Breaking Down Lube Shaming

Let's talk about lube shaming, shall we? Lube shaming is when somebody, often a woman, tells me, "Oh, I don't need lube because I get wet enough." Everybody needs lube. I don't care how old you are or how young you are. Lube should be in your bedside cabinet. Lube makes everything feel better because lube adds that slipperiness that we all enjoy. And of course, nobody likes to be feeling that friction, which can often lead to pain during penetrative sex. My favorite lube is one by Yes! It's totally organic. And the one that I like is a water-based one because I just like the texture of it. I like the stickiness of it. And I just like it because when you're using condoms, It's the best kind of lube that you can use. Of course, you can't use a silicone-based lube when you're using condoms because they can deteriorate the latex. Similarly, with sex toys, things like silicone-based lubes are also not advised. So if you want to use lube with sex toys or with condoms, then you're going to want one water-based. And generally avoid some of the lubes that have a nasty ingredient in it the prime one being glycerin, which can often lead to thrush. So you really need to check your lube and to see what's inside it. I'll publish a list of all the nasty ingredients in the comments that you should avoid, but generally look for an organic lube that doesn't contain glycerin. Aside from just providing that slipperiness, um, lube can really help in circumstances where there is no lubrication. And of course, of course, course, what I'm talking about is the back door, because, you know, there is no lubrication that goes on back there. So when you're going up the back door, if that's something that you enjoy, then you're going to need lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of lube, because it's just going to make it a lot easier, it's going to feel a lot better, and in my estimation, you can never have too much lube when you're going up the back door. I think guys will agree with me on that one as well. More lube, the better. Um, when it comes to the other areas, as I said, lube just makes everything slippery, makes it feel good. And if you're an older woman like me, and you know, we get vaginal walls thinning down there through menopause, then of course lube is absolutely essential to prevent pain. So again, use lube. And what I really don't want to hear is the lube shaming that says we don't need lube, because there's nothing wrong with using lube. There is absolutely nothing wrong. And that's the other thing, of course, is that if you're a man and things get a bit dry down there and you think, you know, lube would really help, either just grab the lube yourself and apply it to your penis and carry on, or just say, "Oh, you know, let's use a bit more lube." Because one of the things that I've discovered is that sometimes if someone says, "Oh, it's getting a bit dry down there," that can make me feel a little bit ashamed about, you know, the fact I'm older and feel a bit inadequate. So when a man takes control and he just grabs the lube and he just applies it, just shows me, you know what, he's thinking about me. He's thinking about my own pleasure, and he just wants to make everything feel better. So I would say if you're a guy and you're having penetrative sex and it gets a little bit, you know, dry, just grab the lube, man. You don't have to like tell the woman, oh, it's getting dry. Just grab the lube, use it, and carry on, because I just think that's quite sexy and nice. You don't have to actually reinforce any feelings of shame that us older women might have about the fact that we don't get as wet as we used to when we were younger. So take control when it comes to the lube. Um, of course there are other lubricants that you can use. Coconut oil is another one. I would just say if you are going to go for that one, make sure that it's super, super high quality because some of the store-bought coconut oils do have some nasty ingredients chucked in them that you don't want to be inserting in your vagina. So if you are going to use a natural lubricant like coconut oil, just make sure that it's super high quality. Yes, actually produce a coconut-based product as well that I can recommend. So that's another one that you might want to check out. I know some people say almond oil as well. Again, with the oils, if you're using condoms, that's, uh, not going to be recommended because it's going to break down the latex. So you won't want to be using coconut oil or almond oil with condoms. If you are going to be using natural oils like that, just make sure that they are super high quality and they don't have any other junk chucked in them because that's not recommended. For me, as I said, it's the YES! water-based lube. I really love it. I've got a bit of a discount code I can give you as well that I'll stick in the comments. Um, but never underestimate the power of lube. Lube is essential. I won't have any lube shaming going on. I will not hear of it. It just pisses me off. I say yes, yes, more lube please. Just feels so good.