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Any sexual act has to be done with a sense of enthusiasm

21 Aug 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that enthusiasm is the most crucial factor in performing oral sex, specifically blowjobs. They claim that both partners value genuine enjoyment over reluctant participation, noting that most men appreciate women who are eager to engage. While acknowledging that technique matters, the speaker suggests enthusiasm can outweigh technical skill because an eager partner can be taught. The discussion emphasizes that lack of enthusiasm signals non‑consent, making the act unenjoyable for everyone, and stresses the importance of consensual, enthusiastic participation for sexual satisfaction.

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The thing about blowjobs is they have to be done with a sense of enthusiasm. I think that is generally agreed, that nobody likes to receive a blowjob when they feel that it's being done reluctantly, that the other person isn't enjoying it. And pretty much every man that I've ever spoken to has said that a woman who is enthusiastic about going down is the kind of person that they really appreciate when it comes to that particular activity because they don't want to be forced to force anybody to do that. And they just want somebody who's really enthusiastic. And also, you know, has some good technique. Let's face it, technique is also important. But I think in some ways enthusiasm trumps technique, can trump technique. Because once you realize that someone's enthusiastic, you can teach them how to be better. But of course, if they're not enthusiastic, then you're very reluctant to, because you realize it's not really something that they want to be doing or they really desire. And in that case, you just feel like it's not consensual. And let's face it, if it's not consensual, then it's no fun for anybody.