A guide to anal sex for older adults emphasizing relaxation and control. Start with a small butt plug or fingers, use generous silicone or water-based lubricant, breathe deeply, and let the receiver set the pace. Side-lying positions work best, and full relaxation may take multiple sessions.
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Let's talk about anal sex for older adults, and this is a comfort-first guide. When it comes to anal sex, it's all about comfort, it's all about relaxation, and most importantly, it's all about the receiver setting the pace. I cannot stress that enough. I've had quite a lot of experience in this area thanks to having a couple of partners that were really into it, and I learned a lot through being with them. And the main thing is about relaxation, because relaxation matters more than force. You have to be relaxed, and it can take time to be relaxed because, let's face it, it doesn't feel natural to start with. But what you can do to feel more relaxed is basically to set the pace, to go really, really slow. And you might want to start by actually not starting with a penis, but actually starting with a small butt plug. By small, I mean really small, or even just using your fingers, because what you want is you want that muscle to relax enough to be able to receive, and it can take a while for that muscle to relax. The second thing that is super, super important is using a generous amount of lube. If you're not using condoms, then you can use silicone lube. If you are using condoms, then you need to use water-based lube. But you need to start by just relaxing that external area before you start working on that internal area. And you want lots and lots and lots of lube. Third thing is start anytime. This is about your comfort and your pleasure as much as your partner's, so you need to set the pace. And one thing that can help you to set the pace is deep breathing, because by inhaling lots of oxygen, you're gonna oxygenate that blood and it's gonna make it easier for you to relax. So that's gonna make it easier for you to warm up, it's gonna make it easier for you to feel comfortable, and it's gonna make it easier for you to to receive. So the actionable steps are: you want to warm up really slowly. This is about taking your time. This is not about going fast. This is about taking your time and becoming very, very, very relaxed. It may take a few sessions before you feel relaxed. The second thing is ask for consent. Your partner should be asking for consent at every stage, and you should be telling him, go slow, stop, remove, start again. You should be setting the pace. The other thing that I find works really well is just side-lying position. It just is a lot more comfortable if you have no experience. It's a lot easier to receive. It's a lot easier to set the pace. And overall, it just feels a lot more comfortable. So remember, lots and lots and lots of lube. Warm up slowly. Consent at every stage. If you're not telling, then you are asking. Your partner, is this comfortable? And sideline positions can help. If you found this video helpful, then please click subscribe, and I have a weekly newsletter available at sexadviceforseniors.com.
