Day 3 - The Missing Key to Manifestation

Hello, welcome to day 3 of The Missing Key to Manifestation. I'm Susie and this is Susie Unshaped, the channel where we pull apart all those outdated belief systems and wounds and, and stories that keep us from living our most joyous, wonderful, amazing lives. So I need to take a breath. Do you need to take a breath? We're here Because we're working through a process that I have just had a, like, an aha moment, and I believe it's the missing key to manifestation. So we all know how to be grateful. We've been grateful till the cows come home. We've journaled, we've said affirmations, loving words to ourselves. And so I think we have the back end spot on, but the area I think that we are missing is the front part of the equation, and that is compassion and forgiveness. I feel like we've been bypassing— me, I'm talking about me. When I say we, I mean me. I have been bypassing those parts of the steps. And I think without the compassion and the forgiveness, like, you need all 4 parts. You need compassion, you need forgiveness, You need gratitude and you need love. So yesterday we started talking about the big, the big bag of forgiveness and, and what it means to forgive someone. And at the time I felt like I was jumping all over the place because I had taken you through a process where I wanted you to go back and remember Like a part of your life when you were younger, and so we could offer compassion and forgiveness to that part of yourself. And then overnight, while I was thinking about it, thinking, whoa, you were off topic, and I rewatched it, and I actually believe I wasn't off topic, but I just hadn't pieced together the link, which even though I conceptually know this, I wasn't piecing it together in the recording. And that is All of our triggers and things that make us feel like this in our now life have stemmed from a previous past experience that we've stored in that great little mind of us that loves to store things. Okay, that's like it stored it. And so now when these situations come up, it goes into its filing cabinet and goes, oh yep, I've got the file where Susie's not worthy. Not worthy. Here we go. I found it. And so we found the file with all of the instances where this has shown up in our lives. And because we haven't healed it and offered it compassion and, and, um, forgiveness, it just keeps popping up. So we did talk about that, how things will come into your life For a reason, and they are fit to you. Uh, can't speak. So you can look at them and say, okay, which part of me has that triggered? Like, is it the, um, I'm not worthy? Is it I'm not desirable? Is it I'm not rich enough? Is it like— We've got a filing cabinet. It's got a ton of files, and it'll be separated into different sort of wounding. So, um, I'm not going to tell you how many wounds there are because I think that we can create a wound over pretty much anything. So, but I can tell you this, all wounds are just like a distraction from who you truly are, which is a divine, beautiful, amazing being that is enough exactly as you are right now. And that's why I encouraged you to go and do the Living from Your Heart in a 3D World Challenge, because when you get to the end of that, you will conceptually know this. And then this challenge is about embodying that knowledge, and that was the link that I was missing. So, so what does that mean? I think— and, and I just wanted— yesterday I was actually really stressed recording. I don't get stressed recording, and I think the reason why I was stressed was because I was trying to give you answers and a structure and a framework before I've developed it. That's the point of this challenge, is for me to come on here and talk to you and figure it out along the way. And so I'd gotten myself into quite a tizz, which was probably also why I was like feeling like I was bouncing all over the place, because I wasn't sure what this framework was. But I realized overnight that the point is we don't have the framework yet. By the end of all of this challenge, we will have figured it out, but it's a step-by-step process to figure out how everything clicks in together. Oh, take a breath. Um, and so yesterday when I told you to write down all of the stuff that was really irritating you and annoying you and was so annoying, and we could practice the I'm so sorry, I forgive you, thank you, I love you framework around each individual area. But overnight I've realized that I think we need to link each individual area to what is Like, what is that making you feel like? Yeah, you might be irritated or pissed off, but about what? And then I think on another piece of paper or with like arrows drawn to it or something, I'd like you to brainstorm all the times that you have felt that same emotion. So I think that's it. It's like, what am I being triggered by? Figuring out why, like, why is it triggering me? For example, we use my example from yesterday. It's like I didn't set my own boundaries and I felt used. And, and because I felt used, I felt like I wasn't worthy because the person didn't care about my feelings. And so then what I would do is, okay. When have I felt that way before? Like, let's look at all of the instances that we can remember when we felt the same way and write them down. Like, go to town on it, because at the end of the day, the situation doesn't matter. Like, yes, it happened, that's fine, etc., but it's the emotion you felt around the situation that is the key And that is the wound that we're going to use this process to help take the charge off and heal it back to wholeness. Because we know that we are like infinitely amazing and whole as we are. Like we exist, therefore we are made from divine source creation, which is made from pure love. Like there is no bad. There is no good, there is no bad, there is— it's just love, bliss, awe, amazing. So each wound is just a belief system which we've stored in this filing cabinet of all these situations. They're all our inputs, all these situations that are confirming this belief. And all the belief is doing is keeping us away from feeling whole and at peace within ourselves. Simple, right? If only we weren't human, it would be really simple. Because as humans, like, we can know all of this and practice all of this and, and, and be in it and like we've got it. And then you get hit by a doozy and you might be taken out for 2 weeks and completely forget all of this. Like because you'll like have a rant for a few days, this and ra ra ra and that and whatever it is. You know what I mean? When you get hit with the real doozy or you're crying in a corner or you're so anxious that you can't get up, like you just can only like focus on binge watching a like really like intense show to keep your mind off it. Speaking from experience. So that is. The homework for today is to actually, okay, write your current list of like, I'm so annoyed, so annoyed, so annoyed, so annoyed, and then break each one down into, okay, I'm trying to think about something that I could be annoyed about, um, right now. Um, let me think. Okay, no, I don't actually have one at the moment. But what am I annoyed about? I've just been writing my book, so I've been doing a lot of clearing at the same time as I've been writing my book. So it I've cleared a lot of the energy around it, and especially with this practice. But okay, let's give for example, you've got an annoying boss that. Doesn't like respect the work that you're doing and kind of dismisses you, and you feel like nobody notices. So, okay, so that's irritating you. Okay, so what is the core underlying emotion under that? And that is to be unappreciated. Um, and from unappreciated, we could link that emotion to feeling like Unloved, pretty much. Unappreciation and being unloved is kind of the same thing, just obviously not in a romantic sense. But if we want to break it down to what is the wound, so then we will brainstorm where are all the other times that you can just remember off the top of your head where you felt unappreciated or unloved. So we write, jot all of them down, and then we'll go through each one step by step and just say— and I think it's really good to do the, the particular emotion all together. So we pick unappreciation and being unloved. So write all of those down because it's so simple to start. It's just, I am so sorry. That you felt unappreciated. I am so sorry that you felt unloved. And that actually just had flashbacks. So as I'm saying this, I'm having flashbacks to my primary school days, which, for example, um, there was a birthday party that I was friends with the girls having the birthday party, and they were— I'd just been to America on a big trip, and I had all this cool fancy dress stuff. And I think we were seventh grade, and they were talking. Oh, can I borrow this and this and this for the dress-up party? I was like, yeah, that's fine. No worries. Anyway, invites go out. No invite. So I've had them talking to me about the party, planning the party, wanting to borrow my dress-up clothes for the party, and then there was no invitation to the party. So that is an emotion of feeling unappreciated, used, and taken advantage of. Obviously, they didn't get the dress-ups, but but. But still, when you've been so involved in a process, like disrespect, I suppose it's the same like our boss, unappreciation, um, unloved. So I am so sorry that you felt so unloved in that situation. And you can name the situation, or you can say in that situation, you can list out. I am so sorry that you felt so unloved when you were XYZ. And then, I forgive you for not knowing how amazing you were and that you didn't deserve to be treated that way, however you were treated in that situation. Thank you for still being amazing and for surviving that situation and not becoming like jaded and And, and bitter with the world. And I love you because even though you went through such a painful situation, look how far you've come, and look how strong you are, and look how much you can trust yourself to get through sad and lonely times. So this was another thing I was thinking about overnight. You can tell I do a lot of thinking overnight. Um, well, I only recorded it at nighttime, so I only had time to think about it overnight. But I was thinking, I think yesterday I spoke about how when you're little, I used the example when I was 5— oh, sorry, 10, in 5th grade— that it was like, I forgive you because you couldn't see that there was absolutely nothing wrong with you to make You feel that way in the first place. And I thought about that, um, I thought about that overnight because I think I then I flipped, as I flip-flop, um, back to my current situation where I've been taken advantage of and used. And at the time yesterday, I was saying, I forgive you for not setting boundaries, but I nearly think like the higher outlook fits as well. So. I forgive you for not remembering that you are a divine creation, and if you feel used and taken advantage of, it doesn't take away from the amazing being that you are. So I was just playing with like the, the aspect of where the forgiveness comes from. Does it forgive us for the specific action, which was not having strong enough boundaries, or does it forgive us for allowing our emotions, which is our human, to make us feel bad and, and forget our divinity? And maybe it's both. It's It's definitely always, um, allowing our emotions to forget our, like, divinity and pure love and that part of us. But maybe we throw in the situational stuff as well that we could maybe learn from, if we, if we will. I don't know if I ever will. I'm just not a boundary person. I need like, I need a, like a, a, a bulldog in front of me that does the boundaries for me. It's always, I, I'll get too far down the road and I'll be like, you've done it again. And I'm like, and I can tell when I've given too much because I physically get depleted, like to the point of nearly being like, I cannot move. I have to stop. And that's when that's my biggest like, aha, you've been giving too much out and not enough in. Um, so I do eventually catch it, but, um, like, anyway, sorry, me digressing again. Let's go back to the, I am so sorry you felt that emotion, whatever the emotion is. And then I forgive you for allowing that emotion to make you feel less than enough. Yeah. Because emotions trick— we're not here like writing lists and stuff about stuff that makes us happy, are we? I am so sorry you had such a beautiful night with your daughter last night. Do you know what I mean? Because the charge isn't there. It's— there's no wound over being happy. And so, um, why did I bring that up? I don't know. I have no idea. But anyway, I will try and get back on topic. I think the reason why I'm trying to, um, really bring this home is from the Living from Your Heart Challenge, and that is that any situation in your life that makes you feel like you are less than enough— so not worthy, not thin enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, not Um, fast enough, not strong enough, not whatever it is enough, not stylish enough, not like, I don't know, punctual enough, any of those things. They are just an unaligned belief system. Because when we know our true self, which is the divine pure love, none of those can be true. And so any of the emotions where we're feeling hurt and upset and wounded, basically a wound feeling wounded. Haha. You know what I mean? But any of those, it's because we've been presented with the situation that has hit one of these unaligned belief systems, and then it likes to pull up the storage cabinet and like, yep, that's right. We've got it here. She's Not worthy. Here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here. I've got the evidence. And that part is the part that we're going to neutralize with our I'm so sorrys and I forgive you. So we're focusing on the front end of the— I'm calling it an equation. I'm like an engineer. We use numbers. I call things equations. So a formula, same thing. Process. process, whatever. The front half of it is super important because the, I'm so sorry that you, and then whatever the emotion is, felt like this because of that, felt like that because of this, that is the wounding that we need to give ourselves the love and compassion for. And I think when we practice this enough, We are gonna see our lives turn around. I think that these are the wounds that have been crying out for healing for so long. Well, since ever you started your filing cabinet, which was a really long time ago. Um, okay, so that is the homework. Look at the parts of your life that are irritating you. Find the core emotion, link that to the other times in your life where you felt that same emotion, and then we are going to run the process. I am so sorry that you felt like X because of Y. I forgive you. If you can see a, like, a real reason why you let that happen, then you can put that in. But you can also say, I forgive you for not remembering your true self that is deserving of love at all times. You can use that as well. And then thank you. And you can say thank you to the specific situation, like thank you for being strong and getting through that. Thank you for staying kind even when others around you weren't. Or thank you for Not becoming bitter and still having an open heart. Whatever feels right to you for the situation. And then just close it with, I love you so much for surviving that, even though you felt that way, for being that person who could still manage to get through that situation, whatever it is. So I love you lots. That is day 3 and a little bit of homework in your journals, piece of paper. I don't like journals. Um, you can just speak it aloud, although I think for the framework, I think it'd be good to write that down and then find that core emotion, then link it to the other times that you can remember. And the point of learning to do this is because we want to, like, we can actually neutralize I've got my daughter. Can you come now? I've got to pick her up. We can neutralize these emotions much faster when we group them together and, and, and treat the underlying cause of the emotion. Okay, I love you. I better get her. Bye. See you tomorrow.