In this solo coaching video, the speaker explores how people’s definition of success often starts narrowly—focused on education, career, or financial stability—and evolves as life circumstances change. He shares his own experience of initially equating success with getting through college and paying off debt, only to realize that neglecting relationships, health, and personal fulfillment left him feeling unbalanced. Drawing on high‑performance concepts and coaching practice, he argues that success should be a holistic, feeling‑based balance of meaningful work, supportive relationships, physical well‑being, and personal growth. He invites viewers to reflect on and expand their own definitions of success, emphasizing that true success is felt rather than measured by time alone, and encourages comments sharing personal definitions.
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Coach. And today we are going to be talking about what does success mean to you? Because as you're striving, as you're moving forward, as you're trying to, you know, live your fully, like most full potential life, sometimes our definition of success changes. So if you've ever been going at it and life happens and you find yourself just different, right, Maybe success to you growing up is just getting through school or getting through college or finding a decent paying job, or maybe it's providing for your family. There's all these different aspects of success. And so often when we get into our careers, that becomes the focus. And with all the folks that I've worked on or worked with in my coaching practice, you know, sometimes we define ourselves so much and so much of our identity is tied to our jobs that we forget that success is also having meaningful relationships. Success is also maintaining a healthy body so that you can live longer or, you know, have a higher quality of life as you go forward. And if, you know, you've ever been so focused on one area of your life and you're like, man, I don't feel like. I feel like there's something more is kind of the feeling, then it might be time to redefine how you define success. And this is what happened with me in my career growing up. I had not growing up, but early on in my career it was get through college. And I got through college, I was like, okay, I'm successful. And then I had a bunch of student debt and a bunch of stress and a bunch of new problems that showed up. And so I dug down deep into my career. But I neglected friendships and family and, and I didn't really feel like, you know, I was living my best life. I was living the life that I had wanted for myself. And so, you know, after studying a bit of like, high performance and getting a coach and that kind of stuff, I realized that, you know, my definition of success was so, like, tiny and I needed to expand it. And I think the more we can expand this definition, the more that we can, you know, live the lives that we really want. And I know that's really kind of abstract. So, you know, it's wanting to have, you know, a family to go home to with a nice house and, you know, financially taken care of. It's having that spouse that's, you know, smiles with you while you eat breakfast and dinner. It's, you know, being able to contribute in the way that you want at work without feeling like you're burning out so you can work out during the day. You can take breaks during the day to think about what you got to think about or do the things that you got to do. But it's also meaningful work. So what does success mean to you? I guess, because if we're going to, if we were to expand it, what would you expand that definition of success? I love that question. So in the comments below, type that if you would, what your definition of success is and what you would expand it to if you really wanted to be engaged in life, to feel like you're living your best life, to feel like you're well rounded and, you know, the life work balance, work life balance thing was a huge thing probably 15 years ago. And it's not like a balance of time, it's a balance of feelings. So how do you, how do you feel great at work? Do you feel great in your health? Do you feel great in your relationships and how you live every day? So if we can expand that definition, I think we can live better lives. I would love again for you to comment below this video. That's I'm going to wrap it up today. So great seeing you folks and I'll talk to you tomorrow. Take care.
