This is a super common mistake that we all make when it comes to dating 👀 #shorts #datingcoach

9 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, the speaker describes a frequent dating error he calls the "Hungry mistake," which occurs when someone becomes overly eager after matching with a potential partner. The speaker explains that this eagerness leads to two opposite extremes: overpulling (excessive showing of interest to keep the connection) and overpushing (creating unnecessary challenge or disagreement to spark attraction). Using a music‑preference example—his love for funky poppy house versus a match’s preference for rap/hip‑hop—he illustrates how pulling is about affirming shared interest, while pushing is about introducing conflict to generate tension. He emphasizes that both extremes are detrimental and that successful dating requires a balanced blend of pulling and pushing, avoiding too much of either.

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The Hungry mistake happens to all of us. You get matched with someone, you're excited, and you're eager for more interaction. Oh wow, finally there's someone who recognizes my value, my beauty, my vibe. And this leads to the biggest dating error: pulling or pushing too much. Let's say you talk about your favorite music. For me, I'm all about funky poppy house, and then the girl I get matched with, she doesn't agree with me. She's like, oh no, that's terrible. I'm more into rap, hip-hop. Pushing is like, I disagree with you. You're creating challenge to build attraction. Pulling is like, you're showing interest to maintain connection. Oh wow, that's what you're interested in? The idea is like, Overpulling, no good. Overpushing, no good. It's all about that balance.