Excellence Is Inevitiable With This One Component

Excellence, really, if you think about it, is inevitable. But you just have to stick with it long enough to see it. And so many people don't. So many people are spread thin doing a whole bunch of things. They give up learning how to play guitar before they get really good at it. Or they expect to be great at running a business, the first business they try. But there's a reason why we have sayings I out there in the world that says practice makes perfect. That show that the game that we're really playing in our lives is about staying power, it's about commitment, it's about discipline versus profession. Which is when I hear people say follow your passion and I've said it, it's a really nebulous term. But what I mean by it is to follow those meaningful pursuits that will help you stick with the pursuit no matter what happens. Good, something good happens, something bad happens, something in between happens. You are fully committed to being great at this thing. And it's a tenet of personal development. It's at the heart of what I do as a coach. But I do fully believe that the longer you sit with things then that the better we get. And it's inevitable. And if you don't have that idea, if you don't realize that all it is, how long you can stick with something in your life, it's when you end up bouncing between a thousand different things, not really finding your thing, never getting great at enough or at one thing in order to really realize the full enjoyment, the fuel, full abundance, the full financial reward, what have you for around that in that endeavor. And I'll tell this story like when I was in high school, when you're younger, you're trying out a bunch of different things. Anyways, I, freshman and sophomore year, was on the football team, right? American football. And I was a lineman, which is crazy because I think I was like 160 pounds wet. I was going up against 250 pound guys at the other schools or in our district that I'm pretty sure put steroids in the water because these were tall, big midwestern kids. And I remember putting my whole like when I was at football practice, I would put 100% of my body and mind, my effort into it. You know, I started on the team and that was great. And then something happened like sophomore year where I just remember thinking like, I don't love this, I can push myself, no pain, no gain, all that kind of stuff. But I would constantly be like, what am I doing here? I don't have hopes to play in college. I don't have hopes to play in the NFL. And I'd rather play music. I'd rather do something a little that's a little more aligned with my interest and why am I doing this? And I realized at that point that part of it was I was trying to impress my dad. I was like, oh, that was. I didn't even realize I was doing it at the time. But that's part of it. Part of it I wanted to see if I could do it. Part of it was just kicking the tires. And then I realized that I got caught up in that commitment but never did fully love the sport. Junior year, I remember going up to the coach saying I had to quit and was my mom, my brother had played, and she's like, hey, I'd rather you not play. And I'm like, you don't have a good reason to give to you why I should. So all these different factors played into that, but at the end of the day, like, it wasn't a hell yeah, and if it's not a hell yes, it's a no. And I just did a video on that. I'll put that below in the show notes. And then you figure out, or at least I did it, that, okay, maybe being a football player is not my thing. It's not the thing I'm passionate about. It's not the thing I want to stick with, even though I was good enough to make the team and start, even though I was underweight. Just because you have an opportunity or you've been doing something doesn't mean that you shouldn't take stock and be like, why am I doing this? And is your heart Ruby in it? Because how long will you stick with something? Is question we're asking ourselves in this sense. And so I want to put it on you. Is there something in your life that you aren't giving your all because you don't love it, or you're giving your all but you just don't feel it? You can't see yourself doing this over the long term. It could be a relationship, and I want to address that. Sometimes being excellent and sticking with something, it's highly dependent on your level of agency and influence in the situation. So if you have a relationship with somebody else and they're a terrible human being, sticking along for the long haul is not going to be good for you. It's damaging you. It's not a good situation that you need to get out of in that particular case. And so I'm not saying that this is a foolproof formula, right, that just sticking with it will make things better. Because that's definitely not the case. And it's often infinitely more hard to stick with something you hate doing or with people you hate being around versus something you do love to do or you people you do love to be around. Those are a couple of things to keep in your back of your head too, that this isn't just like, hey, just stick with it, it'll all work out. Because it won't. Like sometimes in those abusive situations or situations where you're harming your health, your mental health, your emotions, that you really have to do the math and think, okay, long term, can I sustain this? Which is always the question and is this really good for me? So I'll throw that out there too. But so if you're wondering, okay, like how do I stick with the things that I do love those meaningful pursuits and how do I carry through? I have a couple ideas for you here today, so make sure you have your notes taken out and the first thing to think about is what do you find meaningful or what are your meaningful pursuits? Like what are those things that by doing it you feel on purpose, you feel excited, you feel like you're really contributing and adding to the world or with a high level of service and excellence and keep that in the forefront. Right. Like connecting with the why is what other personal development folks will say can be really impactful. And I'll share this with you. Like very recently I've been digging into how tools like ChatGPT can help you perform better. Right. I'm a high performance coach. I'm also a fourmine recovering software engineer and this idea of how this new tool can help us get better at our jobs, generate higher quality ideas, how do you really speed up your workflows? There's all things that I've been thinking about and trying to implement in my world and it's been extremely fun. Like I have not been excited about piece of technology and probably since the Internet when I was in high school and the ability to combine what I'm doing now with my clients and to no, there's a new way we can up our productivity together. And this is what I've been doing. It's been really fun. And like I said, like I could talk about this stuff like technology and AI and GPT ad nauseam all the time. Just super, super excited about it. And so that's something I'm incorporating into my business now. Which is why you've seen a couple podcast episodes about A.I. currently, if you follow any of my other content on my YouTube channel, I've been doing a series on AI there. I'm also running a live training this January 16th on Friday or not. January? Geez, we are in June. It'll be June 16th here. So a week from this Friday as of recording and the release of this episode. So if you're interested in that and I'm just. It's just me talking through a high performance perspective. How any professional can use ChatGPT to accelerate their profession. Especially if you're a therapist, if you're a coach, if you're a knowledge worker, content creator. I have a couple of ideas for you that I'd love to share in non technical terms because I know some of those trainings are geared towards technical folks. Sign up for the free live training 1 hour the 16th linked below wherever you're watching this video. But that's what I talked about. Know your why know and follow those things that you find excitement and you find joy. You find that you could talk forever about and connect with that. That's the first idea. Okay? Second idea is if you have your meaningful pursuit figured out and you know why you do it, or why you're excited about it, or that you just are excited about something, then thinking about benefit extension. And what do I mean by that? This is something I learned from my mentor, Brandon Burchard, but it's answering the question for yourself is who needs me to role model a higher level of excellence and service right now with this pursuit? If your job is to solve world hunger, you have nonprofit, you know who is looking up to you in your organization, who's looking up to you and your family, friends and peer group that you need to serve with a higher level of excellence. If it's to lead the way in your field and just show people how to act with integrity, with character, with heart. That question a lot of times can get you back in the game when things get tough, right? If you're struggling at that nonprofit, the benefit extension of what happens if I show resilience, if I show creativity and resourcefulness and solving this problem, how will the people around me be impacted? Maybe inspired, or at least those types of questions super powerful. So the question like who needs me right now to show up with integrity, with character, with leadership, service and excellence is a great question to ask yourself, especially in regard to your meaningful pursuits. Third thing I like to call this Know the flow, right? There are ebbs and flows of any project. There'll be ups, there'll be Downs, it's temporary, but knowing when to take a break is important, right? It's. Here's another story. When I was a junior programmer, my first corporate gig at Walmart, I was assigned a bug. And it took me two weeks to figure this thing out. And I beat my head on the desk staring at this code for two weeks and come in with coffee and just for 10 hours, look at this thing for two weeks. And it's frustrating, right? But I had this. I needed to figure this out, right? This was. I really loved technology and computers, even back then. And I turned it into a career. So I'm like, I'm gonna figure this out. This is part of my identity. This is going to help me become a better programmer once I figure out why this thing isn't working, why it's breaking. And after two weeks, I found out I had one character that was lowercase when it should have been uppercase in the dank code. And I was furious. It was such a. This is the thing that had been stopping me for two weeks of my paid job. And I'm not sure if you've ever had that feeling. It's relieving. You feel a little embarrassed. It's like, this is so simple. I just couldn't. I was just in front of the problem for too long. And so what I learned from that story is one, I came in super excited and then it just got. It drug on and it got messy. And I have a friend and former client that likes to call this the murky middle. When you're in the middle of a task or project and you just can't see the way out of it, right, that's the time to push, that's the time to double down. That's the time to think, oh, there's going to be something important that I learned here. And for me it was make sure you have everything capitalized that should be and not capitalized you should be. And that was incorporated into my bug fighting process forever after that point in my career. I learned that. I learned that also part of managing that flow is to not sit on a problem for longer than an hour without getting an extra pair of eyes on. Because if you don't relate to the code example. Another example is if you've ever written an English paper for high school English class and you stared at the thing for three days and then you turn it in and you had all these weird grammar mistakes that you couldn't see because you were just in front of the problem for so long. So you need that Extra perspective. And so don't sit in front of a problem for too long without taking a break, without getting a new perspective with some fresh eyes. So that's why it's really important to know the flow, right? There's going to be ups and downs. There's going to be times when you're going to need to shift perspectives, either by taking a break to manage your energy or getting someone else to help prevent you from falling into the pit of despair. Okay, all right. Fourth idea to keep you on track when you are chasing excellence in your meaningful pursuit. It's to make sure you're taking bold action towards it. And what do I mean by that? Bold action is finding the challenge line of whatever you're doing. So in my case, I was a software engineer. Pushing your skills, right? You don't want it to be so challenging that you just get frustrated and quit. You don't want it to be too easy to where you're not actively learning or increasing your skill, but there's a sweet spot where you're pushing the limit of your capabilities. And that's when you feel progress. That's when you can find those opportunities and boldly chase them. It can really accelerate your learning. Another way of saying this, like, early on in my career as a software engineer, I said no, or I said yes to everything. I never said no. Hey, we have this thing, we need somebody to work on it. I'm like, yes, raise my hand. There's, I think you, you learn as your career grows that maybe you don't do that all the time because it could lead to burnout, because I was getting pulled in like a bajillion different directions. But I will say that I learned how to manage priorities more effectively by saying yes to everything. For a while, I was exposed to a lot more different types of software engineering problems that helped me advance my career, get promoted later, and all that. And so that was a bold action, and I had to learn my way out of that. But I think everyone can probably relate to that in their careers too. But you have to take those bold actions to build skills. And then the fifth idea is to focus on learning and skill development, right? So not only taking bold action towards that challenge line, but being intentional. And you know what? In my soft worker, I needed to get better at debugging. Let me, for the next month, only fix bugs. So let me learn how to analyze code, find out where it's broken, all that kind of stuff, so that I'm a better developer going forward where maybe I'll think, oh, I should put some extra logging here so when it breaks, the person that has to fix it, which is probably going to be me, but maybe not me forever, will have a good idea what's going on. What in your career or in relation to your meaningful pursuit, is a skill that you need to get better at. Is it public speaking? Is it writing? Is it whole other host of things? This natural craft of being a clinician at a therapy session with someone? What is that skill that you need to be actively taking bold action to develop so that you eventually reach mastery and excellence? So with that said, again, I just want to remind you that excellence is inevitable, but you need to find that reason to chase those meaningful pursuits, right? You don't want to be chasing the wrong thing and then give up at the first sign of trouble. But just stick with it, folks. It's really amazing when you absolutely have that passion, that, that desire to get great at something and share and be the role model for those around you that can really change your life. So that's where we'll leave this episode of the Meaningful Revolution. Again, I'm Shaban and go out live with more joy, more personal growth and more impact in your communities and we'll see you guys next week. It.