lot of limiting beliefs you got there.

No, I'm just, I'm just strange.

You're just rich?

I'm just strange.

Strange?

Yes. I'm sorry, I have a workout. It was nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.

Are you on, so you're on Instagram or no? But you don't post photos, but you're honest?

Yeah.

Okay, I got it.

It's not Elise, it's like Alicia. See, you lied to me. You have one photo.

Yes, this is Shanghai.

This one.

But your boss is calling you now.

Yes.

We have no time limits in Russia.

Oh, you work with Russia? What do you do for work?

PR.

PR?

GR.

GR. What is GR?

Government Relations.

Okay, you're the spot. Okay, have an amazing day.