Five Pillars of High Performance: Clarity

Foreign. Good morning, everyone. This is Sean Butner with start your day with a high performance coach where we aim to start your day with some high performance tactics and strategies so that you can go out and get what you got to get done done so you can build the life that you want. So, still working on that intro, but if you're here with me, say hi and where you're from below and be sure to follow wherever you're watching this video on Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. And we're going to jump right into it, folks. So today I thought I'd go through, start going through the five pillars of high performance, just as a kind of reminder of what it is. If you're joining us new, you might not know what this weird thing called high performance is. So first off, you know, I've been certified as a high performance coach for the last six years, I think since like 2014. Yeah. So that math checks out in the morning. So, you know, what does that mean? What do I do? How do I help folks? How can it help you is probably the more important question. And we'll get to that. So, you know, big question for today. We're going to talk about the first pillar of high performance, which is clarity. And why is clarity so important? Well, we know through studies and science and just, you know, data points. I know that seems really nebulous. I should probably, I'll get a, an article, some research articles for you guys. But we know from thousands and thousands of coaching strategy sessions, from coursework and all these types of things that there are five essential pillars of high performance. And that what the world's most highest performers have in common and that first pillar is clarity. And it's, you know, they're consistently trying to figure out who they are, what they want in life, how to get there and what the path forward is. So how it translates into your life is if you've ever struggled with sharing an idea at work very clearly or speaking up when you saw something out in the world that you didn't agree with or didn't like, but, you know, didn't know exactly what to say or you were ever in a situation where you look back, you're like, man, I don't like how I behaved in that. That is most likely in my observation of clients and students, a lack of clarity, of your character. And so we talk about this in high performance. So before we go into what you can do to get more clear and how you can speak up even more, how you can, you know, express the best in you at the times that you really need. I want to talk a little bit about what high performance is. So high performance is consistently beating what's ever normal in your life without, you know, hurting your relationships or destroying your body in the process. Burning out, essentially. So if you can continue to improve without sacrificing your health and relationships, that's the main goal that we're going after. And when you're in a high performance mode, it feels like you have, you know, the most confidence in the world, like the most joy in what you're doing. So you're very happy and you're very excited about what you're working on and you're fully engaged. You're not avoiding tough situations, you're addressing them. You're proactive. You're like living your life. That's another way you're in this flow state where you feel like you're living your life. So that's the goals of high performance in general. And clarity helps you get those outcomes and helps you be your best self for three things. And I wanted to share that. Why this is so important is, you know, 2014, my mom was in the hospital for heart condition. And then two months in the hospital turned into all these other things. And what came down, we had to put her on hospice. And I remember the night before she passed that, you know, we're like talking with the nurses and they're like, do you want to spend some time with it? And my dad, who had been dealing with us for months and months and months, just didn't have the heart to go about and go in that room and sit with my mom. And my brother's like, I'm out too. And I knew that in that moment that I would look back and have tons of regret if I didn't go through that door, even though I really didn't want to do it just because of the intensity of the moment. And I remember thinking, you know what? Like, this is a time where my best self would go through and try to be as comforting to her as possible. I remember being like, looking back, I'm very proud of that moment and I'm very proud that I've done the work in personal development to be able to be in that room, to be able to tell stories like my brother, like. Like was like, well, if you're going in, I'm going in. And so, like, the last night of my mom's life, we were talking about stories and, and hopes and dreams of the future. Medically induced coma, which is not awesome, but, you know, I remember just talking about our lives and, and everything that we wanted to. And it was a very strong emotional experience in my life and one that I would have never done had I not thought that I need to be a leader. It's really weird thing to say, but I really needed to step up for her in this moment to maybe provide some. Some comfort and closure. And then the next morning, she passed. So that's a heavy thing to say on a Tuesday, guys. But the point that I want to make is doing the work in high performance has been really transformational for me. And this work on clarity, like, thinking that I. I knew who I wanted to be in that moment. I remember thinking about that, and I remember, like, that very conscious voice saying, no, no, no, you. You need to do this, otherwise you'll regret it. So that's the power of. Of this. And hopefully it's not in a situation like that that's really, like, sad, but. Hey, Angie, how's it going? I see ya. But, you know, so that is the power of it. But it doesn't have to be in the. These times that are very intense. It could be, you know, who you want to be with, your family, who do you want to be with, your, you know, on your teams, you know, how do you want to show up with your health? These things being very clear on them, can have huge implications to change your life. So I got three things to help you figure this out, to get even more clarity. So first thing, if you're. You're trying to figure out, how can I have more clarity about who I want to be, how I want to show up, how I want to interact in different areas of my life. The first and most important tool is to reflect, right? So in high performance, we have this exercise called the three Words, where it's three words that, you know, exemplify your best self. How you want to show up in the world every day. How do you remind yourself to live into those three words more fully, more openly? You know, how are you actively engaging with intent in those three words? And, you know, there's previvi. Previous videos that can help you with. With that particular exercise. But this idea of reflecting on who do I want to be in this moment can be very, very, very awesome. Hey, Dave, how's it going, man? So, you know, do you have time like, every week to. To think about what's going on in your life to. To think about how you're actually showing up, you know, to have that. That sometimes uncomfortable but. But critical eye of like, I I'm very proud of all the things I've done today. Or like, there's that one thing that I did that maybe I yelled at the cat and I didn't feel good. So how can I, how can I be better? How can I really, like, show up? What do I need to. Who do I need to be in that moment to not yell at the cat and instead to just like, you know, brush it off and, you know, feel okay in that moment? Second thing, guys, to dream, you know, engage in what you're going for. So part of that reflection is who do you want to be in the next year, in the next three years, the next five years, in the next 10 years? Like, what skills do you need? What knowledge do you need to acquire? What type of person do you see in the next couple of years? Couple years? So if you're thinking about your life and you're like, well, I'm gonna, you know, I'm starting this business, I need to be a better leader for my team or, you know, as I'm, you know, engaged in my relationship with my spouse, I think we need to be, you know, doing these cool things so that we feel so much more closer. Or maybe, maybe it's just like I'm engaging in marathon training so I can, you know, train my body to be more fit. You have more endurance or whatever that is for you. But having th. Those ideas out there, something that you can get excited about, it's something that, you know, you can make choices in the moment when you're like, hey, like, I should have a plate of donuts or go for my three mile run today. Maybe you can do both. But, you know, when you have those decisions, maybe you do the run before the donuts or you don't do the donuts at all. But, you know, so stuff like that, like being clear on what you're going after and, and those big things, those big dreams that you're going after can really help. And then the last thing is to role model, right? So like I was talking about in that story with my mom, like when I figured out that in this moment I need to act this way, that I need to go in that room, I need to be a little bit, you know, of a caretaker and leader that inspired my, my brother Toss to go in. But it's when you're, I think we're all drawn to people that are very clear on who they are and how they show up in the world, you know, that, that level of confidence I think is very. I'll use the word attractive, but it's comforting. It's when you find those folks that really embody their own values, you respect it. You might not agree with it, but you can respect it. And I think people try to follow that more. But it also helps you if you're thinking, like, if I'm my best self in this moment, what are the things do I need to do right now? And I think in the times when I've been able to engage that in my life, things have turned out much better than the times that I've not been engaged in that. So I'm not sure about you guys, but, you know, what do you guys think about clarity? Where are you guys not as clear as you want to be? And, you know, if you have that, if you post it below, we could talk to it here, or I can get back to you in the comments later. But, you know, where do you have a struggle with clarity? Or another way to look at it is do you struggle with getting more clarity? Like, some people are like, no, I'm good. But sometimes it's that next level of, oh, like, I need to be this and this, or, hey, I need to show up in this way and this way now to unlock that next level of quality of life for you. So hope that makes sense. Really glad you guys are here. Hope you enjoy these videos and this one a little bit longer than I had thought, but that's totally cool. It's live. Anyways, guys, have Happy Tuesday. You know, really, like, what would it take for you to be more clear in your life, and what would happen if you were able to unlock that for yourself? I'll leave that you guys with that, because I think the potential of that question could be really huge. So. All right, guys, I'll talk to you later. See you tomorrow. Same time, same place, and ciao. I never say ciao. I don't know why I said that.