Suzanne Noble explores why people develop emotional attachment after a few sexual encounters, attributing it to endorphins and hormonal spikes rather than logic. She describes the craving as an uncomfortable pull that usually fades within three days and asks older listeners if they experience the same pattern.
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Suzanne Noble: I was having a conversation the other day where they mentioned that after having sex with somebody 3 times, that it's very common to form attachments to that person and to want to see them again, even if you're no longer of the age where you procreate or can procreate. And I know when I was a younger person, if I had had sex with somebody a few times, That was definitely the case. I would just, you know, be craving to see them again. We're talking about if the sex was good, of course, not if it was rubbish. But if all the juices were flowing, the endorphins were going, it was all kicking off, everything, bells and whistles, all of that, my, you know, I would have this intense urge to connect with them, to see them again, to have sex with them again, even if I knew that they were not long-term, lifetime, whatever partners. I would just want that. And I suspect there is something in that, even as an older person, that there is something in the repetitive nature of seeing somebody a few times where you just think, ooh, I quite fancy that, and I would quite like that to happen again, even if you know that it's not going anywhere, it's probably a bad idea, and there's all sorts of reasons why it's kind of stupid. But nevertheless, the— something's going on in your body that's going, yeah, yeah, but that was kind of fun, that was kind of nice. And I'm curious to know, all you older people out there, is that true for you? Do you find that, you know, it takes a few times to have that feeling of desire, which for me always dissipates after about 3 days. I have to say that this feeling I'm talking about, it's a short-term feeling, and mostly I just tell myself that and just get on with my life. But, you know, it's slightly, yeah, it's slightly uncomfortable and just a little bit annoying when you know that essentially it's just your body, not your brain, not anything that's rational. Your completely irrational side of yourself that's making all of these suggestions that are probably pretty dumb.
