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Opportunity cost of ADHD. When you don’t use a lid.

13 Oct 2025 · 3 min

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In this personal monologue, Shawna Lynne (Delulu Today) shares the evolution and details of her grief safety plan, originally created at age 19 after a breakup and later refined through multiple life transitions, including moving from Toronto to Montreal. She outlines concrete components of the plan: easy-to-eat foods, consistent hydration (water and green tea, avoiding coffee), a clear support‑system protocol, and emotional check‑ins. Shawna describes her ADHD‑related emotional extremes—oscillating between intense happiness and deep depression or exhaustion—and how she uses spirituality, meditation, journaling, yoga, stretching, and scheduled online activities to create balance and accountability. The talk emphasizes the necessity of structured routines, self‑compassion, and external support to navigate recurring grief cycles and maintain mental health.

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Grief is a crafty little fucker. I do have a grief safety plan. I made it the first time when I was probably 19 and I broke up with my first boyfriend, and I used it again when I left Toronto and moved to Montreal and left my friends and my family. I'm so excited for my life but so sad to leave Toronto and everything I had, and I really did lose so much connection. And every time something happened, trauma and tragedy over and over, repeat, that grief cycle, that safety plan got stronger and stronger. Here's what I know goes in a safety plan. At least 3 things you know you can eat without having to try and that will stay in your mouth even when they're dry. It's important to stay hydrated. If you can't remember to drink water, put them all around so you just have them handy. Drink tea as much as you can. Green tea helps you, any tea. Try to stay away from coffee. It's Easy, it feels good, not always good for you. Know who your support system is and ask for help. When you call, you say, I'm okay, I just need someone to talk through this with me. Yeah, okay, I'm good now. Okay, I'm gonna cry. And then the next person checks in, so you're supported throughout the day when you're emotional like me. I am extremes. I'm either happy or depressed. I'm either having the best time or really exhausted. There's not too much of a middle ground unless it's work. There is where I mask, I keep my energy, I do what's necessary, I do all my responsibilities. It's exhausting. So the other extremes, when I need to fall or when I need to play. They're extremes. I have the best time, I'm all in, or I'm not. I also know that I can only do that a few times, and then I need some spirituality to balance it and some alone time. So my grief plan has some mantras, some cording, definitely a lot of meditation. I have journaling and yoga and stretching. I booked myself in lots of different online activities so that I show up and do things because I wouldn't be accountable to myself. We are not accountable to ourselves.