#SYWWAC - Gratitude is RESPECT in Action!

Start your week with a coach. This is Sean Butner, certified high performance coach. And I know we're doing this a day later than we normally do on this live show that'll then get sent out in my newsletter. Excuse me, but it was a long weekend, so. And it's been super hot here in Berkeley. So as we get people on the show or, you know, watching, we will kind of just talk like this. So, yeah, today's show, I just wanted to talk about something I've noticed as a pattern in a lot of my podcast guests on the Meaningful Revolution. So if you've been with me for a while, you heard me talk about this dang podcast a bunch. If not, then really it's a show that highlights people's interests and what they nerd out about. And we talk, we dive into it, we learn a little bit about their story, we learn a little bit about the topic, and we end with habits. And so it's been a lot of fun. It's been a lot of great things. And one of kind of the through lines I'm trying to, you know, as I'm sussing out patterns and to report back that I've seen is this idea of gratitude. And it's something that shows up in personal development work everywhere. And it can be this really nebulous thing. You know, it's just you wake up, you feel grateful, and, you know, all's well in the world. But in truth, it's a lot more active than just having an intention and, you know, showing up, feeling that gratefulness every once in a while. It's a consistent action that shows you know, yourself, your. Your brain, that you're thankful for things in your life, that the people around you are good and something that you appreciate and helps you kind of change the vibe of a community. So why is it important to act with gratitude? Well, I think a different word for gratitude is respect. And so if you take the opposite, right, the opposite of respect is disrespect. So when you don't honor your dreams, when you don't honor the things that you want to go after, that creates a lot of friction in life, doesn't it? Maybe you've been there, maybe not. I know I have in my life, but we'll get to that in a second. You know, when you don't respect your significant other, your kids, the friends, the family, that's when you go through life and you end up lonely and you don't have the support that you want from the people around you that you might actually really need. So if you don't really respect your community and the others in there, that's when, you know, you see more of people screaming at cashiers or baristas for minor things, forgetting that humanity that we have in each other. And that's not a kind of world that I want to live. And I'm not sure about you, but I would prefer that people have that, that understanding that, oh, like, we're all kind of in this together. We all want the same things. We want to feel respected, we want to feel valued. We want to feel like, you know, we're part of the community and that, you know, we're not being attacked constantly. Right. And I feel like the energy out there is pretty divisive and attacking people for a lot of weird little things. And we won't go into all of that, but, you know, that's there. How do we show up? How do we show up with our integrity and our character in those moments? And that, I think, is this idea of gratitude. So when we choose to respect our dreams, our abilities, our ability to show up to provide for our families, to strive for more abundance in our life of love, of finances, of time, of freedom, of, you know, the list goes on and on. You know, that's a different quality of life where, you know, that idea that you might not have all the money in the world, but you are very rich in the relationships you have or just how you feel every day. Right. There's a poverty of feeling confident, I think, out in the world. And that comes from not trusting in your ability, your experiences, your unique perspective to go out and make a difference. Right. You know, when we appreciate and tell our loved ones that we love them every day, we don't have regrets at the end of our lives that we didn't say that enough. When we go out there and we, you know, show appreciation for the effort that the kids are making to try to grow like that celebration, that momentum might inspire them to stick with it a little longer. And when you stick with it a little longer, you develop mastery. And so maybe when you cheered on your, you know, second grader in math, that turns into a career in engineering or rocket science or something, right? And it's that little through line of, you showed up, you appreciated the hard work they were doing, even if they weren't getting the result that they wanted or the result that you wanted, but they're putting forth their best effort. That is gratitude in action, right? It's that, that act of appreciation. It's that act of reflecting and Again, kind of going back a step, reflecting, and seeing all the reasons why you should be confident, right? Or all the reasons why you should stand up for other people in the community that you live in. Right? You see someone yelling at the. The barista, like, you know, say something, right? It's not. And it doesn't have to be confrontational with the person that's being really grumpy. It's to the people that, you know, provide you really delicious coffee. Like, hey, you guys do a great job. I'm so sorry that that person is really grumpy. You know, just that little recognition of, like, hey, fellow human beings, somebody was being pretty crappy to you. I saw it. You didn't deserve it. You know, please know that you're appreciated. You know, and that word you are appreciated is so important in today's world. So that's the big idea today, right? It's. So how do we show respect and gratefulness through our habits, through our actions, through our words, you know, things that you can measure and see out in the world, because it's not something that just magically happens internally. So a couple ideas for that. Right? And you've heard me say this, and I want to let you know that I appreciate you for being here, for supporting everything that I've done in my business. Whether you're watching this on YouTube or Facebook, you know, it means a lot to know that people are resonating with this. So if you have any questions or comments, please either put them in wherever you're watching this video, if it's live, or it's on YouTube and let me know what stuck with you or what has helped you. And, you know, I'd love to cheer you on in that. So we'll say that first. But really, the first thing to do is to think, what are your habits of being grateful? Being thankful, showing respect to yourself, to the fellow people around you in your immediate orbit, and the community at large. Right? And, you know, it could be, you know, for yourself that you have that. A gratitude journal, right? So one of my good friends, Michael Seeley, who was on the podcast Meaningful Revolution, talked about this habit of. Every morning he wakes up, he's got his journal, and he does the top three things that he's grateful for, and that's how he starts his day. Or one of my mentors, Brendan Burchard, says that he's got a habit where when his feet hit the ground, when he wakes up, you know, he takes a moment, takes a breath. He's like, I'm here I'm alive. I'm thankful that I'm, you know, here. And starts his day with a series of questions of, you know, what is he excited for this week? What is, you know, something that he's really grateful for this week. You know, these types of things that start the day with positivity, start the day with you feeling like you are really, you know, like a good person and feeling in a good spot, in a good zone. So, you know, so that's the kind of. The first thing to do or to think about is what do you do right when you get up and to set that positive intention for yourself, you know. Second thing to do is when you are interacting with people, use words like appreciated. Use words like valued. Use, you know, words like seen or things like that you are grateful for. You love them, right? You know, say the words that. That show that you see people and that they're valued and that you love them. Right? It's a super simple thing. And it's usually something. When we are upset or too busy with our lives, that's the first thing that drops. Like, we stop saying those things. And over time, that can hurt relationships and hurt how your kids see you or your spouse or your good friends. And again, we don't want that because over time, then that's when people feel lonely and miserable. We don't want you to feel lonely and miserable. Right. The third thing to do is to just show up in your community and be that source of good energy. Right? And what is that? That is greeting people that you see in all the stores that you go to figure out their names, like, joke with them. You know, it's a habit of engaging and not just like moving through with your earbuds in or your headphones on and not interacting with people, because there's a. Even as. So I'm an introvert. So even as an introvert who tends to not, you know, have a lot of energy to deal with folks, it is super important for me to know the names of everyone that I see regularly each week at the grocery store, coffee shop, wherever, you know, but the normal hangouts that we go to restaurants and all that stuff, because it's that. That connection and that's creating that community vibe of like, oh, there are people here that value me. There are people here that, you know, I'd like to see, you know, when they come in the store, because I know that they're going to be gracious and give me a good jolt of optimism and just feeling good. Right? And so that's A habit that I have that. That really helps. And so. And these are examples. I hope that you do all these, but maybe you have your own version of them, or maybe you have the things that you do yourself. I'd love to hear about those. So if you put those in the comments so we can cheer you on, I'd love to do that. But again, you know, at the end of the day, gratitude is action. It's what you do again to, you know, make yourself remind yourself. I should say that, you know, life is good, that you have abundance and all that kind of stuff. And it's not to, like, say that there's not things that are. That you struggle with, because that's also part of life, but you can also handle that struggle with a bit of grace and a little bit of, okay, like, I gotta go tackle that. Right? But, you know, respect yourself, respect the people around you, respect the people in your community to create the vibe that you want. And I think we will be able to kind of shift some of the energy out there in the world that isn't where I would really like it to be. So maybe you feel the same way. So that said, guys, please, you know, below this video, you'll see a link to follow me on my blog, where you can sign up and get weekly emails with these live videos that get a little bit more cleaned up. And there's also a link to my blog, the Meaningful Revolution, where we interview people that nerd out about specific topics and try to pull out life lessons again for you. So super, super grateful that you guys are here. Yeah, let me know in the comments and we'll see you guys on Wednesday for the next live show. Okay, take care, guys.