Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Bringing sex toys into the bedroom

31 Dec 2022 · 2 min

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In this monologue, the speaker discusses the complexities of introducing sex toys into romantic relationships. She shares personal experience using sex toys and notes that some partners—particularly men—may feel threatened, interpreting the use of a vibrator as a sign they are inadequate or replaceable. She highlights that older women may rely on toys for additional stimulation, framing them as supplemental help rather than a replacement. The speaker emphasizes that the key to successful integration is honest, open communication that reassures the partner of their value while explaining the need for extra assistance, especially in new relationships where expectations are still forming.

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Let's talk about sex toys and relationships. I suspect a few of you have had some experience using sex toys, and I know over the course of my sexual life I have used sex toys and encountered some people for whom sex toys were a real no-no. Some men especially who thought that every time I brought out a little vibrator, it meant that they were no longer required, and they didn't understand that sometimes, especially as an older woman, you might need a little bit of extra help, and that's where sex toys can be really great. But bringing them into your relationship can be a little bit challenging, especially if it's a new relationship and you're just getting familiar with one another and suddenly you ask to pull this thing out, this little vibrator, and the person that you're with might think that, as I said, um, that means they're not doing a good enough job. And having that conversation around needing a bit of extra help can be challenging, but like everything else, It's just about being honest about what's going on and not making the other person feel that their presence isn't adding something that the vibrator isn't able to do.