When approaching, you need to balance questions with statements ⚖️ #shorts #datingcoach #dating

26 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, the speaker critiques the common habit of bombarding new acquaintances with a rapid series of questions, likening it to an interview. He argues that such an approach feels awkward and impersonal. Instead, he advises that a natural conversation should blend statements with questions, allowing the speaker to share their own perspective while still engaging the other person. By mixing statements and questions, the interaction feels more normal, creates a better vibe, and adds value to the other person's experience, ultimately making the approach more effective.

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How y'all doing today? Good, how are you? What's your name? Alice. Nice, good body language, nice tonality. What's your name? Nelly. Nelly, what y'all doing here? Studying? Sometimes. What class you guys didn't like? A lot of questions, just question after question. What's your name? What y'all doing here? What classes you like? It's just very— being very interviewy. If you just go up to someone new and then all you're doing is just ask a series of questions, it just seems a little bit weird, right? Imagine yourself someone actually coming up to you and then they're just like, hey, what do you do? What do you do for a living? What are you doing right now? You're going to be like What's going on here? When you actually approach someone new, one of the most important things is to actually make the whole thing look like it's a normal conversation. A normal conversation is a mix of statements and questions. When you mix statements with questions, not only the whole vibe is more normalized, it's just like way more natural. And that's how you actually add value to their world. Instead of like just asking a bunch of questions, trying to gather, you flip the script. You actually offer your perspective. That's how you make the difference.