When you feel your face flush or your amygdala fire up during conflict, pause and breathe. The speaker's husband once pointed out a blind spot in her reaction that she couldn't see herself, showing how outside feedback reveals hidden assumptions and opens space for curiosity about your own biases.
First, just accepting the fact that we are human, that we have bias and understand if we're driven to do the hard work. When the hard work presents itself right, when the challenge is there, when I am face to face with someone that I'm not seeing eye to eye with, and I might feel it right in my gut that. And it may actually. You have a physical. Your amygdala gets triggered. You have a physical reaction, your face starts getting red. That's what happens to me. But whatever it might be for you, when you start feeling that rise up, then that's when you pause yourself and take a deep breath. So this is kind of like a habit that is not a daily habit that you build in, but you have to train yourself to do that, to actually pause in the moment when you feel like, what is this? Like, I don't understand this. I don't understand that person. I don't like how this is turning out. There may be another reason for why this is happening. And I will say, I mean, again, it happens to all of us. My husband caught me in one the other day that I got upset with, and he was like, whoa. And I kind of went off the tracks, and I was like, I. I don't understand why they're doing this. And he said, well, there could be multiple reasons that you don't know why they're reacting this way. And I was like, oh, this is what I teach on a daily basis. And. But it was really helpful because sometimes we need someone else to point it out. The blind spots.
