Find your threads of joy and pull them to see where you end up!!

Hello, welcome to Susie Unshaped. Got God hands today. I thought I would just press record. Today has been a day, a day of— hang on, I'm just going to put myself in park so I don't accidentally go down the hill. A day of like, I really have felt in the flow today, like creating. And it's interesting because talking about signs and And my computer just shut itself down. Like, it just— like, I was trying to do something. I was on the phone with my great friend Anna, who's back in Australia. Um, she has a fantastic marketing, um, diagnostic tool called RAMP. You should check it out, it's actually really awesome. Um, she's really awesome, and we were just flowing with ideas for her business. I love playing that game. Like, I could brainstorm ideas, like, they just flow through me. Like, it's like, let's put all the pieces out on the table. Actually, I love doing that with everything. Let's put all the pieces out on the table and see what we can make. Like, see, like, it's sort of a bit like, um, like the boggle button with letters, but it's like with bits and pieces, I suppose. A bit like— I actually, I just love doing that. I love doing it with recipes as well. Like, that used to be my favorite, like, game. It would be like, okay, we've got 6 random ingredients, what can we cook with them? And I would always like come up with something, like, but trying to figure out like, okay, well that could go with that and that could go with that and that, like, and I even do that when I'm in the supermarket. Like I'll find, like I'll see one thing, one thing, like say, like imagine like this really beautiful head of cauliflower, like it looks amazing. And so I'm like, oh, okay, well that means we've got like roasted cauliflower, roasted cauliflower soup. If I'm roasting the cauliflower, I make a really nice like roast, you, Roast cauliflower soup. Roast the cauliflower first, and then you do like a white cheese sauce with it. So it's like cauliflower cheese, but with roasted cauliflower inside. So we can do the soup, we can do the bake. And then I'm like, well, if I've got white sauce for the bake, then I better do like a then I'm in buying eggplants because all of a sudden I'm going to make like eggplant parmigiano because I've got the white sauce to go on the top. And then I'm like, well, the kids don't like that. So maybe that I've got white sauce too. So we've gone into the lasagna. So now like you see, like this is how I am in the supermarket. I'm like. Oh, and I could put that with that and that with that and that with that, and I get so excited. And I don't know why I'm telling you this, but like that— well, maybe I do. Like, maybe that, like, that is, that is like the threads that we need to be pulling. That is like pulling the threads of each now moment of inspiration and excitement. And that's what I was just doing here with Anna. We were talking about her business and I was like, well, what about this idea? What about that idea? Because she'd sent me a strategy for it. And it's interesting because someone will write something and they might put one sentence in there that to them it's not a big thing, but when someone else's eyes see it, it like sparks inspiration. It's like, oh my God, I saw that idea, that idea is really good. And then you roll with it and you start talking about it in a different way from what they perceive it when they wrote that sentence, but it like sparks inspiration in someone else's— from someone else's perspective. Like, oh my God, I can totally see how that can work. And then, and, and then we were like just playing that back and forth, back and forth. And I love doing that. I absolutely love it. I find it so fun. And yeah, so that is like— they're the threads that we need to pull. Like that excitement when stuff is lighting you up like that—that's the point. That's what we're here to do: be lit up with inspiration and like, oh, but how cool would that be? And how cool would that? Oh, oh, and don't what about if we thought about it like that? Like like the recipes. It's like all of a sudden I've cooked like literally this would be me. I would go on a rampage around the supermarket. I would buy a gro like a cart full of groceries. Like 90% of which my kids don't even eat. I'm just one adult, like, and then I would spend all afternoon like cooking and chopping and music on and just having the best time. And then I'll get to the end and go, oh, okay, out of all those meals I just cooked, uh, my kids will eat one thing. But it didn't matter. And I was like, I am very good. And I would just freeze it in portions for me. And so then when, like, I would have food for ages. And yummy food at that too. And I'd be like, oh, I've got some white sauce left. Well, it'd be really good with that. And I'd like poach some chicken in it and then put like freeze it with the broccoli. Like anyway, I love playing that game. It's fun to me. And that's the stuff. What's your fun? What like lights you up? What brings you joy? Like what what threads do you love to pull? Like maybe it's like I know my daughter loves. Beauty tutorials and hair, and she's always like walking around the house with like her hair done up and like tied up in these things and that thing. And try like, but she loves to do that. She goes, she tries all the the beauty techniques and all the hair techniques, and she's like she'll be there like, and she'll be like I need this ingredient, this ingredient, this ingredient. I'm like okay, that's good. What's that for? And she's like making a homemade hair mask, and. Like she, and she actually does quite like cooking too, but she'll do it from like TikTok tutorials, like miniature cooking. So she had like this miniature baking set and everything was teeny and she was like, anyway, but like that brought her joy. So that's, those are the things like, what are you interested in? Like what makes you want to pull the thread and try that and gather that together and try the, like get those ingredients and make that hair mask or Like my daughter, she like— how— she just turned— Yeah. 14. She's been doing this for years and years and years, but like at the age of 13, she had bought a brow dyeing kit and a lash— she had dyed her own eyelashes. Like brows is easy because you can see what you're doing, but she had tinted with proper tint her own eyelashes at the age of 13. I'm 45 and I would never have thought to try to tint my own eyelashes. And she was like, oh yeah, it's easy, you just buy the kit off wherever, I don't know. And she did. I'm like, well, can we do mine? And so she sort of started doing them. And like, I've had them done professionally a million times, but by the time you go there to the appointment, um, like wait, have the appointment, like it just takes up too much time. Like I just use some eyeliner because I have very fair eyelashes. But now she's got this kit anyway, I should get the kit. out again. But sorry, my point is, what lights you up? Like, what, what are the threads you love to pull? Like, what do you want to investigate and try this out and do? Like, what are those things that bring you joy? Like, that, that's what you— that's what the point is. That's what you chase. You know when you get in your flow and you're just like, oh, that would be cool and that would be cool? Like, for me, I love also planning holidays. Oh my God, planning a holiday for me. And I love reading all the reviews and like TripAdvisor. Like, you'd be like, well, what's their rating on TripAdvisor? What's their rating on booking.com? Like, getting into all of the— do you know, like, I love doing that. Some people, that's their idea of hell. So I've got me and my younger sister, she loves doing that too. And we were like, we planned this big trip for my, like, our family and my cousin and his friend. This big trip around California and Coachella and stuff. And me and Lucy were just constantly on the, what do you think about this place? What do you think about that place? And, and so it's actually in the banter. So find someone that enjoys the same things as you as well, and then you get the banter of it. And so it becomes not just a trip, like it becomes like the joy of— And I suppose the supermarket, like how I said I would find all the ingredients, like That's something my father and I used to enjoy, and Luce actually too, but she's probably a little bit stricter on the, on the flow. She likes things to be just so per recipe, whereas I go very off script. Um, but it was my dad who brought that, that love of like pulling the food thread. It's like, like, like we'd find one thing in the supermarket and then it'll be like, well, what could we do with that? It's like, oh, we find this, or what could we do with that? It's like, oh my God, there's this amazing like Or we'll be like at Straddie or something, which is a big— it's an island off Queensland, and they'll have like amazing banana prawns and this like goldband snapper or something. And then we're like, oh my God, so what, like how could we cook it? Find like, like, so it's actually, it's not even in the just of the cooking, it's in the beginning. It's the thinking about it. It's like, like the brainstorming of what could we do with that? And oh yeah, that would be amazing. And oh wow, I found this like amazing coriander over here. Like, could we do like an Asian theme with fresh coriander. And do you know what I mean? Like, I'm just using examples of, of like how I like love life. Like, it's these pulling these threads. So find the threads of life that you love and find the people that love those same threads, because the joy is in the planning as much. Like, it's not just like if you just saw the cauliflower And then you're like, right, I want to make that dish with it, and you just jump to the dish being done. I think that's a bit of a metaphor for life, isn't it? It's like, but I actually enjoy the, okay, I'm gonna do cauliflower, then I could do this, I'm gonna get 5— oh, look at those eggplants, they look amazing! And then I'm gonna make a marinara sauce, and I'm gonna make this sauce and that sauce, and, and the music on while I'm cooking, and I'm chopping, and I'm like smelling, and I'm tasting, and And it's just like so fun. I do not know why I'm going on a rampage about this, but I am going on a rampage about this. Like, what are those things in your life that you love? Like, I'm trying to think what— like, my daughter. So my eldest daughter, she loves— like, she loves drawing. Like, she will sit there and like draw and create. Like, I remember this, she made one of her friends a handmade card for her birthday. And I think she sat there for 2 days coloring, like drawing little pieces of it, cutting them out, and then like sliding in them in. Like this, this card was a piece of art. Like it was so special and so thoughtful, and she was just immersed in the planning of it. She planned it out and then, then doing all the pieces of it, and then how would that go together, and like it was just Like, that is— and even like, so my son— okay, I'm just trying to give you more examples. 11:11 on the clock. More examples of this. So my son, he loves basketball, loves basketball, but he also loves watching like on— I don't know if it's TikTok or YouTube Shorts or whatever it is, but the basketball edits. So that's where they like mash up the moves with music and then with like text and And so it's sort of like these mashups. And so I noticed that he started doing his own mashups of like when he's doing like, he might do a basketball, basketball drills or something, and he'll set up this phone camera so that he can record. And then he does his own edits on himself, which like, that's because he loves to do it. So like, like what are the threads? Like what do you love? See, because everyone's so different. Like, look at that, my son loves basketball edits. Like, you wouldn't find him in the kitchen. I don't even think he'd make himself a piece of toast. Like, he'd just starve or eat something from a packet. Whereas the 2 girls were cooking. The 2 girls were cooking their own food, I think, by the age of 9. I know that seems really young, but like, they were cooking scrambled— like, cooking cooking by the age of 9. I don't know if that's a bit neglectful, I don't know. But whereas my son would— like, he would just eat out of a packet if I'm not there to feed him. He will eat Like, he wouldn't even cook toast. He wouldn't even reheat anything in the microwave. Like, it's quite mind-blowing just because he has no interest in it. Just none. So isn't that just fascinating? And sometimes my daughter— so my eldest one, she doesn't love part— like spaghetti, pasta, spaghetti bolognese, except sometimes she'll occasionally really want it, and then she'll go and cook it the way she wants to cook it, and then she loves it. I don't know, like, I, I literally— who knows why I'm talking about this right now. I'm waiting to pick my daughter up from school and I was just like, let's press record. And I did not know it was going to be a rampage on pulling the threads of what brings you delight and inspiration and fun. Like yesterday, my daughter— I think I spoke the other day about how we were, um, like start trying to like— because we've just been eating like it's been a bit boring, what we've sick of our own food basically. So we're trying to think outside of the box. And so we were just walking around the supermarket yesterday And she was looking up recipes and she was like, oh, what about that dish that I made? And anyway, I ended up being caught up, um, after I dropped them home with the groceries. I went to visit a friend for her birthday and I was caught up there for a while. Anyway, I'd come home and she'd cooked the whole meal already herself. And I was like, actually, A, so grateful because she'd even cleaned everything up and it was just there ready. And it was delicious. And I was just so excited to eat something that wasn't the same thing we've been eating nonstop. Um, and like, it was like actually just going back. Like, I think we've just been a bit in survival mode as opposed to like choosing what delights us and lights us up and brings us— like, in the kitchen, I mean. Like, I've been doing it in life but not in the kitchen. It's like— and some people, they're just never going to feel that way. Like, darling Anna, she's never going to feel that way in the kitchen. That's just not her jam. But she would Delight in going to that delicious Thai restaurant down the road, and we could choose that and that, and that's yummy and that's yummy. Um, she's always got better spice tolerance than me. Like, I'm always— whichever is the hottest, she'll have to eat most of. I'll be like, oh my God, I can't cope. Used to be really good with spice, and as I've gotten older, I just can't tolerate it as much as I used to be able to. I'm like a big wuss now. Anyway, I digress. Find those threads of joy and And pull them and, and maybe even make a conscious note. Like, if you're feeling blah or down, like, are you pulling your threads of joy? Are you chasing the, like, like, aligned inspiration? Like the inspiration— like I was the other day with the chicken and the ginger, and I really wanted the ginger. And then when I was cooking, because the girls didn't want the ginger, I nearly didn't put the ginger in. I just like, oh, I can just have it how they had it. And I went, no, you were craving ginger in this stir fry. So I get served theirs out so they wouldn't touch the ginger, and in the ginger it went. Can I say ginger any more times? Ginger, ginger, ginger. And it was like so satisfying. Like every time I bit into it and tasted that ginger, like my heart lit up. I know that seems that ginger's doing a lot, a lot of work, um, lighting up my heart that much, but This is just— this has been a 15 and like nearly 16-minute rampage, um, of pulling the threads that light you up. And if you're feeling down, like, go— like, what's your go-to threads to pull you— like, to pull you out of it? Like, what do you know you love doing? And then creating the space to allow yourself to do it. Okay, so I think that's going to be it from me about the rampage. Go find your threads. I love you lots and have a beautiful day.