Shift or Change: How To Handle Dissatisfaction WIth Your Job

Foreign. Welcome to start your week. Great. Start your week with the coach. I am your host, certified high performance coach Sean Butner. And today we have a video for you guys I am really excited about. It's called to shift or change how to handle dissatisfaction with your job. And it's something that's really near and dear to my heart. And I'll explain that here in a second. But the first thing I just want to say is that you have way more control over your life than you realize. You could stop working right now. You could leave a relationship, you could leave the town that you're at. If you're not happy there, you could find a new house. There's a lot of things you could just up and do without permission. And if you need permission, you have it right now from your coach, Sean, right here. So. But I also know that there's responsibilities that we have to keep in mind. So make sure that the family is not harmed. You still have a roof, you can still eat, you know, those type of things. Maybe you have people you got to take care of or things that you are responsible for. But even those, if you're aware of them, if you have a good plan, you can advance and you can, you can, you know, work that into the transitions. And I talk about this right now because there have been articles about people going back into the office now that the pandemic's under control and people are vaccinated and all that stuff. You know, so Apple is talking about having people back. So Monday, Tuesdays and Thursdays or three set days each week instead of the five. Google basically said, just come in three days. And you know, there are people that are not ready for that. You know, it saw some people complain. It's like, what do these people have to complain? They have really good jobs, they pay a lot of money. And, you know, I worked at Apple for a while. I live in the East Bay. I was commuting to the South Bay. That could be an hour and a half to two hours each way, commuting, just to have face time. And I actually was way more productive working from home than I was ever like going into the office. Because on top of the commute, you have socialization. You're like, people will fill your calendar up with meetings and stuff like that, which is fine. You know, the collaboration, I think is better in person, but it shouldn't have to like, it should be an as needed thing, not a mandatory, I think, because it was great. You know, I could work from home, could see my wife more I could get workouts in, I'd be double productive, you know, at least sometimes more. And I can, I get why people would not be satisfied there. But, you know, I'd also, early on in my career was not satisfied with my first job. Right. I didn't really feel connected to the work. The people were great. It's a lot of great learning experiences, so I can honor and take that in. But at the end of the day, I didn't want to be building warehouse systems. I wanted to be working on cool things. I wanted to be working on things that felt good, that helped people, that helped me feel fulfilled. So, you know, that's when I ended up leaving Walmart to start a business that failed. And that's how I got to Apple. I'm sure I told this story a bunch of times, but that's the quick of it. So if you're feeling dissatisfied with your job, you know, the big thing with that Walmart jump was that, oh, I'm in control of my life. You know, sometimes you can feel comfortable because you know the job, you know how everything works. And so it seems like such a big risk to follow your heart. And I want to tell you and encourage you and cheer you on that if you're like, I want to do something different, I have an idea for that, or I don't. I just know it's something different. You know, I'm cherry on. I want you to follow that, to explore that. And there's a way you can do it thoughtfully, there's a way you can do that strategically, and there's a way that you can really go about it that will help you feel like you're more in control of your life. So how can you do this thing called shift or change? Because shifting, you know, when I was at Walmart, I shifted jobs because I was a programmer. I had skills so similar to a business analyst. I went to business school. And so I shifted my job there. I was able to shift some of my attitudes on how I felt about the job. I was able to shift how I was approaching things. And that made all the difference with stress, with feeling discouraged, with feeling burnt out. So maybe you're feeling burnt out or discouraged in your current gig. And having that shift changed my life because I didn't wake up with stress and not sleeping the night before. And I could really go after and do some good work. I could do, put forth my best, could live more into my values. I felt like I was contributing in a way that was helpful or more helpful than I was as an engineer there at Apple. You know, essentially when I decided that what I want to invest in my career was coaching and not keeping up with the technical stuff, that's when I started to make my plan to leave. Because, you know, I was like, I love technology, I love programming, I'll probably do that until I die. But I didn't want to be on the bleeding edge anymore. It just wasn't just the same thing over and over again. It's new language, new features, same basic stuff. But coaching, the one on one coaching that I do lights me up. I love helping people and so that's why I decided to shift there. So bear with me. Still working on the laptop should be here this week and my notes just went away. Just so I remember to, to say everything that I want to. Okay, so shifting, you know, is changing things in, in your situation. Changing could be, you know, taking the leap, leaving your job, starting that business, starting that new career. Kind of like the leap from technology to coaching for me. And so, you know, there are other options too, but you know, immediately if you're not feeling satisfied with your job, if you're feeling kind of beat down or burnt out, here are a couple of guidelines to follow when you're there. And if you ever need help with these two guys, you can always go to SeanButter.com or shoot me a message, reply to an email and I'll set you up with a free one on one strategy session to make sure that you're able to build the plan that'll help you move forward in the way that you want. Okay, so, okay, how do you shift or change? Number one is you really want to get clear on what you want, right? And there's this idea of moving towards something good or away from something painful. I think that's a really important question to ask yourself. Am I trying to move towards something that excites me or away from something that really drains me, like having to be in the office three days a week. Right. It's such an important thing because if you're going towards something, you'll tend to stick with it more. If you're trying to run away from something, it usually follows you to whatever new endeavor. So if you have that one guy on the team that you're like, I don't like him, you know, his personality is terrible. And you know, then you switch teams, there's another guy with a bad attitude or bad personality not compatible with you, that's going to cause a lot of the same things. So you're not solving a problem, you're just you potentially transferring it. So that's what, why it's really awesome to think about am I moving towards something that's beneficial and good for me or away from something that's painful. Right. And to also be clear on your day to day work, your team expectations, what kind of contributions you wanna make, and consideration logistical stuff like commute and stuff like that. So if you're clear on that and your current job does not meet that or doesn't meet all of it, right, then the idea is to, you know, say, okay, time to do some research to find out if there's a better option. Right. And I know this is really common sense, but this is how I fought through it before and it was really helpful for me. But I was, you know, running toward. I've always wanted to run my own business. So both times when I left corporate America, it was to start a business. And it's been great, it's led to great things. Okay, so you do that, you do the research. So are there similar jobs or similar careers? Are there, you know, places that fit that criteria? And you might find out that there's no perfect job and so then it becomes a cost and benefit analysis of like, are enough things at my current thing or is there another job that has more of these things? Again, common sense, but not always common practice. So I'll make that point. The third thing to do is to decide to make the shift or change, right? So I need to shift teams, I need to shift how I feel about my job by, you know, maybe doing some journaling and pre programming some better thoughts. So instead of I hate my job, it's I don't love it yet, that kind of thing. There's other videos I've done on that. Check the, the blog for reframing stuff. I think it's called something reframing. So definitely worth checking out. But you know, make the plan to move or shift. And then the next point is to set a deadline. So by June, I will either stay or I will go or I will shift or, you know, and that deadline is so important because things will come up, probably things that are making you feel discouraged at your current job and you'll just put it off. So don't do that. Okay, so set the deadline. And then, you know, the last thing to think about is to, I really love this question is what changes if you don't? So if you continue to feel discontent, if you continue to feel burnt out or overwhelmed or over it or whatever those feelings are for you if you don't change, what's going to happen to your health, you know, mentally, physically? What's going to happen to how you treat people in your family, on your teams, you know, your bosses? How is it going to. How's it going to impact, you know, just general stress levels or well being, these types of things? Because sometimes the biggest motivator to actually shift or actually change is, is the impact that it'll have on others if you don't. So just remember, guys, we shift what we can, we change what we can't, and ultimately you live your life. So go. And if you're not happy, make a plan, do some exploration, but get in the game and you'll start to feel like you're directing your life again. You have a little bit more control over your life and that can be transformational and I want that for you. So. Okay. Hope you loved this video. I'll have another one next week. Of course, this is Sean Butner saying, go forth, live with more joy, more personal growth and more impact in your communities today.