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Can Men And Women Be Friends ? - Sex Advice For Seniors

18 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker responds to a video by Peter that argues men struggle to maintain platonic friendships with women because of a constant sexual drive he calls the "lower brain." The speaker shares his own perspective, emphasizing that genuine friendship begins with genuine liking of a person’s company, regardless of gender, and that sexual attraction does not have to dominate the relationship. He describes his practice of transitioning former romantic partners into platonic friends after a period of separation, noting that he values keeping exes in his life because he simply likes them as people. While acknowledging this approach may not suit everyone, he advocates for the healthiness of maintaining friendships with ex‑partners when the underlying respect and affection remain.

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Peter did a video the other day about can men and women be friends, or does something sexual always get in the way? And his view was that men find it very difficult to be friends with women because their lower brain, as I like to call it, is always, you know, trying to get in there and trying to turn it into something sexual when perhaps the woman doesn't want that to happen and just wants to be friends. I know for me that I'm friends best friends, in fact, with somebody that I went out with for a number of years. And I always like people to start with, even if it eventually turns into something sexual. It has to start with me actually liking them, liking their company, and that never really goes away. It may be that the relationship doesn't work out for whatever reason, but my feelings towards them and the reason why I got together with them in the first place was because I just like them and I like their company. And when things end, yes, I think it's healthy to have a period of separation during which you perhaps transition your relationship from that intimate relationship into something that's more platonic. But for me, I really enjoy doing that and keeping that person in my life. I know that it's not for everybody, but for me, I, I like being friends with my exes because at the heart of it I just like them as people.