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Psycho education in coaching, Social anxiety for ADHD and extroverts.

12 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, Shawna Lynne (Delulu Today) offers a psycho‑educational perspective on social anxiety, especially as it relates to imposter syndrome, the mental chatter that precedes social outings, and the energy cost of engaging in social situations. She outlines the typical self‑questioning loop—whether to go out, if others will like you, whether you’ll be too much or too little, and what to say—framing these doubts as the core of social anxiety. She acknowledges the fatigue that can accompany the decision to leave the house, dress, and make plans, noting that many people experience the same reluctance. Shawna then shifts to a hopeful note, emphasizing that once you do go out, the experience is often positive, and that forming even a single meaningful connection can alleviate loneliness and create a sense of interaction.

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So what is social anxiety? That is the place where your imposter syndrome comes to visit. Should I go out? Will people like me? What should I be today? Am I going to be too much? Am I going to be too little? Do I talk? Do I tell them how good I am? Do I tell them I'm not? Do I want to do small talk? Will I have something to talk about? That's social anxiety, it's the anxiety about what's going to happen. So it's the anxiety about what's gonna happen. So sometimes you're like, God, it's gonna take me so much energy to get out of the house, to get dressed, to make plans. Do I really want to go? This person is there. I feel like this. I'm, uh, am I gonna like it? What if I want to leave? What are people gonna think? Social anxiety, really. Yeah. You know what? We all have the same thought. No one really wants to go out. Once we go out, we usually have a good time. If you find one person to connect with, you've made a connection. You've taken away loneliness and built some interaction. Okay, so